Please help get Grant get the after care he needs

Hi, let me start by introducing myself, my name is Aimee, I'm 35, and I am here to try and raise funds for my husbands post surgery care.

Grant, my husband, went through invasive surgery on Friday 2nd December 2022 at a government hospital here in Cape Town, South Africa. The initial surgery was to remove his tumour infected rectum and the attach his colon to his anus, his colon would then learn the habits of being a colon and he could continue his passions of CrossFit and Surfing with out having to run to the toilet every 10 minutes and live his life normally, like any 30 something year old should.

This first surgery went well. The surgeon even mentioned how strangely problem free it was. Our families and Grant were not surprised. He is a 35 year old with a love of weightlifting, CrossFit and surfing, we walk our dog together regularly and his ONLY sickness he had was his cancerous tumour, his oncologist was even confused about how he could get this disease, and so aggressively being diagnosed in April (a week before his 35th birthday) at Stage 3.

We thought everything was going to be fine, the surgeon placed Grant in a ward post operation as he didn’t need to take up a precious bed in ICU, he was THAT ok. I visited him on Saturday and spoke to him and he seemed woozy sure, but his body was going through a lot, Sunday his parents went through and saw him, and said once again he seemed ok, he was chatting and even sending me pictures of what he wanted to buy for his office (he is also a keen gamer...) for when he got out of hospital a few days later. About 15mins after his parents left at around 4:40pm, his temp came back at 38degrees celsius, they took his blood and sent it off for testing, the results were meant to come back that night. 6pm he mentions one of his incisions is infected, the doctor noticed it. I’m not sure if he ever got put on antibiotics or not but that night turned into the worst night of his life. He was given more morphine and ketamine before drifting off to sleep I'm guessing around 9:30pm. I didn’t speak to him again, though as a wife i knew something was up but tried to not let my mind go to 'that' place.

Monday morning, 2am, his mother, Bev, who lives next door to us, comes into my bedroom and tells me to come quick, they need help. He had messaged his mum at 1:40am saying ‘I’m in trouble’. She quickly filled me in on his message and that she had called him and he was in so much pain and no one was helping him. We later find out he was on his knees, in a ward corridor, begging for help and no one was helping, the night nurse offered him pills and when he declined (his food that he had eaten was coming out of the drainage tube) they just walked away. Bev was calling every one in the hospital and eventually got through to the matron who sent him help immediately. Grant went into emergency surgery before 5am Monday morning.

The staples holding the colon to the anus had freed themselves so his body was quickly poisoning him. He had internal sepsis.

He is now in ICU and will stay there unless we manage to get the funding to get him to a private facility. Since arriving in ICU he hasn’t been able to sleep a night through, is on heavy painkillers of morphine and ketamine so is hallucinating and has itchy/sensitive skin. His heart rate is 97+ BPM (remember this is a fit, strong 35 year old who has competed at regional levels for CrossFit and was requested to join the Commonwealth weightlifting team for South Africa), he has a permanent fever and once again, has a bad infection of the new emergency incision down his abdomen. When I visited him yesterday, 6th Dec at 3pm, the wounds needed cleaning and new bandages placed on him, when I left at 4:45pm those bandages were still needing to be changed, and they were now green.

If I don’t get him out of that hospital he will not survive. I heard again this morning that he had a bad nights sleep so still is suffering with a fever and elevated HR. I don’t know what to do anymore.

UPDATED!! We are not allowed to move Grant from his current ICU as instructed by the first surgeon. Donations are going towards his after care. We will be transparent with every pence and pound if anyone requests.