Muslim Single Mother with Baby In Need

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Assalamualaikum wa ramatullahi wa barakatuh brothers and sisters. I am seeking financial assistance during this difficult time in my life to help my daughters and myself.

This is my story, (I will try to keep it short because is very long) I converted to Islam 2 years ago Alhamdulillah, 16 month ago i met an afghan guy through a “Muslim” Dating app. We start to talk and he unfortunately lied to me. He said that he was single, never married, that he owns a company, that he was financially stable, etc. Meanwhile not only was he not the owner of a company or financially stable, but also was married already. I was starting in the religion then, so I didn’t know how the whole process was supposed to be. So, I fell in love with him, and we made the Nikkah through video call with the imam and 2 witnesses. A few weeks after that I flew to Saudi Arabia with my now 9yrs daughter from my first marriage. He told me to pay for my daughter and myself for the visa and flight tickets and that when i got there he will pay me back in cash in a few weeks. From the beginning of my time there he asked me for a baby, he wanted to have a baby with me and, since I was in love, I agreed. I got pregnant very fast. When I had gotten there I found out he was living with one of his young brothers. Even their kitchen was empty and many other things… He eventually told me he was expecting some money from the company so he will buy the things for the apartment, as was his responsibility. Weeks passed and he never bought anything. I had to buy food for everyone since my very first day there because we didn’t have kitchen appliances for me to cook, he knew that I didn’t have money, just credit cards for emergency. He then started to asked me to buy the things and that he will pay me back when he received money from the some projects he was working on. I was so blind, I believe in him. So i started to buy all the things that we needed, as well as the groceries. I was like the man providing everything for the house. A lot of bad things happen, and he never give me my money. After everything happened, I started to doubt my religion I though “how can a ‘Muslim men’ do these things”. I had many other thoughts questioning everything. I realized that religion is perfect, Alhamdulillah. My then husband didn’t fear Allah at all, he was very wrong, and Allah save me from something worst. He was not good for me, my deen, or my daughters. Jumping to the end: things got very bad for me there, so I returned to my country with my daughter and also pregnant with his baby. Once in my country I was alone with my daughter and without a job. I had to use my cards to pay for the whole pregnancy, buy things for the baby, etc. I don’t have a lot of family, only my mom and she lives far from me and, to be honest, doesn’t helped me too much. On top of that when i got to my country my ex husband, the father of the oldest daughter, sued me and is trying to take full custody of my daughter. Since he is no muslim and he thinks badly about everything, I had to hire a lawyer to help me. Those are even more expenses that I didn’t have originally. So, I had to take a loan from the bank and I ended up with a huge debt. Apart from that I can’t work because I have literally no one to help me with my daughters, and I still have bills to pay. I now understand that Riba is haram, a sin. Riba is prohibited, and I wish I would have had the tools necessary in that moment to not have had to resort to enter into debt. Not only to not see that as an option, but to not have been put in that situation by a man that was supposed to be my protector.

My now ex husband, the father of my 5 month baby, disappeared after I asked him for a divorce. He never sent me money and even denied his baby. I have tried everything: I got brothers trying to help me calling him, I contacted the Saudi Embassy, lawyers in Saudi and no one help me. I felt very alone and kept thinking like “how is this possible”. I felt very excluded by the muslim community in my country, I felt like no one was looking after my rights as a muslim woman, or the rights of my daughter. I wrote to my ex husband’s father. I sent pictures of his grandchild, informing him that he has a granddaughter. He seems like didn’t care since he saw the message and I received no response. I leave it everything on Allahs hands.

With your help I will be able to pay off everything and pay my currents bills and food for next months in sha Allah.

May Allah bless you and reward you with a house in Jannah.