In Support of Paul Pulsipher

Please help us!

Sadly, on the afternoon of October 25, 2019 we lost a special friend after many years of suffering with several medical conditions.  Although Lorraine is now free from pain and injuries, our hearts are broken for her wonderful husband, Paul, who has dedicated his entire 10-year marriage to Lorraine caring and advocating for her at every moment of her life.

 

Lorraine’s was as a victim of horrible health, but through her trials, she responded to everything with humility, meekness and love that, in Paul’s eyes was unmatched in this world.  She was born with Cerebral Palsy, Spina Bifida, and—as discovered in the spring of this year—a Chiari type II malformation in spine at C3.  This caused further major health complications that were insistently haunting Lorraine while having to endure severe pain and caused her to undergo many surgeries and take several different types of medications.  In the last ten years of Lorraine’s life, she suffered from at least 8 chronic co-morbid conditions.  Lorraine was no longer able to look after herself.    She spent thirteen of her last sixteen months in the hospital.  Paul never left her side.

 

Paul met Lorraine when he was serving as a full-time missionary for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  After returning home to Colorado, he returned back to Canada and they were married in the Toronto Ontario Temple on June 12, 2009.  Paul has Asperger’s syndrome.  Life was not easy for the two of them but despite their collective medical circumstances/complications, the two of them had a connection and a devotion to each other like few others in this world.  As a result of the depth of Paul’s love for his wife, he sacrificed ten years of his life putting his own needs and most of his interests on the back burner to tend to his wife 24/7.  They had spent almost every waking hour together both from necessity and love for each other.  This includes sleeping at the hospital to be by her side all night to accommodate her separation anxiety to him. 

 

Paul and Lorraine, like many couples, had their share of marital struggles, many of which were caused by the stress of their medical conditions, but Paul’s devotion to his wife kept him by her side.  He was passionately involved in keeping her comfortable, advocating for her every step of the way in the hospital when he felt that nursing staff were not enough for her needs.  Making her feel better was his entire life’s mission, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

 

With Lorraine’s passing, Paul has a huge hole in his heart and is in need of support to get back on his feet with life again.  Having spent countless months and years caring for her needs, Paul has not been able to work.  There is no savings account and she never qualified for life insurance due to the extreme health problems she has endured all of her life.  While grieving, he is now forced to arrange her funeral and think about how he can manage to take care of himself with no income being generated in the meantime.  After all that Paul has done to serve his wife and make her feel as comfortable as possible, suffering himself in many ways, we are praying that his immediate needs will be taken care of during this grieving period.  This way, he can take some time to mourn for his wife, and think about his next steps before he is forced to make moves he may not be prepared for right away. It's time for Paul to begin living for himself again and we can help give him that boost.

 

We are hoping to unite to join friends and family from the community and all over North America and beyond (Paul and Lorraine loved, provided, and cared for the missionaries that served in our area from all around the world) to help support Paul with any expenses that will be incurred from having to start life over again.  This may include rent, travel expenses, materials or education he may require to get back into the work force, and other personal expenses.  Any amount of support you can provide Paul will be greatly appreciated.  You can also help us by sharing this page to give others the opportunity to assist him at this time.

Thanking you all in advance.