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Hi, my name is Jamie. I never thought in a million years I would be be in the situation I am in at almost 46 years old. Awhile back my 8 year olds dad and I broke up. It became messy and there were a lot of court proceedings and lawyer fees along the way. We had bought a house together back in 2017 and were in the middle of hashing out all the particulars with accumulated credit card bills/house/ect.. I'm sure my best ever mother's day present is with the girlfriend. so back to court we go for more hearings. Back in July where I got emergency sole custody of her. Needless to say, the struggle has been real trying to maintain a household by myself with three kids. I have been at my same job for over 23 years and do some cleaning on the side because I was not getting the court ordered support I was supposed to and about 4 months ago everything just started to go wrong. My hot water tank went a little over two months ago, the same day the gas company was in my basement drilling my foundation to put my meter from the inside to the outside. I am buying my house off of a very nice woman who has been VERY VERY understanding with me though everything the last year and I only owe her $5,500 and it will be all mine. But doing this "rent to own" type deal I keep getting denied from LIHEAP and pretty much every other "assistance" program there is because even though I am responsible for everything in the house, utilities and the renovations (it was built in the 1800's) everything is breaking, walls are literally crumbling and it all falls on me because I bought it as is. I wasn't informed of the lead pipe for the main water line which i will have to replace along with a downstairs shower that was installed wrong and the wood underneath is rotting bc the drain wasn't sealed correctly when they insalled it. Its not insulated at all either..which i wasn't informed of. It has a newer roof..but later i found out that they indeed did put a new roof..over at least 4 layers of old roof! So there is alot of things i found out after i moved in and started working on the house.
When we first broke up he said that he would help me fix up a place I decided on and make it a safe environment for our daughter (he owned a construction company) but eveything got ugly when I wouldn't sign the house we bought together in 2017 over to him. I was getting Food assistance but since my 18yo daughter started working they took that away as well. Then on August 22nd, my daughters father passed away. To be honest, if you told me 2 months ago I would be this devastated that he passed I would have called you a liar! 30K in credit card debt, over $8,000 in lawyer fees all the emotional damage caused by our toxic relationship to our children. But at the end of the day I was forced to remember the first 4 years (of 8) of our relationship that was filled with so much love for each other and the most precious gift of all, our beautiful daughter Quinn. It has been heart wrenching watching her go though this tragic loss at such a young age. I need to be a better person for her, I need to get everything better for all my kids, I just cant manage that at this point with the added expenses of another house on my hands ( we still owe over 68,0000) Now slammed with another mortgage payment on top of my own house payment. I know I have to sell it at this point but its the address we use for her school and it's in much better shape then my current home. My goal was to fix up my current home and than later on possibly rent it out for extra income if I ever found a house I could afford in her school district. I just need a little help getting back on track. I know everyone has their own issues going on and I really am not expecting too much to come of this little cry for help but I am trying to make it a little better. Thank you for taking the time to read this if you did.
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Jamie Fox
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Johnstown, PA