IVF help, after suffering, hopes dashed

This is a story that spans over a long time. It really shouldn't have done but that's where we're at. IVF is now our only option. My only option to carry a child that is mine and my loving husbands.

8yrs ago, 15/04/2013 I had an ectopic pregnancy which resulted in surgery and I believed the whole of my right fallopian tube had being removed. The scars on my stomach show that everywhere was checked out. But at this point I was not made aware of an issue with my remaining tube.

2 plus yrs later of trying to fall pregnant again with absolutely nothing happening we went for tests. After a lot of prodding and poking and being told so many different things, it was settled that my remaining tube was completely blocked. This led to a breakdown of that relationship.

4yrs down the line I had accepted that I would not be able to have another child without medical assistance which would cost a fair bit. 

At this point in my life I met a beautiful man who accepted me for me. Broken parts and all. I went to see if I could have a hysterectomy, and was told of a surgeon who should be able to fix/remove the blockage! Really?!? After all this time? So we started the process again. More tests more prodding. And I get put on the waiting list for this consultant. Then covid strikes. As this surgery is classed as elective its put on hold.

30/07/2021 - Op day. Nerves, excitement and of course scared. I'm first in, awesome. In the recovery room I ask if he saved my tube, they said I wouldn't remember but I kept asking and they said he had. I was overjoyed. Sat in pain but it felt worth it, if all was well.

Then the consultant came to talk to me. And my world descended. 

The right tube had not been fully removed and was left in a dangerous state. The left "blocked" tube was not blocked. It hadn't formed properly at all... and there was no ovary that side. So much of this contradicted what I'd been told in the past. But this guy was extremely thorough.

I've been put on an urgent list for ivf. To try make the ivf affordable I need to donate eggs at the same time, however you can only do this before you turn 35. I turn 35 this October. But even then its not guaranteed that they can harvest enough eggs to make that an option so you still need the full amount. In 2 months?!?! 

This is where you guys come in. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart. We're good people. We work hard. We're kind. But we don't have a lot in the way of savings. We thought we'd have plenty of time to deal with all this, but now there's so much urgency involved. Anything you can do to help, small change, a share or 2. Anything to help us actually reach this seemingly unattainable goal. I love my husband so very much, and he loves me, if only love was really all you needed.

We don't qualify for help as I have a teenager from a previous relationship and my husband has a son.