I'm Dais (they/them), often also affectionately known to my queer family by my Drag King persona Daddy Pecs or even just Daddy Dais. I'm 29, approaching 30 and I've got an absolutely massive chest.
I've finally allowed myself to dream that top surgery is something I can have.
When I was younger, I used to get so frustrated that I wasn't allowed to do the things that the 'boys' were allowed to do. I used to ask my mum 'why can't I be a boy?' and somewhat helpfully she responded 'you can when you're older'. She wasn't wrong.
Gender is nuanced and messy and growing up in the 2010s was literally WILD. Its taken me a long time settle in my trans masc identity and to feel like this is something I can actually do.
I think in approaching 30 I realised I didn't want to mourn the 'I wish I'd realised that sooner' and the 'maybe I've left it too late' thoughts anymore and instead wanted to look forward to a possibility of feeling peace in my body.
So earlier this year I decided, get a move on with it Dais.
With gender affirming services in the UK on the NHS having been eroded by this right wing government and a waiting list that's years long, I will be going private for this surgery.
The price I have been quoted for the surgery is £8850
I will need a further £200-400 for consultations
And I've created a buffer in case of me being unable to work during recovery as I am a freelancer. Creating a funding goal of £10,000.
I've saved nearly £3000 by taking on extra work and I've decided that I'm going to combine my 30th birthday party on February 16th 2024 with a Top Surgery Fundraiser with a whole host of amazing drag family. We're aiming to raise £5000 at that event and tickets will go on sale in January 2024.
So that leaves me hopefully just £2000 to raise, which is what I have set the target as for anyone who wants to donate who can't come to the fundraiser and generous folks who find this page through my queer family. Potentially you found this page through our Pecsmas programme, in which case thank you so much for coming to the show.
Should I raise more than I need, I'll donate this to other top surgery fundraisers.
Thank you for reading this far, I have spent my working life trying to support Queer and Trans folks and so I hope you can now help me give myself the best 30th Birthday gift ever.
With love and solidarity,
P.S. When I recently told my mum I wanted this surgery she replied "I always felt through my whole pregnancy I was going to have another boy, and now I know why"