Kathy's Cancer Battle

Today we received the news we've been dreading. Kathy's cancer has come back. Doctors found a mass in her lower back. We have doctors visits and tests and more tests in the days ahead. When cancer comes back in another part of your body its automatically a stage 4 incurable cancer. Its not all gloom and doom though, IF the mass is only located in her lower back, we can treat it and hopefully Kathy can live with it for years and years.


2 years ago...

My Wife. My anchor. When I look back at my life...I can only imagine where I would be had I not met my wife. I had been alive for 24 years, but I didn't truly start to live until we met. We met in Orlando, Fl at Walt Disney world and its been magical ever since. We dated and after 1 year, we were married. There was never a question. No marriage is perfect, but ours is close. We lived and grew together for 5 years and then in 2004 my son Sean was born. Sean is a joy and the perfect addition to our family. Something odd happens when you have a child, its not about you anymore. I've always heard that parents live for their children, but you really don't understand that, until you have your own.

Fast forward 8 years. Everything is perfect and we find out that Kathy is pregnant. THIS WAS NOT PLANNED. But....life turns on a dime. After the initial shock, we were happy and looking forward to the new addition.

Fast forward 8 months. While Kathy was getting out of the bath, she noticed a large lump in her right breast. I felt it and was immediately terrified. You see, this wasn't a small lump, this was nearly the size of her entire D sized breast. So started the journey of finding out what it was. Since she was pregnant, we couldn't get the typical Mammogram so we had an ultra sound. The ultra sound came back clean, nothing cancerous found, simply dense breast tissue. We were elated! Kathy's OB got the report and confirmed the findings, but he wanted to follow up with a breast surgeon. The breast surgeon saw the same Ultra sound report, but he wanted to be sure so he did his own ultra sound right there in his office. His findings were the same but the lump was from something and it could have just been dense fibrous tissue. The doctor performed a biopsy on the breast to ultimately find out what was going on with it. Biopsy came back today as cancer. Stage 3.

So many emotions. From not knowing, to thinking everything was fine, to the cold reality. Kathy cried and cried and while I teared up, I'm trying so hard to be strong for her. I've resorted to going into the bathroom and turning on the shower and letting my emotions go.

This sucks. WE have a baby girl on the way and we just found out my wife has cancer. Its the type of thing you hear about and feel bad for the people that have to go through something so terrible. We'll beat this. One day at a time.

2 years later......

So, we're all still here.  Its been the hardest 2 years of our lives.  So many doctors, surgeries, tests.  We've been to Germany and back - all to cure my wife of this deadly disease.  Needless to say this has taken a toll on us financially.  Kathy obviously was unable to work for the longest time and she's still only working a couple days a week.

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