No regrets! But it’s hard surviving after 2 years!
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After Momma passed, I started working the week after I had her service on 4/10/21. After a few months, I enrolled in Unitek. I was fulfilling one of the (many) promises I made Momma! I would be a nurse! (LVN, specifically)! I’m supposed to start full-time on 9/27/21.
I’ve been paying what I can, to the attorney fighting to get my brothers name off the Deed (another promise to Momma). Unfortunately, with my limited income, keeping this house running, and more, it’s no longer enough to guarantee the attorney’s future endeavors. I must get money on that account, in order to move forward with the case!
I didn’t know they were going to stop working my case until recently. AFTER I got loans for school, signed contracts WITH Unitek, and I’m supposed to start on 9/27/21?!?
Meanwhile, thanks to lacking my own self-care while caring for Momma, I needed surgery. I had Carpal Tunnel Surgery on my right wrist on 8/5/21. Thanks to the fact that I’d only “worked” for 2.5 months, I wasn’t eligible for SDI. So? The other wrist will HAVE TO WAIT. Hopefully, Unitek will ALSO “wait” while I make as much money as I can & pay the attorney large payments for however long school might wait?!
In addition, I’ve been threatened by my brothers actions, and have a restraining order against him. I was granted it, but now he’s contesting it (said he was on Zoom, but they didn’t acknowledge him being there? I saw him… very LATE). So instead of making money, I must miss yet MORE WORK, so he can contest this?
I’m losing hope for school, my safety and more. If anyone wins the lotto, please remember me?
(My initial story)::: I took care of ALL of my Mom’s needs from 5/20/19 - 3/21/21 . Although she was on a limited income, she made too much for State assistances. We had enough to handle MOST issues of normal day-to-day needs, but I have to battle, legally, for her home assets to be liquidated. I couldn’t work outside the home, as Mom required 24/7 (Dementia - Succumbed to it on 3/21/21) care. We couldn’t afford caregivers. She didn’t qualify for me to have respite (IHSS), without her paying more than I would make. I am in charge of her finances, and it’s just not doable. We even had to cut back on her tithing and other expenses. Tithing was her passion, as she had 3 Aunts who were missionaries. Although I cannot show a negative photo on this cover, it took a lot for her to look like she did! This photo was taken in May, 2020; a lot changed since then. That’s not her hair, it’s a wig. I shaved her head, washed it, and assist in her dressing herself (which she did every day until she was bedridden!). She always used to put her own makeup on, and it was sad to see it look worse & worse every day - eventually never. When she died, I sent her with a wig & lipstick on for the cremation. Her breakfast was a quiche I made for her, fruit, coffee & an ensure, until she stopped eating. She used to fight me about eating a second meal each day, and was very skewed about her body image. If she had her way, she would have only eaten ice cream later in the day, or cookies! Her last bite, WAS ice cream! (Just like Daddy!) The only easy part of her food consumption was finishing her breakfast. Her frustrations of herself, were taken out on me. I’ve learned a lot about this horrible disease, and tried to be mindful of how I made her feel, but it was hard. We couldn’t go out often. Just a trip to her Dr, exhausted her (which she also took out on me) for days after. I literally gave up my own life. Although I wouldn’t have had anyone else do this, although it was my HONOR, it was TAXING. The few times we went to see the (her great) grandkids, was worse than a visit to the Dr! I know she needed it as much as I did, but it was a LOT of work. My focus on caring for and protecting her, didn’t allow for much socializing for myself. I was alone most days. Just me & Momma, and an occasional respite provider for me; Thank God for them!!! Both of my parents were victims of Financial Elder Abuse in 2016. Daddy passed away 9/3/19. If you want details, you may contact me via phone or email, but I will not discuss who or the case with anyone who isn’t “safe”. My folks have always been responsible with debt, paying their only credit card off in full each month. Since this case was started, she maxed out the only card she had, and I can’t seem to make a dent in it, so I’m desperate. This is a last resort. Many have suggested I do this in the past, but I was stubborn, and really wanted to somehow manage it? I just can’t. I had a “call people from home” job that I did when I was watching Mom on my Momma-Cam, but in a week, I only made $28... MAXIMUM. When Momma was bedridden, I couldn’t do that job anymore. I am trying to secure a job as a caregiver, now that Mom has passed away. Ooh, how amazing it will be to “clock-out”!! There’s essentially no life insurance money (none that isn’t going to her credit card or attorney debt), and it will be hard to take care of this big lot without her income (which ended when she died). I now have the task of going through each room, closets, garage & more! I want/need to get it done before her service on 4/10/21 - because I hope to start a job on 4/12/21. I’ve tried to sell some items that aren’t designated to people, but that is a challenge as well! I’m optimistic that I will have the ultimate privilege of remaining in my childhood home?! But there are many things wrong with this old house!
These are hard times for all, and I’m hoping that anyone willing to help, even a little, will ONLY do so, if it’s not a hardship to you! All funds are going to be directly deposited into Mom’s account each week - until I must close it due to her passing - then I’ll convert the deposit into my account. ***The family member/defendant has NO ACCESS to her bank account! *** If you choose to forego the fees that this fund takes out of your donation, feel free to reach out to me directly through Facebook, text or email. I have Venmo & PayPal as well. Thank you for considering...
Momma is with Daddy now ! Pain free! Confusion free!
I’ve been paying what I can, to the attorney fighting to get my brothers name off the Deed (another promise to Momma). Unfortunately, with my limited income, keeping this house running, and more, it’s no longer enough to guarantee the attorney’s future endeavors. I must get money on that account, in order to move forward with the case!
I didn’t know they were going to stop working my case until recently. AFTER I got loans for school, signed contracts WITH Unitek, and I’m supposed to start on 9/27/21?!?
Meanwhile, thanks to lacking my own self-care while caring for Momma, I needed surgery. I had Carpal Tunnel Surgery on my right wrist on 8/5/21. Thanks to the fact that I’d only “worked” for 2.5 months, I wasn’t eligible for SDI. So? The other wrist will HAVE TO WAIT. Hopefully, Unitek will ALSO “wait” while I make as much money as I can & pay the attorney large payments for however long school might wait?!
In addition, I’ve been threatened by my brothers actions, and have a restraining order against him. I was granted it, but now he’s contesting it (said he was on Zoom, but they didn’t acknowledge him being there? I saw him… very LATE). So instead of making money, I must miss yet MORE WORK, so he can contest this?
I’m losing hope for school, my safety and more. If anyone wins the lotto, please remember me?
(My initial story)::: I took care of ALL of my Mom’s needs from 5/20/19 - 3/21/21 . Although she was on a limited income, she made too much for State assistances. We had enough to handle MOST issues of normal day-to-day needs, but I have to battle, legally, for her home assets to be liquidated. I couldn’t work outside the home, as Mom required 24/7 (Dementia - Succumbed to it on 3/21/21) care. We couldn’t afford caregivers. She didn’t qualify for me to have respite (IHSS), without her paying more than I would make. I am in charge of her finances, and it’s just not doable. We even had to cut back on her tithing and other expenses. Tithing was her passion, as she had 3 Aunts who were missionaries. Although I cannot show a negative photo on this cover, it took a lot for her to look like she did! This photo was taken in May, 2020; a lot changed since then. That’s not her hair, it’s a wig. I shaved her head, washed it, and assist in her dressing herself (which she did every day until she was bedridden!). She always used to put her own makeup on, and it was sad to see it look worse & worse every day - eventually never. When she died, I sent her with a wig & lipstick on for the cremation. Her breakfast was a quiche I made for her, fruit, coffee & an ensure, until she stopped eating. She used to fight me about eating a second meal each day, and was very skewed about her body image. If she had her way, she would have only eaten ice cream later in the day, or cookies! Her last bite, WAS ice cream! (Just like Daddy!) The only easy part of her food consumption was finishing her breakfast. Her frustrations of herself, were taken out on me. I’ve learned a lot about this horrible disease, and tried to be mindful of how I made her feel, but it was hard. We couldn’t go out often. Just a trip to her Dr, exhausted her (which she also took out on me) for days after. I literally gave up my own life. Although I wouldn’t have had anyone else do this, although it was my HONOR, it was TAXING. The few times we went to see the (her great) grandkids, was worse than a visit to the Dr! I know she needed it as much as I did, but it was a LOT of work. My focus on caring for and protecting her, didn’t allow for much socializing for myself. I was alone most days. Just me & Momma, and an occasional respite provider for me; Thank God for them!!! Both of my parents were victims of Financial Elder Abuse in 2016. Daddy passed away 9/3/19. If you want details, you may contact me via phone or email, but I will not discuss who or the case with anyone who isn’t “safe”. My folks have always been responsible with debt, paying their only credit card off in full each month. Since this case was started, she maxed out the only card she had, and I can’t seem to make a dent in it, so I’m desperate. This is a last resort. Many have suggested I do this in the past, but I was stubborn, and really wanted to somehow manage it? I just can’t. I had a “call people from home” job that I did when I was watching Mom on my Momma-Cam, but in a week, I only made $28... MAXIMUM. When Momma was bedridden, I couldn’t do that job anymore. I am trying to secure a job as a caregiver, now that Mom has passed away. Ooh, how amazing it will be to “clock-out”!! There’s essentially no life insurance money (none that isn’t going to her credit card or attorney debt), and it will be hard to take care of this big lot without her income (which ended when she died). I now have the task of going through each room, closets, garage & more! I want/need to get it done before her service on 4/10/21 - because I hope to start a job on 4/12/21. I’ve tried to sell some items that aren’t designated to people, but that is a challenge as well! I’m optimistic that I will have the ultimate privilege of remaining in my childhood home?! But there are many things wrong with this old house!
These are hard times for all, and I’m hoping that anyone willing to help, even a little, will ONLY do so, if it’s not a hardship to you! All funds are going to be directly deposited into Mom’s account each week - until I must close it due to her passing - then I’ll convert the deposit into my account. ***The family member/defendant has NO ACCESS to her bank account! *** If you choose to forego the fees that this fund takes out of your donation, feel free to reach out to me directly through Facebook, text or email. I have Venmo & PayPal as well. Thank you for considering...
Momma is with Daddy now ! Pain free! Confusion free!
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Kerry Hedin Smith
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Rancho Cordova, CA