Hello everyone I’m Pallavi. I’m in U.S since last 11 years now. Came here with my husband, taking care of him and his family for the last 11 years. Things were never right since the beginning. He never liked me, this was an arranged marriage. On the second day of getting married this asshole told me that I married because the invitations were printed and because of his mom forced him into this, it wasn’t his wish at all.

Then they were abusing me and my family on and off. I was on dependent visa and I couldn’t work. So I was staying home cooking three meals a day and doing all chores by myself. He never helped me except for the days I was too exhausted! I kept myself busy so that his abuse would not damage my self esteem. Things got worst since last 3-4 years when his dad passed away. He was in depression and he started lashing out on me. I told him to see the therapist otherwise our relationship would be ruined but he didn’t listen to me. Instead it hurted his ego and his mom’s ego. They thought I was trying to say that he is a mental health patient. What I was saying was for the betterment of a family and not to berate anyone. No one listened to me, at one point I got my G.C and I started working. The mother in law started controlling and convincing my husband that if I work I would not listen to him and I would get more freedom, I would not stay with him after that. So he allowed me to work only nearby house and only after cooking for three meals. I started working at subway nearby my house. Things started getting worst as the subway owner started giving me more hours. She started complaining that I am sending money to my parents which I wasn’t. I was spending money on my teaching credential exam tutoring and on my son’s expenses. Then she started complaining that she needs to stay at home because I started spending money on my needs and entertainment. I started socializing which she didn’t like. She wanted me to Roy at home without having any social life. At the beginning of our relationship I clearly mentioned my intentions to my husband that I am not a stay at home kind of a person and at some point I would like to go back to college and do Masters and he agreed to that! But as I started earning he started getting furious as his sisters were getting jealous of my freedom. Then my husband started asking me for the money I was earning. I told him I can give you half not more than that then we had argument over why am I not paying full earnings to him and what am I going to do with rest of the money earned. I said it’s my salary and my choice where I want to spend it. He didn’t like that. I asked him to show his bank statements which he didn’t show me at all in ten years of marriage. Then he called his mom and told her that I am harassing him for bank statement. I told her I am not harassing, I was just asking and she said don’t show anything to her she is just a maid of this family. That aggravated me then she said go burn in hell and that triggered my anger and I said you’re the older one in family, you go and burn in hell now! Then as per her liar family members she had a silent heart attack. I said if your son wouldn’t have called you this wouldn’t have happened. But this shameless man needs her to wipe down his bottom all the time.

From that moment onwards he Alongwith his friends and colleagues started verbally and physically abusing me everyday. That scared my son to the point that he used to hide under the bed everytime he starts the fight. He grabbed my neck. Slapped me, tried to burn me and hit me. Since his dad passed away he found someone in the university where he works to calm him down and pacify him. He used to go for walks and if I say I want to come with you, he used to get angry and said I need my me time. Then he started going to Costco on weekend by himself. There were times where he brought clothes from Abercrombie which he never did in his entire life because he is a spendthrift. He would never spend that much money on his or even my son’s clothing. Then we went to buy him clothes at the mall and next day he changed the clothes by saying he didn’t like the blue color of the shirt, which actually was light green. He is color blind and has no fashion sense. But the clothes he bought were very sober which wasn’t definitely his choice. Then I tried to talk about it to his girl friends from university and they both freaked out. He ran away from the situation and she lost her phone after that incident. That definitely was an alarming situation. I started asking him if he wants divorce and he didn’t reply. Instead he started saying that I am schizophrenic and I need treatment. I said I am already taking depression medication at my doctor and I don’t think I need treatment. Then he started forcing me to take him to my therapist. His mom started threatening me that she would kill my parents and you kill her. He started reading books on killing and watching videos on how to kill a person. He started asking me which point of my body is strong and weak! That made me furious and I started working out to build strength!

There We’re lot of things that have happened and seems like they were reading this chatterjee VS Norway story and were applying those things on me. I need help going back to India to file for divorce and custody of my child!

I need it asap as my child is with him and him and his mom are brainwashing my kid to not to go with me as they’ve mentioned that I am a total psychopath!