Meg and Drake Infertility Journey

Most of you probably know me, but if you don’t my name is Meaghan. I’m 26 years old, living in San Diego, and have built an incredible life which is built up of most of the people reading this post. You may be reading this as a family member, friend, or distant stranger and if you take the time to read my story, just know that I appreciate it beyond words.

I was recently diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure. For those of you who don’t know what this is, it is a condition that occurs when the ovaries stop working before the age of 40. This condition in most cases is unexplainable, occurs in less than 1% of women and is something that cannot be cured. Many women who have this condition will have it as a result of chemotherapy or radiation, both in which I have never had. The doctors do not know why this happened to me and we probably won’t ever know why.

I had noticed some things that caused me to go get some bloodwork done, and the results that came back were devastating to us. In a matter of minutes our world felt like it was crashing down. Our doctor told us that our chances of having a baby naturally with our own eggs was between 5-10%. From that day forward, (October 10th, 2023) we have been through many emotional days and have tried to remain optimistic, but I won’t lie to you, we are devastated beyond words. We saw a fertility specialist in San Diego who specializes in my condition and is going to attempt to do PRP Ovarian Rejuvenation and IVF. This totaled up to just shy of $30,000 for 3 attempts and 1 embryo transfer (which means we have 3 chances to make it happen.) Unfortunately, both of our insurance plans do not cover any infertility treatments and we do not live in a state that mandates coverage.

Drake and I have always dreamt of having a family and have talked about it even before we started dating. When we were just friends, we would talk about how we both wanted nothing more than to become parents one day. When I fell in love with Drake, I also fell in love with who I knew he would be as a dad. He is so kind, patient, loving and shows up in every way humanly possible for me. I wouldn’t have been able to get through the last month and a half without him and I am so grateful that God gave me him as my rock. I know that above all else, my purpose in life is to become a mom and we will do everything we can to get our miracle baby.

Our envisioned path—engagement, marriage, children—now faces an unforeseen detour. While it's not the journey we anticipated, we believe in a higher plan. We know that God has a plan for us, and we pray that we will end up getting there. Our journey will not be what we had planned or expected it to be, but we know that’s a part of life.

Drake and I have gone back and fourth over the last few weeks contemplating wether or not we would post a go fund me, but we have had many people who love us dearly ask how they can help. I know we have an incredible tribe around us and if you have it in your heart or have the means to donate to our infertility journey, we would be grateful beyond words. We will keep you all posted as things progress, and will do our best to share as much as we can. We love you all.