Baby Blob September 2020
As you might guess from the photo, I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with Baby Bump #2 (due date of 21/3/21) It was a bit of a suprise but we are happy, Ivan is super excited and we're all looking forward to things to come. However, we need your help in order to welcome baby into the world!
Thanks to the amazing NHS, 5 years ago I was lucky enough to have a textbook water birth in the LGI with twinkly lights on the ceiling, and midwives that respected my birth plan without question. Since then, I've had my heart set on a home birth with my second. Home birth is not a service offered by the public Portuguese healthcare system, but there are many reasons why we feel it's something we need to do, despite the cost.
Boy and Bump - December 2020
Primarily, the infection control measures at place in the hospitals means that Samuel would not be allowed to be present at the birth or to visit me in the hospital, until I was ready to go home. We are also still shielding Samuels grandparents, so it makes sense to reduce contact with medical professionals as much as feasibly possible. I've also heard enough horror stories from friends here to know that a hospital birth in Portugal is dictated by some fairly outdated practices (male consultant care, stirrups, unnecessary interventions, all or nothing pain relief - never mind the language and cultural barriers!) So quite frankly, the idea of giving birth alone in such an unfamiliar situation makes me anxious, very anxious.
Thankfully there is an alternative, but we need your help to make it possible We have been recommended a lovely Dutch independent midwife called Els, who is super reassuring and has a deep respect for the birthing process. But she comes at a price (that we can't afford )
Els' midwife package is 4x prenatal vists (@€40 each) the home birth (@€1000) and 4x antenatal visits (@€40 each) = €1320 I don't resent her costs as she is fully qualified, has lots of experience, and the unpredictable nature of babies means she's can't double book herself. Plus, she lives 30km away, so even a home visit of an hour or so will take up half her day!
When Ivan was sent to us, 'the universe' provided us with everything we could possibly need in the form of gifts and donations from family, friends and even strangers. We have kept almost all of these things, and after it's safe delivery, the baby will need very little.
So if you're somebody that would ordinarily buy a little baby outfit to celebrate a new life coming into the world, or if you have a good deed to pay forward (or are just feeling flush!), we would so grateful if you could put a small donation in our HomeBirth pot.
We have have put the 'goal' amount as the total cost of the midwife's care. We do not expect it to reach that total but, in my experience, if you are 'asking the universe' to provide something you need to be really clear about what you are asking for. So, 'universe', it would be really nice to not have such a big bill looming over our heads, please And of course, this GoFundMe is just one potential trickle, we are also exploring the potential of government assistance, as well as Samuel plugging away trying to work as much as possible (he's already booked up with jobs well into next year!) But time is ticking on and our pot is pretty empty so far ⏳
In return for your most generous donations I/we pledge to Pay It Forward by...
-updating my profile photo to recent one (for curious folk) as my current is almost 10 years old
-add bump photos as time progresses. I don't have many so far as I'm always in DIY clothes, as we're doing a big push to try to get most physical building work out of the way before my 3rd trimester
Practicing tile cutting November 2020
-unlimited baby spam on our private Quinta Dinis Facebook page (if you're not added already and want to be, just PM to ask) I might even do one of those month by month updates if anybody is even interested
-share the biological sex if/when we decided to find out (it's currently in a sealed envelope) ♂️♀️
Ivans Cards October 2020
-a promise to donate to https://pregnancytwinning.org/give/ when possible. It's a charity which pays for medical costs for a pregnant women in Africa. Initially, I'd like to 'twin' the pregnancy but a time in the future when our finances are a little more stable, I would love to commit to the 1000dreams programme which supports the whole family for 2 years after the birth.
-commenting with relevant advice, experience or support on as many new baby/breastfeeding posts as possible (on UK based Facebook groups) while I'm trapped under a sleeping baby in the first couple of months❓
-eventually, training in and providing free breastfeeding peer support in the local area (as far as I can tell services are basically non-existent, which is reflected in low breastfeeding rates that mostly stop at 4 months when maternity leave ends and mums return to work)
-feel free to suggest anything I haven't thought of!
Thank you in advance
All our best ✨
Ellie, Samuel, Ivan and Baby Bump #2
6 year anniversary August 2020
- Maxine Simpson
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- Teo Turner
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