"Gender dysphoria impacts every aspect of my life. As a person with diagnosed bipolar 2 and ADHD, emotional regulation is already difficult. The added stress of waking up every day and being forced to exist in a body that feels all wrong makes stability and peace nearly impossible. I have started grinding my teeth and have had to go to the dentist with tooth pain. I have stomach issues when I am stressed that have been flaring up. I have been having nightmares so bad that I wake up not feeling like I've slept at all. My inability to find any sense of inner peace or acceptance has put a strain on nearly all of my personal relationships. Simply put, this is not a mode of existence I, or anyone for that matter, can survive in for an extended period of time. Therapy and medication can only do so much - that is where top surgery comes in. Being able to exist with a flat chest would assuage the worst parts of the gender dysphoria I experience, as well as being referred to by the correct name and pronouns."
I am a 28 year old non-binary queer person living in North Texas and my pronouns are they/them. I currently work part time at a local restaurant and I am also going to school part time to get my CNA license so I can work as a Mental Health Technician at a rehab or behavioral health facility; mental health and wellness is my passion.
I came out as a lesbian in my early twenties after a lifelong battle with internalized homophobia, and this year I finally accepted that I am also non-binary. Non-binary refers to a spectrum of gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine—identities that exist outside the gender binary. The Gender Binary is defined as a system of gender classification in which all people are categorized as being either male or female.
This has been something that I have struggled to come to terms with my whole life, and it has been a huge relief to finally allow myself to be seen as I am. My first indication that I was non-binary was the gender dysphoria I experienced around my chest, and research combined with discussions with other trans and non-binary folks revealed that top surgery was the main way to assuage that dysphoria and even experience gender euphoria. Gender Dysphoria is the experience of discomfort, dissatisfaction, or distress over the wrongness or incongruity between a trans person’s internal and external reality, between their sex and gender, body and mind, presentation and inner sense of self. Gender Euphoria is the feeling a trans person gets when they are able to start presenting as the gender they identify as and people start treating them accordingly.
How Top Surgery Alleviates Gender Dysphoria In Trans and Nonbinary Individuals
It is not an exaggeration to say that gender affirming care such as top surgery is life-saving, medically necessary care - not elective or cosmetic. Despite that fact, most healthcare providers do not cover gender affirming care, so it is left to the individual to find the money. I know that for my health, I need this surgery, and to get this surgery, I have to ask for help. Thank you for the help you are giving me - it means more than you know.
Top surgery by Dr. Peter Raphael at the American Institute for Plastic Surgery, aka the International Center for Transgender Care in Plano, TX. After initial consultation, surgery cost comes to $6650.
Thank you for your support.
- Abraham Gellis
- Carly Loniewski
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