I’m asking today for help to pay for care for my father. It’s an urgent situation as He will be discharged from the hospital to our home. He still cannot walk and his worsening dementia makes him unsafe to return home. The hospital is unsympathetic to this.

He needs to go to a skilled nursing facility or a residential facility. I have applied for Medi-cal (government benefits) but it may take 6 weeks to get approved. My father will need care and a facility immediately. The out of pocket costs for a month are $5000 up to 10,000 dollars and is not covered by his insurance.

This I money I do not have

My father Charles Kim is 87 years old and suffers from dementia and Parkinson’s. I’ve been taking care of both my parents for the last year. My mother unfortunately passed in the summer from cancer. My father’s dementia has subsequently worsened since. Last Monday, on January 8th my father lost the ability to stand and had profound confusion. I brought him to the emergency room at Baldwin Park Kaiser hospital last week. They found he was suffering from whole body sepsis and a blocked liver.

Thankfully he’s been medically treated for those problems but since his episode he still cannot stand and is having difficulty communicating.

The hospital is planning to discharge him back into my care but I've realized I cannot help him. The hospital is adamant that even if he cannot stand or is clear minded, he will be released. Even with me staying at home with him, I’ve realized his 24 hour needs are beyond my ability. In fact when he first fell I was already asleep.

I’ve applied to the state for Medi-Cal government benefits with the help of the social worker. I hope to have the government support in place to put eventually place him in residential care.

Unfortunately this will take maybe up to 6 weeks or longer for approval.

Times are tough for everyone and I’m loathe to ask for help but I do not have the funds to afford my father’s needs during this indeterminate time. I’m sorry to ask but I have not worked much since my mother became I’ll. I haven’t even had room to breathe since she passed. The life he and I share has become increasingly difficult and sad.

I’m so sorry to ask for help but right now I don’t know what else to do. I appreciate anything you can do to contribute. If you cannot. Could you please pray for me and my dad.

Thank you

Emilll Kim