Nami's Safety Fund
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Nami is a disabled non-binary Latine currently trapped in an abusive home situation - their mother is abusive emotionally, verbally, and physically, and also has access to Nami's bank accounts and has frequently stolen from them. This behaviour has been escalating and there are serious concerns for their safety. We want to raise enough money for them to move out and settle somewhere safe, which will include moving (potentially interstate), living costs while they find a new job, and costs for medication and treatment to manage their disabilities. Here is a message from Nami:
Hello. This is a personal message from the beneficiary of this fundraiser. To open up a GoFundMe was the last thing I had wanted to do. I thought that I could slowly earn money from work and make a little pool to eventually leave home with. I thought that my mother would mellow out with age, and things would not be as bad as they were when the body was young. Unfortunately, things have escalated so tremendously over here that I find myself unable to turn anywhere else. I do not wish to go into hyperspecifics on my health, but her negative impact on us our whole life has caused us to develop C-PTSD as well as DID. Up until half a year ago, I was in intensive therapy, receiving treatment via. EMDR, alongside other practices meant to assist in coping with repeated trauma. I am also neurodivergent, and have had chronic body pain for more than 14 years now. My mother, however, refuses to get me checked for possibilities such as scoliosis and osteoarthritis (of which run in my family). This leaves me incapable of receiving disability, as my mother believes I am faking my daily physical struggles due to being young. For as long as the body can remember, we have been hit, beat, verbally abused, and gaslit by our mother. This is something sadly normalised in Latine culture, and it is due to this that I have been afraid to come out with her persistent abuse to anyone in my family. My mother is a well-loved woman in our family, and the thought of being open with her mistreatment of myself and my sibling seems to certainly fall to one conclusion: we will be ignored and vilified for painting our mother in a bad light.
Our mother is a highly paranoid woman. She can track us anywhere at any time, and has even installed cameras in our house to spy on my sibling and I during the day. We are under constant supervision. We live in a low-income, paycheck to paycheck, household. We know and understand this, and do our best to provide for our immediate family. My mother, however, has access to my bank accounts, my mail, and (up until very recently) my job. In order to use me to her financial benefit, she would ignore when my chronic pain flareups would nearly leave me immobile and force me to go to work, even when work would give me the OK to stay home. Likewise, she would sign me up for long shifts on my day(s) off in a bid for me to make more money to donate to her. Every paycheck she asks for more and more money, and ridicules me when I do not give her more than a certain amount (usually half to 3/5 of my paycheck). I have no control over my financial earnings as a result of this -- everything I earn myself is taken by my mother, with the remaining left over to pay for groceries and food for myself to eat, and she does not hesitate to overwork her disabled child to make more money. She constantly berates and verbally attacks my sibling and I. She demeans us with obscene language, and dehumanises our existences. This is a cry for help. I don't think I can do this for much longer. Living under this roof is agony, and every day my mind wanders to self-destructive places. It isn't good for my health. Please, if you are able to, spread this around or even donate if you feel so inclined. Every penny counts. Please help me in letting my life begin. Thank you so so much. ♡
Hello. This is a personal message from the beneficiary of this fundraiser. To open up a GoFundMe was the last thing I had wanted to do. I thought that I could slowly earn money from work and make a little pool to eventually leave home with. I thought that my mother would mellow out with age, and things would not be as bad as they were when the body was young. Unfortunately, things have escalated so tremendously over here that I find myself unable to turn anywhere else. I do not wish to go into hyperspecifics on my health, but her negative impact on us our whole life has caused us to develop C-PTSD as well as DID. Up until half a year ago, I was in intensive therapy, receiving treatment via. EMDR, alongside other practices meant to assist in coping with repeated trauma. I am also neurodivergent, and have had chronic body pain for more than 14 years now. My mother, however, refuses to get me checked for possibilities such as scoliosis and osteoarthritis (of which run in my family). This leaves me incapable of receiving disability, as my mother believes I am faking my daily physical struggles due to being young. For as long as the body can remember, we have been hit, beat, verbally abused, and gaslit by our mother. This is something sadly normalised in Latine culture, and it is due to this that I have been afraid to come out with her persistent abuse to anyone in my family. My mother is a well-loved woman in our family, and the thought of being open with her mistreatment of myself and my sibling seems to certainly fall to one conclusion: we will be ignored and vilified for painting our mother in a bad light.
Our mother is a highly paranoid woman. She can track us anywhere at any time, and has even installed cameras in our house to spy on my sibling and I during the day. We are under constant supervision. We live in a low-income, paycheck to paycheck, household. We know and understand this, and do our best to provide for our immediate family. My mother, however, has access to my bank accounts, my mail, and (up until very recently) my job. In order to use me to her financial benefit, she would ignore when my chronic pain flareups would nearly leave me immobile and force me to go to work, even when work would give me the OK to stay home. Likewise, she would sign me up for long shifts on my day(s) off in a bid for me to make more money to donate to her. Every paycheck she asks for more and more money, and ridicules me when I do not give her more than a certain amount (usually half to 3/5 of my paycheck). I have no control over my financial earnings as a result of this -- everything I earn myself is taken by my mother, with the remaining left over to pay for groceries and food for myself to eat, and she does not hesitate to overwork her disabled child to make more money. She constantly berates and verbally attacks my sibling and I. She demeans us with obscene language, and dehumanises our existences. This is a cry for help. I don't think I can do this for much longer. Living under this roof is agony, and every day my mind wanders to self-destructive places. It isn't good for my health. Please, if you are able to, spread this around or even donate if you feel so inclined. Every penny counts. Please help me in letting my life begin. Thank you so so much. ♡
[This fundraiser is being run by Charles, one of Nami's close friends. I am on the other side of the world from them and it kills me that they are in danger and I can't do anything. This has been going on for years and all I want is for them to finally be safe. Please, please help if you can. Anything you can give helps.]
Organizer and beneficiary
Charlie Shea
Organizer
Orlando, FL
Nami Perez
Beneficiary