Jaxon James gained his wings too soon

Several people have reached out to me asking for a Gofundme link to donate to James and Erica as they navigate going forward without sweet Jaxon. If you would like to contribute, no matter how big or small it is appreciated. Everyone of us has continued to feel your love and prayers throughout this hard week. I know they couldn't do it without  the immense amount of support community wide. Thank you  

With your help Erica and James can take the time from work to grieve as they go through this next chapter. Prior to this tragedy James was accepted into school in Colorado to better his future for his family. I would like them to not have to stress about the details as they decide what that next chapter looks like. 

"With a heavy heart I think it is time I write a long, heart wrenching post. Writing this post today is much harder than I could imagine.

Monday May 31st 2021, memorial day, will forever in our hearts be remembered as Jaxon day.

For those of you reading this who have had the opportunity to meet Jax, know how much of a fun filled, adventurous, enthusiastic, crazy little boy he is.

Jaxon had quite the incredible, unforgettable memorial day weekend. He got to spend some very quality time with a handful of his favorite people, doing some of his favorite things. Many unforgettable memories will be cherished and dreaded from this past weekend.

On Monday at about 3pm, there was a distraction that took our attention away from Jaxon allowing him to slip out of sight. Before he was even noticed missing, somebody up on the highway called for help to call 911, yelling a kid got hit. As I was searching for my phone it occurred to me that it very well could have been my own dear Jaxon.

"From that moment on was mostly a blur. I knew there was no cell service where we were. I knew an ambulance would take far too long to arrive. The only thing I knew was that Jax was terribly injured and needed medical help as soon as possible. As I cradled my bleeding child while Erica drove like a mad man to the nearest hospital, I just kept praying that we would make it to the hospital.

When we arrived at the small town hospital, they were awaiting our arrival and quickly began working on stabilizing him. They also immediately called for an airlift. Within a short amount of time they were able to get him breathing and also sedated him in case he woke up he would be able to stay calm. During this time we had a few last minutes with Jax while he was still somewhat lucid. Erica Eveskcige held his hand and whispered in his ear while he ever so slightly squeezed her hand.

They allowed Erica to go in the helicopter with them. Where Jaxon's body began to fail. They couldn't get his head to stop bleeding and were running out of supplies on board the helicopter after giving him 3 blood transfusions. When arriving at harbor view medical center in Seattle, Jaxon's little body was trying to shut down, Erica says she counted atleast 8 different times they had to do cpr or give his heart drugs to keep it pumping. They did a CT scan on his brain to see how badly injured he was and what types of surgery they could perform. (During the CT he needed resuscitation again) the neurosurgeons determined that his brain is too badly damaged not only from the impact but also the amount of blood loss and lack of oxygen to his brain.

They have been able to stabilize our son, however with the irreversible brain damage, his brain is further and further dying with each hour.

Erica and I without hesitation knew that we needed to do our best to make sure his organs are donated.

Organ donation requires 100% brain death before they can make use of more than just the kidneys and liver. At 1 am this morning they conducted a brain death analysis and determined that he does not have any brain activity. They will have another team conduct the same test today at 1pm to double check their findings at which time they will declare our son dead and that will be his time of death.

From that point they will keep his organs alive just long enough to find viable transplant recipients.

Erica and I have both had experiences lately that have prepared us for this moment, no can fully prepare for the death of a loved one, however we are both heart broken and devastated, we have hope and gratitude for the time that we had with Jax and for the future that his recipients will be able to have.

For those of you who had the heart and patience to read through this long post. Before you ask if there is anything you can do for us. Please do this.

Cherish each moment you have with your loved ones. Make as many memories with them as you can.

Take pictures of those memories.

We are doing our best to cherish and remember Jaxon's light hearted, fun filled personality. We would love to be able to compile a photo album of any pictures you may have of him. We would also love to compile a book of any memories or stories you have of Jaxon. We don't care how long or short, how good of a story teller or typer you are. We want to be able to relive those memories for time to come.

So please remember to love those you love. Even if it involves awkward tears, please help us keep Jaxon's memory alive with pictures and stories, and please pray for Erica, Elena and I as we learn and adjust to being a family of 3 again.

Please feel free to share this post where you wish, and please feel free to share with us and Organ donation stories you may have.

Jaxon entered this world a fighter, and a fighter he will leave, fighting and hanging on just long enough to give his organs to someone in need."

--James Eveskcige