Nita's fertility medical bill assistance

I am starting this campaign on behalf of a dear friend, Nita, who just wanted to be a mom, but unfortunately, her IVF journey to motherhood was cut short. The goal amount of this Go Fund Me is to cover the approximate cost of her IVF journey; which included donor sperm, medications and injections, monitoring, egg harvest, intracytoplasmic sperm injection, assisted hatching, pre-genetic testing, one transfer of a viable embryo, and the cost for the DNC when she lost her little girl.

Please read her story below:

"For as long as I can remember, I’ve dreamed about being a mother. After turning 40, I knew that my window of opportunity to do so was narrowing. I decided to stop waiting on “Mr. Right” and pursue my dream on my own. With the love and support of my family and friends, I began my journey in November 2021 with an OB appointment and referral to a fertility clinic. After initial testing, all things looked promising. But due to my age, the doctor recommended I go straight to IVF because success rates are higher. Unfortunately, my health insurance does not cover fertility treatments so, I would need a loan. I knew the money would not matter once I was holding a precious child. As many may know, this is not a quick process and it takes months of testing, tracking, monitoring, and lots of medication.

Finally, on March 25th, two days before my 41st birthday, it was time for my egg retrieval. I was expecting to get seven eggs in the retrieval, as that was what the monitoring showed. When I woke up, they told me there were eight. It’s amazing how that one extra chance felt like a miracle. I just knew that last egg was going to be my baby.

So much of this process is waiting…waiting for results. My next step was waiting to hear how many eggs fertilized and became embryos. I was so excited to hear the news that I had three. That was three chances to make my dream come true. Then, it was time to wait for the genetic testing. How many of my eggs were genetically healthy enough for a transfer? I only had one. I had one opportunity for an embryo transfer, one chance at getting pregnant, and once chance for a baby. As heartbreaking as that news was, I knew that one chance was still a blessing and I couldn’t wait to try.

Four months later, it was time for my frozen embryo transfer. The procedure went well and they sent me home to begin the two week wait. The longest two weeks of my life were spent resting, praying, and worrying about if my little embryo was going to stick around. After two at home pregnancy tests and blood work to confirm, it had worked! I was pregnant!

At 6 weeks and 5 days I heard her heartbeat. She was growing right on track. I was ecstatic and started the process of planning, searching for possible names, sharing the news with my loved ones, and dreaming of the future. At 10 weeks, I got to hear her heartbeat again. It was even stronger and sounded beautiful! Unfortunately at that ultrasound, they saw something puzzling. She appeared to have a cyst inside her abdomen, so I was sent to a specialist. Because it was so early on, the high risk doctor didn’t know quite what it was and asked me to wait two weeks to let her grow some more, in hopes that it would either go away or be big enough to get some answers. At 13 weeks, I went to see the specialist again only to find out that I had experienced a missed miscarriage and my baby’s heart had stopped. The next day, I was scheduled for a D&C because my body had not yet registered that she was gone. And then it was done. My girl was no longer with me and my heart was broken.

Even through the pain of losing my baby girl, I know that it was not all for nothing. I got to carry her for 13 wonderful weeks. Those were the happiest, most hopeful weeks of my life. I had never felt so much love and gratitude. And although the time was short, I will always feel blessed to have had the chance to feel all those emotions.

I’m not sure what the future holds and I don’t know if God will lead me down a different path to motherhood. But I know for sure that I will never take for granted the time I had with my baby girl. And I know my angel baby is waiting for me and that I will hold her in my arms one day."