About a year and a half ago my mother was diagnosed with stage 3 cervical cancer. She had to recieve chemotherapy as well as radiation. After what felt like a lifetime my mother went into remission and beat cancer. Three months later my mom went in for a check and was told that the cancer had return. This time she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. We began treatments right away . As time went on my mom began to lose her hair. That was one of the most difficult things she had to deal with. I remember sitting there with my mom for 2 hours as I tried to brush the tangles out of her hair. Chunks of her hair came out as I brushed it. Even in that moment my mom was still strong. She had chemo every Friday and we were there for almost 12hrs everytime. Another month passed by and the doctors did a scan of her lungs and noticed that some of the nodgels in her lungs had gotten bigger. So they switched her chemo and tried different medication. Through all of this my mom remained strong. She always made sure to laugh and smile through the pain. She also made sure that my brothers and mysef were taken care of. As expected my mom was always tired and didnt really eat much because the medicines made her sick. My mom lost over 100 pounds and was the smallest I have ever seen. We tried to live oour lives as normal as possible. For a while my mom was always in bed sleeping and not eating, I was working , taking care of her , my brothers and animals, paying everything , cleaning cooking and more. Even though it was not easy I would do anything for her. My mom still was going to chemo , I made sure she was never alone during her treatments. Skip a head a couple months later I started to see my mom comeback. She was starting to act more like herself and seemed happy. Unfortunatley everything went down hill. I had notice that my mom was not getting up rom her bed and when she did I would literally have to pick her up from her bed and walk her to the bathroom. She also wasnt eating or really talking to anyone. On August 1st I told my mom enough is enough and that I was taking her to the ER. She fought with me and my brother because she did not want to go. I got her dressed and got everything else ready and me and my older brother struggled to get her in the car. She had passed out on us muiltiple times and went dead weight on us. Little did we know that she was dieing. I rushed her to the ER and from there on my mom myself and my family began to live this nightmare. My mother had a hole in her colon. She had a really bad infection that was spreading. The suregeons came in and told me and my aunt that if they did not perform this emergency surgery she would die... and even if they did it she would die. Like any normal person would I broke down and I was so scared . I signed the papers for my mom to get this surgery. We walked with her to the Pre OP ... it was August 2nd and about 2 or 3 in the morning at this point. The suregon came out and told us that there would be 100% complication and my mom was not going to make it. We ran behind my mom as they were rolling her away just to give her a hug and a kiss and to tell her that we loved her. Fast foward a couple hours and my mom made it out of surgery even though she was not suppose to. She was taken to the ICU and a couple dadys later was moved to a regular floor because she was doing better. At the time I had not talked to my mom or had a conversation with her for almost a week because she was unable to talk.Fast foward a little bit more my mom satrted to act more like herself again. We got to spend time with her and shed some tears but also some laughs. On August 23rd I was in the room with my mom like I was everyday. I felt that something was wrong and something was off. My mom began to breathe faster and harder. I grabbed her face and said mom to her trying to see if i could get her attention. In 1 second my mom stopped breathing and died right infront of me. She was without a pulse for 8 minutes. She was moved back to the ICU and we were told there was nothing else left to do. She's been on life support for the past couple day's. Me and brother had come to the conclusion and agreement that we do not want to see our mom suffer anymore. On August
25th ,2017 at 6:00pm all of her loved ones will be in the room with her as she takes her last breath. It has been the most difficult decison that me and my brothers have had to make but we also know it is the right one.
We want to be able to give our mom a beautiful service . This was unexpected and we were not prepared financially , emotionally or menatlly. My mom was an amazing women . She had the best heart and soul. She always put herself last and always made sure everyone else was okay before she even thought about herself. My mom was the strongest person I have ever met ... she made me who I am today and I will always be greatful for that. Everyone and anyone who met my mom loved her right away. She was an amazing beautiful woman inside and out. There are honestly no words to describe how amazing she was. My mom will be in peace and happy. I normally dont ask for hep from anyone but this is different. Anything will help. I just want to be able to give her something beautiful and something that she deserves. Thank you so much to everyone who has been here and has loved my mom and cared for her. Thank you to anyone who has helped us.... you have no idea how much it means. God Bless.