A beautiful story and soul with unknown tragedy.

Hi my name is Amir Esfandyari and this is the story of my beautiful wife’s unknown tragedy.. two and a half years ago I met Solina Marx, the girl I met and fell in love with, I have never shared such an experience and close connection with anyone else in my entire life. The first two years were flawless and beautiful and we recently had a baby girl on November 2nd 2022, she is so precious and it’s been such a beautiful experience up until to 6-7 weeks ago. All of a sudden my wife began having back pain that started to get more intense. 6 weeks ago is when she was no longer able to lay down on her stomach, back, or side, she then had to sleep sitting up in her bed. It began to get harder and harder, we now had to get a walker and crutches, after a few weeks she collapsed twice using the walker on the way to the bathroom but thank god I was there to catch her both times, she was in excruciating pain. It still got worse, the final day that she was able to sleep in the bed sitting up , she woke up and moved for her hoodie and the nerve pain was so intense that I had to call the ambulance because she couldn’t move, couldn’t breathe, and she was shaking and about to pass out because she couldn’t hold herself up… they gave her 50mg fentanyl when they got there and she became better, kinda functional, and moveable. They then rushed her to the emergency room where they took X-rays and said that she was fine and sent her home. We all want to believe and trust medical professionals, so she did. This was four days ago and she has already had to sleep on the couch held up by pillows… Now for the past week she has had to sleep back straight up in a chair and 99.5% of the time she can’t even sleep like that, I’d not think anyone can. She went about 7 days with no more than 5 hours of sleep. You could see in her eyes she was pleading for help. She can’t stand, she can’t sit, and she can’t sleep, just put yourself in her shoes… We then went to an osteopathic “specialist” … she had hope and was smiling. When we got there and entered he did not even care to see or check what was wrong with her, he just began to move her for about 30 min, it was painful... The day after she was severely messed up, she sat there on the chair holding herself up with the walker and she looked at me with total exhaustion and said, “how is it possible that no one can help me, I am so exhausted and can’t sleep and my spine and nerve pain is so bad and I can’t keep going to appointments because I’m too tired and afraid of the bumps and turns in the car.” Just close your eyes and imagine the love of your life looking at you completely defeated and asking you that… it crushed me and I still cry just thinking about what she’s had and is going through…when she said that to me as she moved back and forth on the kitchen chair holding the walker, she moves back and forth because the pain is so bad… I just broke down crying and called her parents and I just pleaded for help, I told them that this is a cry for help. I could see it in her eyes that this was it , that she was begging for help but was too exhausted to go on… just step back and imagine how that would be and how sad I just felt to see that type of cry for help from my wife… her parents came straight over and we went to the emergency room again and she was in so much pain and they did nothing , she began to shake and sweat and when that happens she can’t hold herself up and then comes the excruciating severe nerve attacks, they brought one pill and say it there as they had the audacity to try and fill out a questionnaire… and then it happened in front of 5 nurses and one doctor , this blew all of the other incidents away by 1000x and they did nothing to move quicker and get her something to get rid of the pain.. it was 5-7min of sheer agony and horrific nerve damaging screams where she can’t even breathe… you should see the bite marks on her lips and it’s been over 24 hours .. all I could do was hold her as she clenched onto me. Her parents even came rushing from the waiting room far away because of the screams, there was no door to the room just a big sliding wall door and they stood there frantically and helplessly watching and the doctor had the nerve to stop everything she was doing and made them leave and didn’t continue until done, so sad… Finally they drugged her up and she was able to become less tense, she told me that she thinks her back just snapped, but in that moment the pain subsided and those nurses could all see that what just happened was not ok and I could see in their eyes that it also traumatized them… this began to make them realize that this isn’t a joke and she cannot leave and what that dr did was not ok, finally. As the time passed the new X-rays came back and after a thorough check they finally found three fractured vertebrae, two that looked almost healed but were still sticking out like an improper heal and a 3rd fracture that was fresh. We were blown away that we heard that, but finally we had some closure and comfort knowing that we had answers… the crazy thing is nothing has happened for her to break her back in two spot and now a third, all that happened was a natural home birth with our daughter but the doctors really don’t think it was that, but other than that we don’t even have the answers ourselves…. This was February 17th and they told her they can’t do anything until the morning and we will transfer you for an MRI to check the nerve damage. Today the 18th I get there after being kicked out the previous night, and mind you she was in such a vulnerable state and they told me to leave, how messed up is that , she was traumatized and she was so scared because no one cares or cared and those nerve attacks can come at anytime and she needed some type of pain meds to avoid that when ever it could’ve happened… Today the 18th when I came back they now said we are not transporting her, she now has to wait til this Monday February 20th just to get an MRI.. who’s telling how long it’s gonna take til she gets the blessing of a proper surgery and her life back. Imagine being in so much pain finding out you have a broken back in three places and no one is helping you and you are so exhausted because you can’t sleep.. imagine how that is and would be… I will say there were some bad people in this hospital that treated her awfully bad telling her she’s not an emergency and she can’t have any pain killers, after a freshly broken vertebrae caused by them!!! and that she’s making people mad asking for pain relief after a freshly broken vertebrae when she was absolutely not… it’s absolutely insane and heartbreaking and I wasn’t even there while this part was happening because they made me leave, but I was on the phone. After they made me leave we waited in the lobby as we heard they were denying her the pain meds and then this random lady came in and said to me and her parents, why are u still here and we said we cannot leave until she is provided what she needs, you guys just broke her back… we were on the phone with Solina and this lady took her moms phone and started yelling at her saying you’re making everyone mad, just bite your teeth, it’s all in your head… that yelling went on for like 5min in front of all of us and then as we begged, she said with such an evil tone and look directly into my eyes, “fine I’m gonna give her everything!!!” I then thought to myself right away, “damn, did she just tell me she is gonna harm my wife?” Later the next day my wife said to me that, that same lady came into her room and was mad and said to her, “this is it, now your gonna get it all!!!” Like what the hell is this reality that hit us?? Did she just tell us both she’s gonna harm her intentionally??? And guess what happened the next morning… the dr comes in and tells us, “ wow you had such a critical does of morphine, Xanax, and sleeping pills, no one in here has ever gotten that much!” So that was the proof, it’s not rocket science to put two and two together, and I know if you shut down multiple nervous systems in the body with different types of drugs then that’s when the heart comes to a complete stop and you die in your sleep, absolutely absurd that this could’ve happened at a place where you should feel safe and surrounded by people you can trust. Luckily that night after we left I stayed on the phone with her and when she passed out I could still hear her breathing and we stayed on the phone the whole night as she slept, thank god… My wife is the most beautiful, humble, loving soul and she’s begging and pleading for help and so am I… we may have found the issue (still don’t know the cause) but these bills will be intense and she hasn’t been able to work or even move. This is a final call for help because she deserves it and she can’t get it. Please help her, she deserves nothing but the world and it’s as if it’s a nightmare from hell. My heart goes out to my beautiful wife, a true champion, but please guys, no one deserves to suffer like this when you can just look at her let alone into her eyes and see that she’s begging for help and that she’s exhausted and just wants to sleep. We just had a baby girl and she’s about to be four months old on February 22nd, my wife and my daughter do not deserve this, I would switch places with her in a heartbeat… this has been going on way too long and I cry almost every time I look at her because she’s still in the same situation and pain she was in for 6-7weeks. Please someone help us in anyway or form so we can get her help asap. That’s all I want is to help her. Please. It pains me deeply that I cannot heal her myself. I love you with all my heart Solina Marx.

::::::::::::::UPDATE Feb 27th 2023:::::::::::::::::

So my girl finally had surgery this last Friday, she was told she’ll be walking by Saturday the day after, and that she’ll even be able to go home, honestly they were so confident and it gave her so much hope. The surgery came and went and she was woken up about 3 hours after they finished, it was yesterday and we we’re excited and nervous… it’s now Sunday and she’s still there …I mean they said to her she could go home yesterday, like for real and said it with no doubt, and here we are , she said how could anyone ever go home that fast after that??? like she had a broken back with 4 vertebrae in a row , and she said she feels worse but she knows she’s just sore, but you know??? Like why do they have to lie ? Or Why do u promise someone so much hope? Like just tell them how it is so they know what to expect , it’s common sense… Someone who gives so much hope and trust into the next person because she’s desperate for help… it’s heartbreaking ..just to still be sitting there at the hospital in soooo much pain… I mean I see new movement from here that we haven’t seen before but she is just so heartbroken and sad from people who basically seem like they have know idea what they’re doing and just acting like do , who Fuckin knows but yea there’s no way she can leave even today and it’s Sunday …she tried to walk with me earlier cuz trust me she wants to leave the most … she even tried to walk with me but she told me she felt like she even had a feeling of what one of her previous breaks felt like, like the beginning pain of a break…I told her to just sit back and to not even test it if what u described is how u really felt… She has some type of osteoporosis presumably from the pregnancy hormones and the necessary calcium being sucked from her bones during breast feeding as her body was also depleted from in the beginning . So we know her bones are weak at the moment, prior to the surgery at the previous hospital she was told by the dr that she has to have the top and bottom vertebrae cemented along with the vertebrae in between but this surgeon said I don’t need to cement the top and the bottom… but u would assume at least cement the bottom, wouldn’t that need the most support ? Her bones are brittle at the moment, it would make sense… so the surgeon did only the 4 vertebrae besides the top and bottom, which is what she was told to by the previous dr m, so we pray that the right thing has been done… but you know what I’m saying ? Like why are we constantly being told one thing and then it’s another ? Do they even know what their doing? Also makes u wonder and hope that there’s no malpractice… you gotta understand, I’m not crazy to think this , their actions make you start to question… trust me , my girl and her parents (who would’ve never imagined), would say the same… So my goal now is to get her minerals that her bones and body needs because I have to help her as much as I can cuz we see time after time we can’t trust anyone. Luckily I had some stuff in her bag from the last hospital that I gave to her, gave her those asap just to get some tyoe of supplements started in anyway or form. We’ll be giving her calcium and vitamin D, the vitamin D allows for better absorption of the calcium and we bought vitamin k2 online cuz the k2 keeps the calcium in the bones as the vitamin D helps the calcium get absorbed better. I also have Irish Sea moss for her , the body consists of 102 minerals and sea moss has close to most and is known for curing bone disease…. Like I keep saying, I have to do everything in my part to help her just so I could sleep at night knowing I did my best. I love you babe and we’re gonna get u home, we must focus on strengthening ur body and detoxing u from these draining and sometimes unnecessary drugs/chemicals givin… we all have faith and so much hope and we really do believe we can beat this and help her make this recovery… it really is so heartbreaking cuz we have a 4 month year old ANDDDDDDDD she had to make such an abrupt stop to providing her precious and necessary breast milk… trust me it was a harsh and upsetting switch for baby ari , she threw up plenty unfortunately but she is better, and trust me this is my wife’s 4th kid, this ain’t her first rodeo, she knows what she’s doin and it was a tough situation, all of this… she’s also so distant from our 4month old daughter because it just is the situation, we bring her as much as we can but yea it’s just a terrible terrible tragedy… BUTTTTTTT I still have hope cuz I see progress, even if it’s 1% daily, I see it. We love you babe. Forever. We’re gonna get you home.