my name is lola-olivia parkinson I’m a 22 year old aboriginal woman who is also transgender (MTF). i came out to my family and friends 4 years ago after spending childhood and teen years struggling with who I was and who I am meant to be, this caused severe depression, eating disorders and loneliness. Luckily with the help of my loving and supportive family coming out was a little easier than I imagined, my mum helped me find a psychologist and get me started on hormones and I am so grateful Because I know I wouldn’t be here to this day without my families love.
For the past 3 years I have been on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) which has helped me a fair amount to have the body and appearance I once only dreamed of looking back at me in the mirror. While growing and maturing into the woman I am today I struggled to find a steady job and faced discrimination for being an indigenous trans woman. My only option was to work as an escort to help me survive and thrive, this in turn helped me pay for expensive drs appointments, on going medications, housing and my overall transition. I am extremely lucky to love my job and achieve many dreams through hard work and learnt many lessons.
At this moment In time I am unable to work in the state I live in as a sex worker due to covid 19 and this has heavily prevented me from continuing to save for my goal of having breast implants and facial feminization surgery. Being transgender is a daily struggle! Making sure you “pass” as your own gender watching your every move and surroundings to make sure I’m safe and that no one around me can tell I’m trans and possibly hurt me. I have anxiety getting public transport which is my only option and when I’m in public even doing the most simple daily things that cis people don’t even think about (grocery shopping, dr appointments, pharmacy visits, walking down the street) I am so anxious that someone is going to be able to tell I’m a trans woman and hurt or kill me Because of their ignorance and hatred. Having these surgeries isn’t a cosmetic choice to beautify myself. These surgeries will allow me to pass enough as my own gender (a woman) and not have to be so scared, wear full glam makeup just to feel semi comfortable or safe. I would love to be able to feel truly free in the world that is built against trans people.
Transitioning is such a financial burden, mentally tiring and as trans individuals we go through so much not just a physical change but also a mental and spiritual change. We do not live in a world that accepts, respects or loves us as trans individuals. I grow weary and fear I will never be able to reach this goal by myself. These surgeries are something I have wanted since I was a teenager, to feel whole and complete in my body not only as a trans individual but also as a woman.
Thankfully my hormones have given me amazing breast growth far more than I or my drs expected, however I feel they are not proportional to my curvy body and this impacts my mental health severely almost daily. It affects how I dress, stand, hold my posture, and my work.
I struggle to feel safe and beautiful with my features and know if I passed more I would face less discrimination and questioning going through life.
The gender affirmation surgeries I am looking at getting is a tear drop breast implant which is recommended for trans patients due to the shape of the breasts, facial feminization surgery (jawline shaving, chin implant, nose job). So far I have managed to save $2k to go towards my gender affirmation surgery, with your generosity and help I hope that I will be able to hit my goal of $25k and achieve a major dream which would change my life for the better. All funds raised will be going directly towards surgery costs, consultation fees, possible flights to and from the surgery, aftercare for myself. If there are any remaining funds I will be donating those to other trans fundraisers to help others achieve their dreams and help affirm their own gender.
There are no words to describe how truly thankful I am to you and anyone who shares or donates to my fundraiser
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