Support Kylee's Journey to a Happier Life.
I have been hesitant to ask for assistance, but the medical bills are accumulating significantly. Furthermore, there are expenses for airline flights, hotel stays, and car rentals to visit Kylee every other weekend.
In addition to my vehicle being totaled, my husband and I have missed a considerable amount of work and exhausted our vacation time. We are fortunate to have understanding employers. We also have other kiddos. Kylee is one of five.
Regarding Kylee's situation...
Kylee has faced mental health challenges since a young age. From a very yound age she has witnessed alot of trauma. She began therapy and saw a psychologist at age nine. She was diagnosed with ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder), and GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder).
With therapy, stability, and consistency, Kylee's behavior and mood improved. She experienced ups and downs, but we were able to support her through them.
A little over a year ago, Kylee began to struggle significantly. We later discovered that her biological father had secretly contacted her, providing her with a secret phone and instructing her to keep it hidden. She started associating with a different group of friends. While with these new friends, a high school girl assaulted Kylee while another recorded it. This video circulated throughout the middle and high school, leading to severe bullying. We decided to withdraw Kylee from public school, and she start at a small private school. The class size is approximately nine or ten students, between both seventh and eighth grades.
She had always struggled with school, but she completely disengaged. She began self-harming and experiencing suicidal thoughts. We had to contact the crisis line for a manic episode. They dispatched the police and an ambulance, taking Kylee to the ER for a 24-hour observation. That's when I realized we needed to do more. She was no longer the joyful, playful, and happy daughter I knew.
In December of 2024, we had a psychiatric evaluation. She was diagnosed with DMDD (Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder), PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), and GDD (Generalized Depression Disorder).
She continued therapy, but her biological father decided to re-enter her life after four years. (Perfect timing, isn't it?) He has always been welcome in her life with the condition of a court order: to complete therapy with Kylee.
During this time, Kylee's therapist of the past four years changed jobs, requiring us to find a new therapist. During this period, Kylee was admitted to Pine Rest in Grand Rapids, MI, for ten days. Upon her return home, she attended weekly therapy sessions with her new therapist, as well as meetings with a school social worker. She still didn't seem like herself. Considering the circumstances, I agreed to a mediation to update the court order with the new therapist, so Kylee's biological father could work on therapy with the hope of becoming a supportive figure for her. She truly needs any positive influence to help her. He was informed of her condition and stays at Pinerest was present at the mediation, He then proceeded to scream, yell, and point at me aggressively, towering over me. He accused me of causing her distress by sending her to a mental hospital and blamed me for her mental health issues. Fearing for my safety, I ran down the hall, and he pursued me. I found a room and hid behind the door. Her biological father continued to scream and yell until he was eventually escorted out. It is important to note that this incident occurred within a courthouse. The police officers advised me to get a personal protection order. This is not a new situation, as I have had three such orders in the past for our safety. (This is a significant aspect of the trauma Kylee has experienced and contributes to her current struggles.) Fortunately, she was not present to witness this particular event. A few months later, Kylee experienced a crisis. We had to make the call again. The police and ambulance arrived. Kylee requested to go somewhere where she could receive help. She returned to Pine Rest in Grand Rapids, Michigan, for an additional ten-day inpatient stay. They recommended Roger Behavioral Health in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin Residental Care for BBP Borderline Personality Disorder Tendencies and Major Depressive Disorder. We had to wait three weeks for a spot to become available. This is a 90 day program. During this time, Kylee required round-the-clock care and supervision. I had to take a leave of absence to be with my daughter to ensure her safety. We drove six hours to help her settle in. While Kylee was at Rogers, she was admitted to an inpatient program twice for self-harm and suicidal ideation in her 6 week say. It was so hard watching my beautiful strong willed baby girl lose this battle. I missed tone of work driving 6 hours there and 6 hours back to see her for 1.5 hours. Her depression was steadily worsening. They referred kylee to a handful of other residential programs.
During all of this i receive court papers. kylees bio dad wants to get parenting time back. Mind you its been 4 years. His parenting time was temporarily on hold until
The program's failure for Kylee prompted extensive research, and sadly, her condition worsened. She was visibly struggling, and witnessing her pain is incredibly difficult. The question of how her condition worsened is deeply concerning, as she seems lost and uncertain of the reasons behind her struggles. Recognizing the need for a supportive, home-based environment where she could feel comfortable and be heard, we sought a small setting. We found a suitable option, although it is located across the country and is not in-network with our insurance. Despite these challenges, I am determined to do whatever is necessary to secure the help she needs. We will find a way.
I brought Kylee home from the inpatient unit at Rodgers and stayed overnight. The following morning, im 6 hour away as we were preparing to leave,im a mess stressed to the max, I received a call informing me that my husband had been involved in an accident. It turned out that my car had a flat tire, and my husband was transporting it on a car trailer pulled by his parents' Tahoe. He rolled the Tahoe, resulting in the total loss of all the vehicles involved. Thankfully, he is safe and unharmed. While vehicles can be replaced, this situation presents another financial challenge.
On Saturday, July 12, 2025, we carefully packed all of Kylee's necessities and everything that would fit in her suitcase, and then we flew to Scottsdale, Arizona. It was Kylee's first airplane experience, and she seemed quite thrilled by it. She was also nervous and scared to death. She allowed me to braid her hair(she hasnt let me touch her hair in 6+months), and we were fortunate enough to capture a few smiles that were truly priceless to me. We spent Saturday and Sunday exploring the area, cherishing quality time with our daughter. We wanted her to experience the surroundings before her stay. The experience certainly had its moments of both joy and challenge, and we embraced it all as it unfolded. On Monday, July 14, 2025, Kylee was admitted to the Avery House in Arizona, where she is one of eight children residing in this actual home. We recive calls everyday. She seems to be in good spirits for the majority of the time. She was excited to tell me about spending time with horses. They also got a DQ Blizzard for dessert one night.
Kylee being across county is so stressful, but having her get the help she needs and being in a place that can provide her help gives me peace of mind. She will get through this so she can move on to live a happy life. I will get my baby back.
This program can be 90 days or 120 day +. it all depends on her. She will have alot of after care.
The money donated will be used to pay Medical Bills, Plane Tickets to see kylee (driving take 1 day 5hr) Hotel stays, Rental Car. Things kylee needs and Care for after. Back bills from missed work. Help with lawyer fees to protect kylee.
Kylee private school fees.
I appreciate anyone that can help.