Funeral Costs for Mom

On October 20, 1990, my dad passed away from lung cancer. He was a Veteren. Served in World War II and was a hero to us in every way posible. Being a Vet, he was given the honor of being buried in the Presideo National Cemetary. He had all of his affairs in order and left us nothing to worry about after his passing. It was all taken care of.  We knew that because my mom was his widow, she too has the honor of being buried along side him in the Presideo. An honor that we had hoped we would not need to accept for many years to come....but unfortunatly....On January 20, 2015...she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. The tumor has consumed half of her lungs capacity, it is closing in on the sac around her heart. Metastisised to her lymphnodes and now...her brain.
She immediatly moved in with me and hospice has taken over with "comfort care." (As if there is ANYTHING "comforting" about this) Normally a person with that stage of cancer is given a "Life expectancy" of 6-12 months. The oncologist told me "If you get 3 months....you should feel lucky." Lucky? Lucky? what part of 'this' involves "luck"??? I get to watch my mom suffer and die...the same way I watched my dad...24 years ago. We are 3 weeks in to that "3 months" and I already see a rapid decline. It is a nightmare that I just can't wake up from.
The ONLY thing that I thought was working in our favor, was the fact that my dad had handled all of the burial planning. ONE thing I don't have to worry about. ONE thing I can feel "Lucky" about, right? Wrong. When I called the Presideo to find out what steps I needed to take....when that horrible moment comes...I was informed that yes, the "burial" is covered. But contacting, handeling and paying for her cremation...was not.  Upon hearing that kick to the chest...I began researching funeral services. Why...W H Y....is the cremation of a loved one SO expensive? As if any of this is fair to begin with? To my shock, and horror...the removal of her body, cremation,  state fees and certificates (fuck you for that) and delivery of her remains to the cemetary....the cost is anywhere from $1400-$2000.
We live paycheck to paycheck...at best. I am her only family that has this burden to carry. So I am turning to you....my friends, loved ones, complete strangers...all humility out the door...if you can please find it in your hearts to donate anything...literally....ANYTHING. I would be beyond grateful. Every penny we can collect will lift a piece of this burden and possibly, by the grace of God....have enough above and beyond to hold a ceremony in her honor.
This is my mom. She brought me into this world and I don't have the  financial stablity to let her leave ours. You can't imagine how shitty that feels.
Please consider donating to our fund. But if you cannot donate money, please donate a promise...that you will not leave these matters unresolved in your own lives. It is a traumatizing event..watching your parent (or anyone you love) live out their last days. Don't waste that time figuring out the final details. Handle them now...believe me...it is a burden I wouldn't wish on anyone.

Thank you everyone....for the time it took to read this...for possibly donating...or for any kind words, thoughts, prayers or support. In the end...it's all we've got.