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Blessings Friends,
In all transparency, I’ve been electing to put doing a fundraiser off for this issue for years. I’ve been trying my best to hold everything down on my own. It hasn’t been ego, or pride. I’ve just been trying my best to keep everything together. It has gotten to a point now, that I a swarming in debt because of legal fees to protect my beautiful daughter, Corrine Elise (her author name is Solo).
I’ve also been advised to not publicly post this, as it good be held against me.
Friends in 2021, I started raising my sweet daughter solely on my own after she was viciously attacked by her father, my ex-husband. I left him in 2011 due to domestic violence. Typing the details is very difficult for me, but I feel compelled to share so that you’ll know why my ask is much needed.
When I was married to G, I and my children suffered. I experienced a broken left ankle, busted lips, black eyes, and extreme bullying. When I was seven months pregnant with Corrine, he pushed me down. The police were called several times to our home- I was always too afraid to press charges because, “G” (my ex husband) would fill my thoughts with terror that I couldn’t make it without him.
I spent many nights in hotel rooms with my children in an effort to get to safety. G knew that I didn’t have a family, and it made a lot of the abuse easy for him to carry out. In 2011, I decided that I couldn’t take the pain anymore. You see, not only had I experienced years of Narcissistic abuse from, “G”, but I had also suffered domestic violence in foster care. Along my healing journey, I was able to correlate the vicious cycle that unfolded for my life and made it my life’s mission to ensure I, or my children would never go through this again.
However. August 24, 2011 I became…. Tired. Tired in my soul. Tired of being hit. Screamed at. Having my car disabled, my finances strapped by G purposefully (he would make my half of the bills much higher though he was an architect, and I was an artist. There was no head of household. He made things 50/50 so I couldn’t leave him). I was tired of my PTSD that reminded me of the unloving things I went through in foster care. I couldn’t take anymore friends.
The morning G broke my ankle (he flew into a sheer rage after discovering I had cut my hair off. He insisted I tried to make myself, “ugly” when in actuality my hair had a chemical burn), I planned that day would be my last day living. I decided I couldn’t take it anymore and that I would unalive myself.
By the grace of God, I’m still here. There was a woman who saw me on the bridge I planned to jump from, and had the care enough to call the police. I ended up in a psyche ward. Cold. Alone. And at my lowest point. And that is when I decided to rise.
I would go on to do a TED Talk about my experience. Speak all over the world now. Build a school and help thousands of youth. I am, deeply grateful. Had I given up, I wouldn’t be here today and I thank God for life. My life experiences do not bring me shame, but rather inform my work as an advocate. Let’s fast forward this story: I made the decision to divorce G shortly after I got out the hospital. I got the divorce which was hugely unfair- however I couldn’t afford a divorce attorney.
G kept the house, all the furniture, everything. I left with my clothes, things in black trash bags (which is hugely why I continue to do luggage drives for youth) and lived in a small apartment where I raised my children on my own. I did my very best. There was no child support. G’s attorney made sure that we had a 50/50 arrangement. Meaning, when the kids were with me, I was responsible for everything on my own. And with him, the same.
He didn’t buy them clothes, he didn’t support them outside of providing his house and food. And, he was a tyrant to them. There was an instance where my son, “Trey” ate G’s candy, and he ruthlessly cut them Trey off saying, “I’m not going to go be your dad anymore”. He cut Trey off for 6 weeks and of course, my son was devastated. G isn’t his biological father and it made it very easy for him to do this.
Through the years, G would still bully me via text (I kept all these records, pictures of my injuries etc) and would verbally assault me. I had poor boundaries and I was worn out from the years of trauma with G. So, I would take his abuse. Eventually, he would get married to someone named, “Y” and she would attempt to co-bully me and my sweet daughter.
Corrine was miserable at her dad’s. She would consistently tell me that she was depressed being there. That he was very mean to her and that she was scared of his anger. His wife would also slam doors around her, and would talk down to her. Corrine said that she was suicidal often- as you can imagine I was terrified and felt deeply stressed from this.
In 2021, things came to a head after Corrine repeated something her brother had done. She ate G’s candy (typing this also feels ridiculous) and he assaulted her. That trauma proved to be fateful in that it was so egregious that it resulted in me successfully getting my daughter removed from partial custody with G. I marched myself into court the next day. Spent the entire day going all over the court house to get an emergency no contact order.
Luckily I got this attack on recording and showed the judge. This was the only reason the order was granted. I had proof. G lawyered up, which meant I had to as well. And thus a long legal battle ensued. G kept insisting that Corrine be able to go back with him every other week.
I kept pushing back that she would not go back to this arrangement unless they went to counseling. G fought this for over a year citing, “I don’t need counseling” and finally he gave in. He was willing to go to counseling with our daughter. On that first session, he told Corrine I had tried to unalive myself (it isn’t something she knew yet) as a way to make me look bad.
He took that session and retraumatized her. And, the new judge seemed to just slap him on the hand about that. There was no real justice. G has an attorney who seems to have a personal vendetta against me (I’m sure it’s not true, but it is what it feels like) because I’ve been constantly made out to be, “the reason Corrine doesn’t want to be around her dad”.
The judge has not heard from Corrine directly even though Corrine is almost 17- it’s all been back and forth for years now. Presently, we are still fighting. This is ridiculous right? The fight is, that Corrine doesn’t want to go back there every other week. She just feels comfortable with every other weekend. She has expressed this directly to her dad- he will not back down.
So, I’ve had to continue to legally fight. There is no legal aid available friends. I have not gone the, “free legal aid” route because it was too stressful for me. G knew that I would get worn out in my autism. He knew I would run out of money. This is all about control. But it is worth it friends. Present day, Corrine is a published author (her painful experiences led her to write a book for others on healing, and she publishes her next one this August).
She has been a straight A student this entire process, and I’ve done everything I can to heal her. Friends, I have racked up my credit card completely in legal fees. I have taken out another loan which is maxed out. I let my lawyer know last month I won’t be able to use her services anymore and I asked her to rep me probono. She is not able to, but I understand this - she has her own livelihood.
My Go fund me ask is, $5555.00 but in full transparency again, I owe $25,000. I am doing my best to secure more work- I am just worn out and need the help. Presently, I’m down to my last. Friends, if you are able to donate any amount, I would thankful beyond measure. I do have a foundation- if you’d like to donate to it so you can receive a tax write off, please let me know. I still do makeup. If you’re in Ohio, I can serve you for makeup. I am also a trained life coach, and can offer you services or your child. I provide wardrobe styling, I’m a speaker and speak at your event- I don’t have any problem with giving you all something back in return.
I ask that you please help my baby girl and I. I have helped so many youth and now just need the same for her. Please know: 100 percent of this fundraiser will be to pay the legal fees. We are set for a trial in September. Thank you from the depths of my soul.
Here is my daughter’s testimony she recorded on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kYU9AGn3j7I?si=19XGUBte7heMYFrw
Here is her book to support: https://a.co/d/9ncNB3P
My TED Talk and more on my work:
Www.melrosvoice.com
I’ve also been advised to not publicly post this, as it good be held against me.
Friends in 2021, I started raising my sweet daughter solely on my own after she was viciously attacked by her father, my ex-husband. I left him in 2011 due to domestic violence. Typing the details is very difficult for me, but I feel compelled to share so that you’ll know why my ask is much needed.
When I was married to G, I and my children suffered. I experienced a broken left ankle, busted lips, black eyes, and extreme bullying. When I was seven months pregnant with Corrine, he pushed me down. The police were called several times to our home- I was always too afraid to press charges because, “G” (my ex husband) would fill my thoughts with terror that I couldn’t make it without him.
I spent many nights in hotel rooms with my children in an effort to get to safety. G knew that I didn’t have a family, and it made a lot of the abuse easy for him to carry out. In 2011, I decided that I couldn’t take the pain anymore. You see, not only had I experienced years of Narcissistic abuse from, “G”, but I had also suffered domestic violence in foster care. Along my healing journey, I was able to correlate the vicious cycle that unfolded for my life and made it my life’s mission to ensure I, or my children would never go through this again.
However. August 24, 2011 I became…. Tired. Tired in my soul. Tired of being hit. Screamed at. Having my car disabled, my finances strapped by G purposefully (he would make my half of the bills much higher though he was an architect, and I was an artist. There was no head of household. He made things 50/50 so I couldn’t leave him). I was tired of my PTSD that reminded me of the unloving things I went through in foster care. I couldn’t take anymore friends.
The morning G broke my ankle (he flew into a sheer rage after discovering I had cut my hair off. He insisted I tried to make myself, “ugly” when in actuality my hair had a chemical burn), I planned that day would be my last day living. I decided I couldn’t take it anymore and that I would unalive myself.
By the grace of God, I’m still here. There was a woman who saw me on the bridge I planned to jump from, and had the care enough to call the police. I ended up in a psyche ward. Cold. Alone. And at my lowest point. And that is when I decided to rise.
I would go on to do a TED Talk about my experience. Speak all over the world now. Build a school and help thousands of youth. I am, deeply grateful. Had I given up, I wouldn’t be here today and I thank God for life. My life experiences do not bring me shame, but rather inform my work as an advocate. Let’s fast forward this story: I made the decision to divorce G shortly after I got out the hospital. I got the divorce which was hugely unfair- however I couldn’t afford a divorce attorney.
G kept the house, all the furniture, everything. I left with my clothes, things in black trash bags (which is hugely why I continue to do luggage drives for youth) and lived in a small apartment where I raised my children on my own. I did my very best. There was no child support. G’s attorney made sure that we had a 50/50 arrangement. Meaning, when the kids were with me, I was responsible for everything on my own. And with him, the same.
He didn’t buy them clothes, he didn’t support them outside of providing his house and food. And, he was a tyrant to them. There was an instance where my son, “Trey” ate G’s candy, and he ruthlessly cut them Trey off saying, “I’m not going to go be your dad anymore”. He cut Trey off for 6 weeks and of course, my son was devastated. G isn’t his biological father and it made it very easy for him to do this.
Through the years, G would still bully me via text (I kept all these records, pictures of my injuries etc) and would verbally assault me. I had poor boundaries and I was worn out from the years of trauma with G. So, I would take his abuse. Eventually, he would get married to someone named, “Y” and she would attempt to co-bully me and my sweet daughter.
Corrine was miserable at her dad’s. She would consistently tell me that she was depressed being there. That he was very mean to her and that she was scared of his anger. His wife would also slam doors around her, and would talk down to her. Corrine said that she was suicidal often- as you can imagine I was terrified and felt deeply stressed from this.
In 2021, things came to a head after Corrine repeated something her brother had done. She ate G’s candy (typing this also feels ridiculous) and he assaulted her. That trauma proved to be fateful in that it was so egregious that it resulted in me successfully getting my daughter removed from partial custody with G. I marched myself into court the next day. Spent the entire day going all over the court house to get an emergency no contact order.
Luckily I got this attack on recording and showed the judge. This was the only reason the order was granted. I had proof. G lawyered up, which meant I had to as well. And thus a long legal battle ensued. G kept insisting that Corrine be able to go back with him every other week.
I kept pushing back that she would not go back to this arrangement unless they went to counseling. G fought this for over a year citing, “I don’t need counseling” and finally he gave in. He was willing to go to counseling with our daughter. On that first session, he told Corrine I had tried to unalive myself (it isn’t something she knew yet) as a way to make me look bad.
He took that session and retraumatized her. And, the new judge seemed to just slap him on the hand about that. There was no real justice. G has an attorney who seems to have a personal vendetta against me (I’m sure it’s not true, but it is what it feels like) because I’ve been constantly made out to be, “the reason Corrine doesn’t want to be around her dad”.
The judge has not heard from Corrine directly even though Corrine is almost 17- it’s all been back and forth for years now. Presently, we are still fighting. This is ridiculous right? The fight is, that Corrine doesn’t want to go back there every other week. She just feels comfortable with every other weekend. She has expressed this directly to her dad- he will not back down.
So, I’ve had to continue to legally fight. There is no legal aid available friends. I have not gone the, “free legal aid” route because it was too stressful for me. G knew that I would get worn out in my autism. He knew I would run out of money. This is all about control. But it is worth it friends. Present day, Corrine is a published author (her painful experiences led her to write a book for others on healing, and she publishes her next one this August).
She has been a straight A student this entire process, and I’ve done everything I can to heal her. Friends, I have racked up my credit card completely in legal fees. I have taken out another loan which is maxed out. I let my lawyer know last month I won’t be able to use her services anymore and I asked her to rep me probono. She is not able to, but I understand this - she has her own livelihood.
My Go fund me ask is, $5555.00 but in full transparency again, I owe $25,000. I am doing my best to secure more work- I am just worn out and need the help. Presently, I’m down to my last. Friends, if you are able to donate any amount, I would thankful beyond measure. I do have a foundation- if you’d like to donate to it so you can receive a tax write off, please let me know. I still do makeup. If you’re in Ohio, I can serve you for makeup. I am also a trained life coach, and can offer you services or your child. I provide wardrobe styling, I’m a speaker and speak at your event- I don’t have any problem with giving you all something back in return.
I ask that you please help my baby girl and I. I have helped so many youth and now just need the same for her. Please know: 100 percent of this fundraiser will be to pay the legal fees. We are set for a trial in September. Thank you from the depths of my soul.
Here is my daughter’s testimony she recorded on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kYU9AGn3j7I?si=19XGUBte7heMYFrw
Here is her book to support: https://a.co/d/9ncNB3P
My TED Talk and more on my work:
Www.melrosvoice.com
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MelissaRoshan Potter
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