Jeff Barnett, for the family of

On December 16, 2022, Jeff Barnett died suddenly from complications of surgery, leaving a devastated family behind. Jeff was the sole provider for his wife and family, and his family was not prepared for such a loss in any way. His loving wife, Elizabeth, has been suffering from an incurable cancer. The future is daunting, to say the least, and they could use our help now for some of the immediate needs for his funeral and for just not having to stress over every penny while Elizabeth tries to figure it all out without him. I’ve been in her shoes before, and it’s completely overwhelming. Without God and a village coming together for me and my daughter, I don’t know how we would have made it through that, and now I’m here to gather a village around the Barnett family. Please join in to show your love and support for them. Any amount will help to ease this terrible transition they now face. Please also continue to lift them up in prayer.

I will leave you with Elizabeth’s words about Jeff today:

This is long and I’m heartbroken and bawling

Jeff Barnett March 7,1970- Dec 16,2022 10:03pm

This is the day the that we lost part of ourselves

I wanted to make sure that everyone knows that Jeff Barnett who is my best friend, my love , my person, my life partner, father of our children, big chief to our grandchildren and my Crispy chicken taco passed last night at 10:03 after complications of surgery. I don’t have it in me to talk to everyone right now but we love and appreciate all the prayers and messages. I Am struggling! My brain says this shouldn’t have happened because of many errors in his care but my heart knows that the Lord has had yesterday planned for the last 52 years and reguardless what happened that eventually this day would come. I am lost. He was my rock, paper and scissors. He was the foundation our family was built on. He was transparent. We had no secrets and we knew each other better than we knew ourselves. He was the most loving and generous man and gave to many. He didn’t believe in second chances. if he believed in you the chances were unlimited. He was physically and mentally strong and if something wasn’t right he don’t have a problem being the scissors. He was my provider and he loved doing it. He took care of me and care of everything. I’m so lost now. I have so many regrets, thoughts and worries. I’m not sure how I even pull off finances to exist with all my medical bills. He took care of everything. I don’t even know the things I need to know or how to do things I should know. I would ask him but he would say that I knew. We talked yesterday and somehow he knew that he wasn’t going to make it. I thought that he was just worried but I should have held him longer. He said if it’s your time it’s your time. I cried and he said that is what I always say and it’s true. I didn’t want the kids to see him this way but I managed to get each one of them back to tell him that they loved him and he was able to tell them that he loved them before he left us. Every fear, every question he had for the docs yesterday was answered with positive answers and then all his fears came true. Decisions we make now are based on what he would do or what he would want us to do. Gosh I’m so broken but he would want me to carry on for the kids and grandkids. It may take me some time to figure out how to do it. We were in the middle of moving which is a bitter sweet blessing. We will very soon have to finish moving and leaving the last place all our memories were shared. This is what he would want but it is just killing me. We will be meeting to plan his memorial services. No details are made but I know that he would want his good friend David Holland to officiate his service which will be on wed (time to be determined) and it will be at trinity baptist church. He always said to put him in a pine box and not waste money on a funeral so if you see a fancy pine box you’ll know I was able to pull that off for him. I know he loved all of you. I’m sorry but a lot of y’all I don’t remember or remember names because of everything I’ve been through but he would want me to let you know you all are invited to his celebration of life. We will run business as close to usual as we can this week becuase that’s what he would want but we will be closed wed for the funeral. My love was stolen from me and my family yesterday but we are so very blessed to have been his people while we had him. Rest in peace Big Chief. I love you to the moon and back and more then most! I know you don’t like to dance so just save me a seat

Please help them get through this difficult season. You may donate here, or if you’d like to give to a person directly, contact me at or Todd Wilson. We will ensure it makes it to the family for their immediate needs.

The funeral will be held on Wednesday, December 21, 2022, at 2:00 pm at Trinity Baptist Church in Shawnee, OK, with friend and pastor, David Holland, officiating.

Thank you,

Michele McNaughton