Prostate Cancer, and helping my family

I have Known Paul for over 40 years, we first met in High school back in 1977, never thought it would lead to a friendship that would stem 4 decades, I also never thought I’d be writing this story to bring awareness to Prostate cancer and to ask for help in giving Paul the funds he needs to continue to take care of himself and his family.

 

This is a bit about Pauls life and how through many struggles he’s managed to raise 6 boys as well as allowing others having problems to move in , by himself.

 

My wife walked out on me and our 6 boys with my best friend seven years ago, the youngest only 8 , 9 & 12 at the time , so I had to step away from my trucking business to look after my children ... I have recently found out late November 2021 I have a rare form of very aggressive prostate cancer and was advised by the surgeon when he done the biopsy he found two different prostate cancers one rare and aggressive and the other one is a normal prostate cancer, he gave me no hope and told me the only thing I can do is just enjoy the rest of my life, I’m not the type of person to give up easily , and never believe anything is hopeless.

 

My concern is and always has been for my boys which is why I'm writing this, I have spent my whole life looking after my family which on occasions lead to an extended family as my children grew older, I never had the time for myself because taking care of my children was a fulltime job and it was what made/makes me happy and I wouldn't do anything any different

I have always worked since leaving school so its hard to ask for help like this, but my personal concerns are not what happens to me, but what happens to my family.

 

All my close friends and family know the life I've had and the problems I’ve been through, but I kept pushing ahead with a smile . I had to, as my boys are everything to me. I can only give a snapshot of the life I've had and hopefully it resonates with you.

 

I was happily married for 27years and was blessed with 6 beautiful boys until my now ex-wife decided to live with my best mate in Oct 2014 walking out on our six boys and I, but I said if she felt she needed to go I wasn't going to stop her and amicably helped her pack ... She told me she still loved me as she was walking out of the house for the last time ... Our boys haven't spoken to their mother for over 5 years which I have not encouraged ... I've always believed a boy needs their mother

 

6 months after ex-wife moved in with my ex-mate for some reason this person whom I thought was a friend decided to go to my property that he and I had been working on for 18 years and he burnt down everything we built and left me with nothing, Karma gave him third degree burns to 54% of his body ... He received 2 years gaol but was out in 15 months, He owes me $375,000 which I've tried to get off him, but I have come to the conclusion I'll never see a cent of it, leaving me emotionally and financially ruined. This would have been something I could have left my boys to help them continue.

 

As soon as my boys mother left I put my 3 youngest who were 8, 9 and 12 into MMA now they are 15, 16 and 19 years old and my two youngest are junior 2nd degree black belts and my 19 year old received his senior black belt in Hapkido with me in June 2021 when we graded together. They have also started doing Brazilian jujitsu, I am so proud of my boys.

 

Nothing has made me happier than helping other people, I’ve always believed whatever you give out you’ll get back, I saved my daughters-in-law’s life when she had a massive asthma attack and died in the caravan in the back yard.

I have surprised people with money when they have needed it (without them asking) .. Always offer my services if someone needs a hand without needing to be asked.

Took my third eldest son's 15 year old mate into the house because he was getting bashed by his uncle he stayed for 7 years but was reluctantly forced to leave Australia and go back to New Zealand because my boys mother told the council he was living in the garage which caused me to have to turn the garage back into a garage which is also what caused my boys not to speak to their mother ..

Drove to Melbourne only a couple of years ago to sit by my favourite sister's side in palliative care because she was always there for me, holding her hand from Friday to Sunday till she passed.

When one of my school friends put a post-up on Facebook that seemed a little weird I questioned her about it and talked to her from the point on realising that she had given up on life 3 months later this lovely lady posted up on Facebook the most beautiful letter stating how if I had not of spoke to her when I did she would have committed suicide and I had helped her to realise just how much her life is so precious, she told me I had done in 3 months what over 10 years of seeing psychologists , psychiatrists , friends and family couldn't do, it was very humbling for me.

I paid for a ladies groceries when she'd forgotten her money when they have needed it (without them asking) .. Always offer my services if someone needs a hand without needing to be asked.

Took my third eldest son's 15 year old mate into the house because he was getting bashed by his uncle he stayed for 7 years but was reluctantly forced to leave Australia and go back to New Zealand because my boys mother told the council he was living in the garage which caused me to have to turn the garage back into a garage which is also what caused my boys not to speak to their mother ..

Drove to Melbourne only a couple of years ago to sit by my favourite sister's side in palliative care because she was always there for me, holding her hand from Friday to Sunday till she passed.

When one of my school friends put a post-up on Facebook that seemed a little weird I questioned her about it and talked to her from the point on realising that she had given up on life 3 months later this lovely lady posted up on Facebook the most beautiful letter stating how if I had not of spoke to her when I did she would have committed suicide and I had helped her to realise just how much her life is so precious, she told me I had done in 3 months what over 10 years of seeing psychologists , psychiatrists , friends and family couldn't do, it was very humbling for me.

I paid for a ladies groceries when she'd forgotten her money also offered to pay for another ladies groceries at other times ... I love seeing their faces ..

Took my other sister to appointments to find out she had lung cancer which was not easy due to her agoraphobia.

 

My good friend John from school called me one day in 2020 he needed his lovely mother and her little puppy driven from Townsville Nth Qld to Gosford on the NSW central coast where I never hesitated giving him the ok that I was happy to do it.

 

My son has a friend who his friend (19) and his girlfriend (20) were abusively kicked out of their houses because their parents found out they were in a relationship I took them in and are still happily living in my home and call me dad and wrote the most beautiful Christmas card, I could go on, but it was just to give a small insight into my life.

Even if you’re not able to help financially I would appreciate it if you could share this as much as possible I need to give my lovely boys a chance to stay in the house they grew up in.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and Even to this day I wake up with a smile on my face I don't let anything get me down I refuse to get depressed and will be fighting this cancer as best I can Thank you

 

Truthfully l need a LOT more than I'm asking for on here but l feel guilty enough asking for anything

Whether you could donate $5 $10 or $20 it all adds up

Please share with your family and friends I would be very grateful 

 

Thank you