Baby B

Infertility is hard, so is asking for help.

When Jesse and I got married eight years ago, I thought we would start having kids immediately. At this point we would have four of them, or at least that was the dream. I didn't think that eight years later we would still be trying to have our first. We've done all the testing and the results were "unexplained infertility". We have done IUI's, put ourselves on the ND adoption list, went to meetings about foster care and even went so far as to have some serious meetings about adopting an 11 year old out of foster care. After our fourth meeting, I decided that it just didn't feel right so we didn't move forward with the adoption process. I knew the reason it didn't feel right was largely due to the fact that I can't give up my dream of having a baby.

After our last IUI failed, my doctor was very blunt in telling me that I needed to stop "messing around" and just go straight to IVF. In October of 2022, we flew to Colorado to try our first IVF retrieval. Unfortunately, it was not successful. At that point, we were faced with two options, keep pouring money into IVF knowing the odds are stacked against us based on the first retrieval and my age OR get home study approved and start the adoption process while also hiring an out of state consulting agency. As I mentioned before, we put our names on the ND adoption list over two years ago now and were recently told we would continue to be on that list for at least three more years before we even have a chance in ND. That's why we hired a consulting agency in Georgia. While we won't know the exact cost of everything until we are placed with an expectant mom, we do know that we are looking at over $40,000 to adopt our first baby.

Thank you so much for reading and being a part of our journey towards parenthood!