: At 8:30 p.m. on March 26, 2018, my husband Jim Borelli was going up the steps to our second floor in our house where our bedroom is located. He had an armload of freshly washed bed sheets to take up. He kissed me and said he was heading up to bed early. We have a 2 story house with the bedrooms and full bath upstairs. Little did either of us know that 10 seconds later Jim would fall and become paralyzed.
I heard a sound I didn't recognize but heard Jim swear and then heard a tremendous clunk several times and then a very loud smash. I thought the bedsheets Jim was carrying up got caught on a dresser handle or doorknob and the dresser crashed and broke apart. I was hollering not to worry about the furniture as I jumped up and saw my Jim passed out cold at the bottom of the 15 steps to our 2nd level.
He remembered losing his footing, cursing, and trying to grab the handrail or kick his foot out in the stairwell to stop the momentum of falling. I grabbed the phone to call 911 and kept calling his name and tapping his cheeks as I was afraid he hurt his neck. I remember hollering out "Don't you dare take him from me".
2017 was a hard year with my kitty cat Zoey's sudden illness and we put her down in April. The last week of Sept. my job was eliminated due to a merger, so I was suddenly jobless. Four days later my mom suffered a massive stroke and died in hospice not even a week later. In Nov. my lungs hurt and the pulmonologist diagnosed a lung nodule which thankfully dissolved. With my loss of my mom, I was in no merry christmas mood and neither was Jim. We put up a tree because I knew my mom would want me to have one. Just had 2 presents to us from our daughter Jamie.
Jim had 4 surgeries since his fall. His spine was fused and is held together in the correct position with metal plates and titanium rods. He aspirated (swallowed something and it went down the wrong pipe as we might say), so he couldn't breathe and was on a respirator. It got so bad that the doctor said he needed a tracheotomy which is basically cutting a hole in Jim's throat and inserting a breathing tube. He does not remember anything from the first hospital.
Being a Vietnam Vet, Jim was transferred to the Milwaukee Zablocki VA Medical Center. He was in several units and is now in the Spinal Cord Injury Unit. What was so distressing was that Jim couldn't talk to us with the respirator in his throat. We guessed at lip reading, brought in pictures of items he might need so he could nod yes or no, another several sheets of words like "pain" or "stop" or "come here". He finally had the breathing tube removed however he still has a bandage over the healing hole in his neck.
Jim is paralyzed from the waist down and also his hands are limp including his fingers. He was an active retiree (age 68) playing baseball with a number of teams, loved mowing the yard, and walking round the neighborhood, and visiting with neighbors. He was the President of our Stonewood Homeowners Association. Jim is very social and this accident could leave him paralyzed forever; however, it is still too early to say.
Jim is about 2 months out from completing his physical and occupational therapy at the VA. He did complete his speech therapy which mostly consists of relearning swallowing and strengthening muscles so he doesn't choke. He is still on tube feeding and just this past week got his first taste of pureed food. Jim has a great sense of humor. He said the scrambled eggs were like cotton candy because once they hit his mouth, they dissolved into nothingness. He did like the waffle and coffee is really thick which is odd to me.WHAT IS NEEDED:
With Jim coming home in 2 months, I have several household modifications that need to be done.
*Wheelchair ramp to house
- I have this scheduled for installation on 6/20. Thankfully the ramp is provided by the VA.
*Ramp from inside door to garage
(2 steps down)
*Ramp from kitchen sliding doors to back porch
(2 steps down) The VA does not pay for these ramps.
*Doorway from living room to kitchen is too narrow and needs to be widened
and have hardwood flooring installed where the drywall currently is.
*Handicap Van Cost.
I hunted down used wheelchair vans (Dodge Grand Caravan and Chrysler Town & Country). I have been searching for a minivan 3 years new with low mileage. $30,000 to $35,000 for vehicle.
We based our goal of $35,000 primarily to cover a wheelchair accessible van.
. I have 3 bills from last Nov. that are still being processed so I do not know what the patient portion will be. These bills are prior to Jim's spinal cord injury. I just want all previous bills from 2017 paid to close out that year. Jim has Medicare which covers a good portion of medical bills but not all. Jim has been classified by the VA system as a veteran with a catastrophic injury. Medical Supplies
. I do not know what I will need but maybe slings, linens, specialized wipes like the hospital uses, compression socks, mattress protection pads in different sizes, Twin XL sheets for the hospital bed, clothing that is easily removed, and until he comes home, I am not sure what else.
. I truly need people to stop by and visit us so Jim feels he is still part of the community. He is strong and a fighter and has made great progress. He originally had no feeling in his body from the neck down. Now even though his upper and lower arms can move, he cannot feed himself, bathe, even blow his nose or wipe his eyes. I am more than willing to take the best care I can of Jim when he comes home. The house is so lonely without him here. We will have home nursing care provided.HOW THE FUNDS WILL BE USED:
Before Jim comes home, I have to have the following ready. Most important, the van.
Minivan with wheelchair/handicapped access to get to house. $30K -35K
Wheelchair and power station - VA to provide
Wheelchair ramp to get into house once home - VA to provide ramp to front door - they provide 1 ramp.
Jim will also need a ramp to go from the house to garage and also a separate ramp to go from the house to the back yard.
An electrical ift is needed to get to 2nd floor which has the bathroom with shower facility (only powder room on 1st floor) and more importantly to get to the hospital bed on 2nd floor in spare bedroom. The VA is submitting this request and is awaiting decision on approval or not.
Hospital bed delivered and taken to 2nd floor and set up - VA to provide.
A lift to move Jim from bed to wheelchair and bath - VA should provide but it has to be delivered before Jim gets home or I can't get him into bed or into the bathroom. I assume I need one for both floors of our house.
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Karn and Jim Borelli