My Name Is Ryan Nugent,
I am not very good at this kind of stuff becasue my wife Annie (The Superhero) usually handles everything. But right now she is sick and struggling to keep her head up but the stress of always needing to be the "Superhero" has gotten to her and we (the kids and i ) feel like we should help her but with nearly exhausted resources I am left feeling a little helpless myself. Thats when her father suggested GoFund Me. So here we go........
I met my wife at a church thrift store where i had seen her many times before she had just gotten out of a horribly abusive relationship and had recently been released from the hospital after contracting MRSA and it got into her blood and almost killed her she had been hospitalized for about 6 months and for someone who was so sick she was still so Beautiful she had the most can do, go get it personality of anyone I had ever met. I told the person next to me she would be my wife one day and they laughed. I knew that she was the one but it wasn’t until I met her Daughter Trinity, that I was hooked. She was just 3 at the time with Cute little Cheaks and the best behaved little kid around. We didn’t know it at the time but Trinity has Aspergers and has to be home schooled due to the severity of her social stress triggers. Anyway we married quickly and had a son named Bodie (He just turned 7, 2 days ago) We are coming up on our 8 yr anniversary and I couldn’t have asked for a better family.
Its no secret that my wife has had some medical issues in her past and even over the last few yrs and that’s created kind of a desensitized feeling whenever she would get sick and have to go to the hospital. Although, its never easy the kids and I have gotten used to her being gone a few days here and there for Quick hospital stays and Surgeries. We have never known her to be anything except strong and resourceful. The sickness never stopped her or brought her down for that long. But this time is different. You see back in July of this year she wasn’t feeling well she had a kidney infection that took her out of work for a few days but when the rash developed which was fungal and then became bacterial and finding out the again she had contracted MRSA she was so scared that she wouldn’t be able to continue on with one of her jobs as (Hospice Caregiver). She was correct. Due to the infectious nature of this disease she was no longer able to work in with patients at her company. She was very defeated by this but was able to continue her course and stayed on as a waitress at a Local Family owned Italian Restaurant 6 days a week. We thought she was getting better until On Thansgiving Day everything changed my wife had a spinal Stroke and was back in the Hospital and this time no one knows whats going to happen or how quickly she will be at full capacity. You see I work as a Chef (subcontracted out) at a Federal Bldg and when this time of year rolls around every year I am out of work 10 days in Nov and 12 dyas in December so money had always been a lit tough but she always managed to get everything paid and the kids never even knew anything was going on. Well, they know now. We received a 3 day pay or quit notice today for our apartment and this was even after our Church helped us pay some of our Rent. There was a few outstanding items that caused the rent check to be reversed and then as if All of this wasn’t not enough she was just told that one or MRSA lesions had come back with evidence of her contracting Scabies and now is paralyzed by paranoia of getting anyone sick. And now things have gone from bad to worse. My wife doesn’t even know yet about the rent Check part and I don’t have the heart to tell her. To tell her that we have worked so hard for so long and only to lose it all when she gets sick seems so unreal. We are asking for $6,000 to get us through the next 2 months so that we have time to let the Dr’s figure out what can be done and what the recovery will be like for her. I work full time and will continue to do my best to handle everything but you see I’m the “feeler” in the house and she is the do everything else person. Why I say this is I want you to know that all of the times she has been sick or had to have a surgery she worked. She held us together and now I am trying really hard to be her and I just cant do it myself. She is broken and I cant fix her and there is nothing more that I can do there is only one of me and
A Sick Wife
An 11 yr old Pre Teen, Homeschooled, Aspergers Child
A 7 Yr old who has no idea whats going on he just wants to stay with his swim team.
And 3 small rescue dogs
We have very little overhead. We have only one car and we don’t need much but I need to make sure that we have a place to live and that there is food in the fridge and most of all I need for my wife to believe that she can take the time to heal and not stress about getting back to work. That’s all she can talk about is getting back to work, for us. I believe that’s why she never fully recovered from her previous illness, she hasn’t been able to take care of herself and I didn’t have the forsights to know that this could/would happen if she didn’t slow down. The Dr.s say she Cant work and we are waiting on disability but she still wants to work anyway. One of her Dr. even wants to hospitalize her because of her inability to accept her limitations and to accept the fact that she can still be “Superhero” for us without killing herself. Our kids don’t believe in Santa so please don’t think this had anything to do with Presents or anything other than what we need to survive. Any little bit would help at this point. Thank you Love The Nugents
I am not very good at this kind of stuff becasue my wife Annie (The Superhero) usually handles everything. But right now she is sick and struggling to keep her head up but the stress of always needing to be the "Superhero" has gotten to her and we (the kids and i ) feel like we should help her but with nearly exhausted resources I am left feeling a little helpless myself. Thats when her father suggested GoFund Me. So here we go........
I met my wife at a church thrift store where i had seen her many times before she had just gotten out of a horribly abusive relationship and had recently been released from the hospital after contracting MRSA and it got into her blood and almost killed her she had been hospitalized for about 6 months and for someone who was so sick she was still so Beautiful she had the most can do, go get it personality of anyone I had ever met. I told the person next to me she would be my wife one day and they laughed. I knew that she was the one but it wasn’t until I met her Daughter Trinity, that I was hooked. She was just 3 at the time with Cute little Cheaks and the best behaved little kid around. We didn’t know it at the time but Trinity has Aspergers and has to be home schooled due to the severity of her social stress triggers. Anyway we married quickly and had a son named Bodie (He just turned 7, 2 days ago) We are coming up on our 8 yr anniversary and I couldn’t have asked for a better family.
Its no secret that my wife has had some medical issues in her past and even over the last few yrs and that’s created kind of a desensitized feeling whenever she would get sick and have to go to the hospital. Although, its never easy the kids and I have gotten used to her being gone a few days here and there for Quick hospital stays and Surgeries. We have never known her to be anything except strong and resourceful. The sickness never stopped her or brought her down for that long. But this time is different. You see back in July of this year she wasn’t feeling well she had a kidney infection that took her out of work for a few days but when the rash developed which was fungal and then became bacterial and finding out the again she had contracted MRSA she was so scared that she wouldn’t be able to continue on with one of her jobs as (Hospice Caregiver). She was correct. Due to the infectious nature of this disease she was no longer able to work in with patients at her company. She was very defeated by this but was able to continue her course and stayed on as a waitress at a Local Family owned Italian Restaurant 6 days a week. We thought she was getting better until On Thansgiving Day everything changed my wife had a spinal Stroke and was back in the Hospital and this time no one knows whats going to happen or how quickly she will be at full capacity. You see I work as a Chef (subcontracted out) at a Federal Bldg and when this time of year rolls around every year I am out of work 10 days in Nov and 12 dyas in December so money had always been a lit tough but she always managed to get everything paid and the kids never even knew anything was going on. Well, they know now. We received a 3 day pay or quit notice today for our apartment and this was even after our Church helped us pay some of our Rent. There was a few outstanding items that caused the rent check to be reversed and then as if All of this wasn’t not enough she was just told that one or MRSA lesions had come back with evidence of her contracting Scabies and now is paralyzed by paranoia of getting anyone sick. And now things have gone from bad to worse. My wife doesn’t even know yet about the rent Check part and I don’t have the heart to tell her. To tell her that we have worked so hard for so long and only to lose it all when she gets sick seems so unreal. We are asking for $6,000 to get us through the next 2 months so that we have time to let the Dr’s figure out what can be done and what the recovery will be like for her. I work full time and will continue to do my best to handle everything but you see I’m the “feeler” in the house and she is the do everything else person. Why I say this is I want you to know that all of the times she has been sick or had to have a surgery she worked. She held us together and now I am trying really hard to be her and I just cant do it myself. She is broken and I cant fix her and there is nothing more that I can do there is only one of me and
A Sick Wife
An 11 yr old Pre Teen, Homeschooled, Aspergers Child
A 7 Yr old who has no idea whats going on he just wants to stay with his swim team.
And 3 small rescue dogs
We have very little overhead. We have only one car and we don’t need much but I need to make sure that we have a place to live and that there is food in the fridge and most of all I need for my wife to believe that she can take the time to heal and not stress about getting back to work. That’s all she can talk about is getting back to work, for us. I believe that’s why she never fully recovered from her previous illness, she hasn’t been able to take care of herself and I didn’t have the forsights to know that this could/would happen if she didn’t slow down. The Dr.s say she Cant work and we are waiting on disability but she still wants to work anyway. One of her Dr. even wants to hospitalize her because of her inability to accept her limitations and to accept the fact that she can still be “Superhero” for us without killing herself. Our kids don’t believe in Santa so please don’t think this had anything to do with Presents or anything other than what we need to survive. Any little bit would help at this point. Thank you Love The Nugents