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First, I'd like to say that my mom always had the worst luck but was the most positive and strong individual, and that I was proud to call her my mom. We aren't having a service because of expenses and covid rules. I might have a life celebration after a little bit of time.
My mom was diagnosed with a rare breast cancer back in December of 2017 caused by "environment". Since then, we've had a lot of financial issues, but we always got through it. Then her surgeries and treatments were complete by December 2018. All that following year she was still having complications but doctors dismissed the symptoms to recovery. Her health took a turn in January 2020, she had a specialized preleukemia, which was caused by the chemo from her first round of cancer. This is what was causing her complications and ER visits during 2019, but went undetected during her doctor follow ups.
She couldn't work and we were surviving off a second year teacher's salary (me). Things were always tight, but we managed. We couldn't afford treatment, so mom kept trying to get medicaid accepted and we jumped through all the hoops. Apparently it's hard to get accepted for medicaid if you don't have breast or cervical cancer? We had the hardest time applying and constantly getting shifted around and sending the same things multiple times and to different people.
The only ones who could treat her type of leukemia was UNMC and they wouldn't even see her for a consultation because she didn't have insurance. Eventually we tried a chemo treatment at the hospital, knowing we'd have a bunch of med bills and we didn't have a bone marrow donor lined up yet... But we wanted to try. But by the time she started chemo, it was too late. Two days into treatment she was told she only had a week to live, if that. This was Wednesday the 3rd.
Thursday she was lucid but I had to take care of me emergency paperwork and was letting people know. By Friday, she only woke up for a minute at a time, was stationary, not eating/drinking, or using the bathroom. Hospice was called Saturday morning. I took care of mom with a daily visit from hospice. Within the week, she passed away in her sleep. Momma passed June 10th at 9pm and it's been a hard couple weeks. We were applying for medicaid for 6 months just to be told she was denied the day of her death. And short term disability messed around constantly so we didn't get full payments or get them consistently if at all. Then, I had to pay the funeral home up front within 5 days, which was $1000. So I had to use my paycheck, which is almost 1/2 my monthly income.
I started going through paperwork and getting calls and there are so many surprise expenses that I need to pay within the next 9 days. All of this combined with my regular bills, I have shut off notices and won't be able to pay rent. I normally don't ask for money, but I am so overwhelmed with everything. I am basically the only one on my moms side left. When I was 17, I lost my father and only recently reconnected with an aunt and cousins on his side. This is just all too much, especially losing both parents before I'm 30. If anyone even has $5 to spare, I'd be so appreciative. I need to make rent and get these surprise expenses taken care of.
These aren't the best photos but she didn't like getting her pictures taken. But I was definitely a momma's girl. Even when it came down to it, it was mom and I versus the world and anything it threw at us. Thank you for anything you can give and thank you for your time.

