Moms Funeral and Grandmas care


After a year of battling Stage II pancreatic cancer and Stage IV liver cancer, my mom passed away on October 31st. My heart is broken in a million pieces. She was my best friend, and I cannot even begin to imagine what my life is going to be like without her. This grief is right on the heals of losing our father who died last year. My brother Joe and I have lost so much so quickly. My mother was a wonderful, selfless person. For the last 6 years she has been the caretaker for my grandmother, who has Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Even though my mom was on disability and delt with chronic pain every day of her life, she still held this family together and cared for my grandmother with love and patience.

Now that she is gone, my brother and I are struggling to find the means to pay for my mothers cremation and service. On top of that, I am now the caretaker for my grandmother. We have no funds for any of this, and my grandmother needs 24 hour care. As I said before, She has Alzheimer’s and Dementia. She also suffered a stroke 7 years ago, and has some brain damage as a result. I have to work, but cannot leave her alone. I need to provide her with in-home care while I’m at work. 
 We would never place our grandmother in a nursing home, but if we did, we would lose the family farm, as the government would recoup its losses of paying for the cost of her care by seizing our family home.  I love my grandma very much. I would do anything for her, and we have been close from the second I was born. My mother was on disability and could be with her all day, but I  have a job, It’s an amazing job, but I work for around minimum wage. The fact is, I cannot afford to have someone be with her while I’m gone.  
We need help. I hate to ask anyone for money, but we have no options, no money, and a lot of responsibilities. Please, donate what you can, and know that we will be grateful for every penny. Thank you, and God bless.
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Amanda Lockhart 
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