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Hi, my name is Liv, I've been trying my hardest to put money aside for my final two surgeries as part of my transition but I was recently made homeless back in November as a result of being forced to escape a very abusive situation with my family which meant I was unofficially staying with my boyfriend in student accommodation until the landlord realised I was there and told me I needed to leave with little warning which forced me to come back and seek out the local council's help.
As a result of this, the funds I had saved for the surgery are being quicky depleted by the day-to-day expenses of living in a hotel, I do not have cooking facilities or a fridge to store food in, I am having to rely on a laundrette day-to-day to wash my clothes as I do not have access to a washing machine, I have also had to emergency order my HRT in bulk due to a recent access scare, alongside this, I have recently been able to finally see my GP again after three years but he is some distance away from my accommodation which is incurring further costs as the familiarity has meant I have been able to see very quickly and been prescribed medication very quickly as he is quite familiar with me, this is also why I haven't been seen by a different GP closer to where I am currently staying.
I am also having to pay a lot of money for my boyfriend to be allowed to come down to help me with day-to-day tasks relating to my disability and the current situation (train costs and hotel room costs) as due to the rules set out by my local council for emergency accommodation, guests aren't permitted to stay over and this has caused quite a problem for me as he helps with a lot meaning I am having to spend hundreds of pounds just on a room for him so that he is able to help me and we are able to spend time together as they are very strict on this rule and are unfortunately unwilling to make any exceptions.
All of this day-to-day is rapidly draining the funds I had put aside for the surgery very quickly and I'm now at a point where I am getting extremely worried that it won't be able to happen, especially as when I am finally able to obtain a place to live, they are all asking for weeks of rent upfront which will deplete any and all funds I would have left alongside the costs of needing to buy various appliances as all of the flats/houses in question are unfurnished and this will likely cost hundreds of pounds within itself.
The situation as it stands has me incredibly stressed out as I'm trying to save what I can for the surgery but what little I have left is quickly being drained and will almost certainly be gone as I am unsure how long the current situation will be going on for and it currently feels as though it's never-ending
The surgery in question is one that would have immeasurable mental benefit in terms of relieving dysphoria as it pertains to something I got quite unlucky with genetics-wise due to being severely underweight (not through lack of trying, my GP intends to do blood tests to investigate what the cause of this is as it is causing problems) no matter what I eat or how much of it and this has only intensified my dysphoria as years have gone on, finally reaching this goal would take off immeasurable amounts of stress in day-to-day life not just in terms of mental relief but also physical as I have to wear something not too dissimilar to a binder which constricts my breathing as it pushes back against my chest when I walk around which causes me to be out-of-breath quite quickly - not having to wear this anymore would make life so much easier, especially now that we're getting into the summer months wherein I am already quite sensitive to heat and having to wear it 24/7 makes things worse in this regard.
I realise this is quite a long shot because everybody is struggling right now but the purpose of this fundraiser is something I never wanted to do as I've always tried to do things off my own back where possible even in my current situation as I don't like having to rely on other people for anything financially-related and have tried to avoid it but I fear I have been faced with a situation where my dream has never looked further and further out of reach and especially when I'd already managed to make progress with it only for that progress to be drained by circumstances outside of my control, it has been very distressing so this is basically to try and take the stress off my shoulders so that I'm not having to worry about my surgery fund being depleted at the same time as keeping up with all the day-to-day stresses from being currently homeless and that I can have that security and peace of mind that it will happen.
I have also applied for various grants in the past in relation to this from charities but was not successful due to the grants being highly competitive.
I have also been trying since 2021 to get a job so I could do all of this off my own back but I have never been successful in spite of trying so many different things suggested to me (interview training, CV workshops, volunteering, the list unfortunately goes on) I have sent thousands of applications and have gotten nowhere even today so this has become a final resort for me that I never wanted to turn to.
If you're able to please help at all, even by just sending a pound or anything then it'll make all the difference, I appreciate this is probably the longest long shot to ever long shot in history but I've run out of options and I am incredibly stressed so if there's even the slightest chance you might be willing to help at all then it would mean the world to me and when I am back on my own two feet with firm stability then I would like to begin to return the favour.
I'm sorry again for all the bother, I really didn't want to have to do this, thank you for taking the time to read this.


