Jordon's Family Needs Help After Tragedy

I apologize if this may seem unprofessional.

Heidye and I live together in Washington, Seattle with our baby sora and dog Hana.

We also have my dad, aunty & grandma living with us.

We had two cars and now we are only down to one with a rent bill at $16k, which is why I’m writing this.

In the year 2022 I helped my uncle Shawn and younger brother Jayson move from California to Seattle, Washington.

Just a few days later, I received a call from my younger brother (Jayson) that both of them were in a car accident, which left our Uncle Shawn on life support. My younger brother was driving while uncle was in passenger (I, Jordon, was already back in California because of my job)

My fiancé & I without any doubt decided to move and transfer with our jobs in hand. We were ready to help out my younger brother in Washington. Worried about his recovery-both mentally and physically; we couldn’t imagine leaving him alone at such a critical time.

When my fiancé & I finally arrived to Washington, uncle Shawn was already on his deathbed. The car accident led up to him being on the donor’s list but he unfortunately got COVID while in the hospital and could no longer donate his organs but nonetheless was still honored.

Me and Heidye stayed with him, as we were saying our final goodbyes and our promises, he shed a tear for us.

He later died that same night in Kaiser Permanente, Tacoma Medical Center.

My uncles ashes sit above our fireplace and till this day, we are not able to have a proper funeral for him.

As an older brother, I want to be there for my sibling and make sure he is okay emotionally and spiritually.

One day, Jayson decided that he wanted a dog, so heidye and I let him pick the breed that he wanted (Shiba Inu). Of course we agreed, we wanted nothing but happiness for him and that we want to show that we care. Jayson has never took hana to any of her doctors appointments nor paid anything regarding to her health.

I can’t put a pin on when Jayson started to get real hostile towards me, heidye & his own grandma but I do know where the actions started to shift.

For myself, i love to great everyone when I get home from a long day, no matter how bad the day was. My brother intentionally ignored us, played mind games with us. For example, he stole back the PC I bought from him that he wanted to sell, he would cut off our heater in the middle of winter, he would also completely ignore our grandma just for simply asking how was his day.

The day I knew he did not care anymore is when my grandmas brother died in 2024 (uncle Gary). Everyone was giving all their support to grandma and when Jayson came home to the news, all he said to grandma was “Oh”.

It got to a point where honestly I was not feeling safe around him anymore and when we reached to that boiling point, he said that he doesn’t feel safe with us?

A few weeks later, Jayson knew that grandma was flying back home (Oahu) to attended uncle Gary’s funeral and Jayson decided to do something that I am not entirely sure why.

He puts our grandma in a feud with other family members (that I don’t believe is resolved today) and brings those family members to our house to pack up all of Jayson’s things to move out.

What made me and heidye very mad is that he tried to steal our Hana girl (shiba inu) with the family members who have no idea what is going on. I had spoke with my cousin that was on “Jayson’s side”, she said that we were treating him like he is nothing and that he is a second thought in the house?

I couldn’t believe what I heard from all the things we sacrificed just to have Jayson’s mentle stability be sane, I totally understand how he feels about the accident but I do not understand why he blames us for it.

From the 2 years we had been in this Seattle house, he has not shared a single dime towards the house yet he had money to buy an electric scooter, electric bike, Nissan leaf and an MSI Neon Genesis PC set up.

The last I’ve heard of Jayson is that he moved into my cousins in-laws house but they decided to kick him out because Jayson was waiting for them at home with a gun in their hand (so I’m told)

Maybe a couple days after and I get a call from his manager “Somebody needs to pick up Jayson because he is going to kill himself, if not I will call the police”

Of course I denied to pick him up.

I have not spoken to my younger brother Jayson since March 2024 nor does he know he is an uncle.

As the year goes by, my grandma, dad, aunty & fiancé had a pretty good thing going on, we had the rent on time, utility’s were being paid off and everything was peachy.

My fiancé and I had planned to have a baby and start a family because we felt like we were more than comfortable to do so.

I worked at a Jamba Juice as a shift lead since I could not continue with my career in Massage Therapy because my license was not in Seattle, it was in La Quinta and Hawaii. I tried applying to many spas and they all told me the same thing, my license is out of state.

Things were still doing good, bills were being paid and then it hit us, heidye and I got pregnant with baby sora!

In the midst of our stages of pregnancy,

My aunty who lives with us started seeing somebody and to sum that relationship up, the guy she was seeing was supposedly homeless. My aunty kinda pleaded for him to start living with us and heidye and I disagreed, we did not want a stranger in our house especially during pregnancy.

What heidye, grandma & I could not believe is that she stole the rent money we keep aside & with that rent money gone, it started to accumulate. Heidye and I sold whatever we could to get the money back to break even but the late fee’s kept on piling up so we didn’t have a chance.

My father isn’t the strongest when it comes to money nor does he make enough to be stable.

i am ashamed of myself to be asking for help like this but all i want for my family is to have a home to be in.

love & aloha

-jordon & heidye.