My name is Kay, and I’m a trans woman.

I’ve been transitioning for two years now, and honestly, it’s been a great positive change in my life. While being the most difficult as well.

Growing up, I always tried to fit in and play the role expected of me. Deep down though, I felt out of sync with who I really was and who I was showing the world. Starting as young as five years old, I started questioning my gender. I felt more at peace and connected around the women in my life, and I found comfort in my femininity. Still, the world around me kept reducing me to what they wanted of me.

One moment that’s really stuck with me is when I was about 12 and dared to try on a dress. What no one knew was that ’d always wanted to do this because it felt more real to me. Trying on that dress gave me a spark of joy and pride I’d never felt before. It was the first time I tested those feelings I’d been hiding. Growing up in a Catholic household, I didn’t have many chances to explore or show this side of myself openly. The little moments I did have, like wearing nail polish as a kid, meant a lot. They weren’t just fun; they gave me a glimpse of a real community where people could be themselves without pretending.

Since then, I’ve worked hard not just to live as my true self but to help others do the same. I co-founded a nonprofit that focuses on advocacy for everyone. To be heard no matter the age, race, gender, sexuality, or any other thing people separate us all by. My journey has been full of ups and downs, but through it all, I’ve kept moving forward. Pushing for a world where these issues aren't even considered.

Now, after two years of transition, I’m ready for my next step: gender-affirming bottom surgery. This surgery means the world to me. It’s about feeling whole, safe, and finally free in my own body. But the reality is, the costs are way beyond what I can cover on my own.

That’s why I’m asking for help.

This fundraiser will cover these costs:

Surgery and surgeon fees

Anesthesia and hospital fees

Travel and lodging (surgery is out-of-state)

Any additional uncovered medical costs

Rent and basic expenses during recovery

If I surpass my goal, all extra funds will go directly to another trans person in need of care.

Thank you for reading my story and for any kindness or support you can offer. It means more than I can say. Even if you can't support with a donation, sharing this story means just as much.

Sincerely,

Kay