Corey's Funeral Expenses

Corey  Alexander (Xan West), our beloved friend and fellow author, passed away suddenly and unexpectedly in their home. Corey  was a beloved member of many communities, including but not limited to the Romance and Erotica writing community and the SFF writing community, and they were a fierce advocate for disabled, autistic, queer, trans writers as well as marginalized writers in general. They were a kind and generous supporter and nurturer of other writers, and a talented and influential writer themself. Corey's fiction and nonfiction were groundbreaking.

In addition to their writing and advocacy, Corey spent twenty years working in the field of intimate violence (particularly sexual assault and intimate partner violence) in a variety of roles, as a hotline and shelter volunteer, and a volunteer community educator. Corey has been devoted to creating community sexuality and kink education for queer and kink communities. Their sudden tragic death is a huge blow.

I am R.B. Lemberg, and I am one of Corey's closest friends. I am fundraising on their behalf to give them a dignified burial at a Jewish cemetery in the Bay Area, with a service led by a trans rabbi. 

Our final expenses are unclear at the moment, since there are many  logistical hurdles  to overcome, but we anticipate:

$7000 approx. - burial plot, plaque, urn and everything else associated with burial.
$500 - rabbinical services
$1500 - cushion for accidental expenses, legal, and estate-related expenses (amounts TBA)

We will account for all funds received transparently.

We anticipate running into unexpected expenses, so please give generously. Any excess will be donated to charities representing causes that were near and dear to Corey’s name; we will be designating where any overage goes sometime in the next few weeks, once we have a better handle on costs and income. 

Donations (315)

  • Talya Sokoll
    • $25 
    • 3 yrs
  • Anonymous
    • $25 
    • 3 yrs
  • Cynthia Slemaker
    • $30 
    • 3 yrs
  • Jendi Reiter
    • $50 
    • 3 yrs
  • Meleika Gesa
    • $30 
    • 3 yrs


R.B. Lemberg
Lawrence, KS

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