Join us in supporting Shelby, Nic and Children ❤️

Shelbi and Amanda, long time friends of Shelby and Nic would like to invite you to join us in supporting their family through a very difficult time.

The funds we raise will be used for any medical expenses, travel to and from appointments, and hopefully allow for the family to be together with less of a financial burden. We also can’t determine all expenses but know any help would  truly be a blessing to the family.

Here is a little back story,

Shelby and Nic met in 2019 and quickly blended their family. Prior to Shelby meeting Nic, She was a hard working single mother to her son, Jesse. Nic too was a loving single father to his daughter, Karlee. When the two met they fell quickly in love and began their journey as a new family. In 2020 they welcomed their first healthy boy, Baker!

Then, in 2021 the exciting news of pregnancy came! This time the family was overjoyed to be welcoming another daughter into the family.

Shelby and Nic, found out through blood testing that they were having a little girl.

On December 3rd the family went in for their 5 month ultrasound sound. This appointment was to confirm gender and check on babies progress. This day Shelby and Nic received news that no expecting parents should have to hear. The doctor found fluid in the babies brain and diagnosed her with hydrocephalus, a condition that is treatable when caught early. They were advised to follow up with a specialist to further diagnose and to develop a treatment plan.

On December 14th, they had the next appointment. After hours of testing and imaging, further complications were discovered. This is when their whole world came crashing down, as baby girl has very critical and severe complications.

Shared below is a message from the mother Shelby explaining the news they received on this very sad day.

“Update on our baby girl ❤

Tuesday was one of the hardest days of our lives. We got the worst news possible.

What we thought was hydrocephalus, was so much more. She has multiple brain abnormalities. Some, the neurologist hasn't even seen before, and because of that he couldn't diagnose her.

What we do know is, all the abnormalities are in the part of her brain for development and motor skills. She also has a crooked brain stem, meaning it's unlikely that she'll know how to breathe on her own. It's unlikely that she would walk, talk, or even be able to eat. She would need round the clock help her entire life.

She also has a heart abnormality which requires open heart surgery. Her brain abnormalities make this more complicated and dangerous.

She's also measuring about 3 weeks smaller then she should be. She has a possible clubbed foot and her hands were clenched inwards which is a sign of cerebral palsy.

At this point, its a matter of IF she'll survive life after birth. And if she does, she's not expected to have any quality of life.

We obviously don't have to share this with the world. But it's easier for me to make one big post, rather then continuously explain what's going on.

We have a lot of big decisions we have to make. We are heartbroken and grieving.

We ask that this isn't brought up to our kids. We don't plan on telling them until at least after the holidays.

We also ask that unless we ask, your opinion of what we should do, or what you "think" you would do, is kept to yourself. Nobody actually knows what they would do until they are in this situation. And it's something I wish nobody had to go through.

We ask for space during this time. Tuesday was an emotionally overwhelming day for us. And we are still processing and overwhelmed. We know everyone will want to help, but there's nothing to help this. We are facing something we never imagined we would face. The doctors weren't even expecting this.

Thank you everyone for sending us love and positive vibes. Again, please respect our space during this sensitive time. Right now we are trying to make the hardest decisions of our life while also keeping things as normal as possible for our kids, especially during the holidays ❤”

We humbly ask for your donations for this family. If you can’t afford a donation but this story touches your heart, please send positive thoughts and prayers to the family.