Please Help With End-of-Life Expenses

I should start by reassuring everyone that my mom is resting peacefully, comfortably, and surrounded with love. 

Many are wondering, "what happened?". 

Back pain lead to a physical and abnormal lab findings, just three weeks ago. On December 10th my mom called me saying she was really in a lot of pain and that the doctor wanted her to go to the hospital. 

I immediately drove down to accompany her, and by the next morning we received news of a mass on her pancreas. Further tests showed masses on her liver and in lymph nodes in her chest, and her compassionate internal medicine doctor delivered the news as my mom wanted: no false hope. 

The doctor admitted that he believed it to be pancreatic cancer, and that the road ahead would be difficult. Other doctors came and went and we arrived at a life expectancy of 3-5 months. With the metastatic findings, she was not a candidate for surgery and chemo would only hope to marginally extend life expectancy. 

My mom and I have always been pretty clear about this subject to each other - quality over quantity. 

We shared a beautiful week last week, and while difficult, her pain was managed well and she was able to return home for a few days. She had a peaceful resolve, and was very accepting and unafraid. What a beautiful gift that was. 

By Friday the 17th, mom was still unable to eat and the pain was again intensifying. Although hospice was remarkably attentive to our every need at home, we decided she would come to the Hope Hospice house on Friday evening so that we could resume effective pain management and control other related symptoms. 

By late friday evening mom's pain was again under control and she was offering sweet words of encouragement to those around her. 

Mom has remained unconscious since Sunday evening, shortly after she lit up with excitment over the visit of her grandson Haidyn and his mom, Melissa. It was a beautiful moment, and she even sang a christmas tune. 

There was a brief period of total lucidity wherein I was telling her I loved her and that I had to run home for a minute. Mom opened her eyes, looked at me and said, "ok baby, just know that if I'm not here when you get back, I will be able to see you always."

I believe that to be true.