John and Ruth Medical and Moving $

A few years ago, I had reached the end of a long struggle with some serious medical issues, severe financial setbacks with the Great Recession, and ended a discernment to Religious Life with some Catholic Sisters.  I also found myself in a postion of being in between faith communities at a time when family relationships had become once again estranged. I had, truly, nowhere to go. My friend John had an extra bedroom and opened his home to me. We became friends. Over time, we became family. As I became more disabled, our friendship became such that we helped each other to find a way to be free and happy. He added me to his health insurance, and provided for and protected me from many harsh things that happen when one has no money and nowhere to go. In turn I turned his house into a home. Where he had a lamp, there was light. Where there was sugar and flour, there was cake or a pie. We help each other every day.  In October of this year, John was diagnosed with lung cancer. His cancer could have been removed a few years ago, but due to a doctor change and people not paying attention, a test was missed and now he is in stage 4, non small cell lung cancer. He is suffering terribly. The day he found out this news, we had come from looking at places to perhaps purchase. Just a small place, where maybe a tenant could rent a room from us and help us as we aged, because I am disabled, and his children are already grown with their own families.  We were making plans, and had started to have dreams again after life had dished some curve balls that neither of us had preferred or particularly wanted. 
Now we are here. John is not able to tolerate the chemo, and will be hoping to try immunotherapy soon.  We hope it helps him stablize and stay comfortable. Our plan of buying anyplace no longer makes since, since the potential is very real of relying on only my income from disability.  We need to pay for first and last on a smaller apartment. We need to pay for certain medical things for his treatment that insurance does not cover.We have been paying ahead on two plans for final expenses, but these need to be fully paid before the need arises. And there is the reality that the car must be kept running because we both need to be able to get to the doctor regardless of when the bus is running. These monies may be needed at any moment, because cancer is a very unpredictable beast.  We do have plans to meet these expenses, and a budget, but both of us are on fixed incomes and that only stretches so far. Should something happen in the next month, there will be a world of hurt, and it's impossible to charge a wheelchair while sleeping in a van.  This is NOT an understatement. The thing is, many folks have offered couches, and that is much appreciated....and MIGHT be neccessary...however, it really is not what is needed. What is needed is to get relocated in a place before John passes or immediately after. He is willing to relocate also and this may actually help him have some closure, knowing I will be safe and protected.  We really need to reduce our expenses anyway, as our rent is expected to increase at the end of our lease by an amount that will price us out of these apartments. 
Other ways to help: If you have a few spare hours in the late night or early morning to be awake and come sit here while I get a few hours sleep, that would be a big help. All you have to do is wake me if anything changes with him. 
A little elbow grease on the inside of the oven or fridge once a month would be most appreciated as my hands don't work. 
If you really like to dust, it sure makes it easier to breathe. We have people to clean but our funding does not cover the dusting that we really need done. 
Neither of us eats much so we don't need food, but there are always errands to run and I always appreciate someone who likes to take the car to the car wash and use some of my cash to fill the tank up. I can't really leave him alone and the fumes are hard to breathe for both of us. 
Anyway, these are the most pressing things I can think of right now. your company is always welcome and even though talking on the phone is  difficult for me, due to my vocal cord issues, I can text or messenger chat. John would love to hear from you as well. Even if you leave a message on his voice mail. He wants to know that you will remember that he made you smile. Thank you for your support and good wishes. We both really appreciate it very much