We are overwhelmed with gratitude and love

The eviction has been DISMISSED!!!!! 

 I thought, being lonely here and not finding the right friends, that I was stuck. I knew I had all of you, but I’ve been a hermit on here for almost 3.5 years. 

 In the last 36 hours, I am reminded of my true friends and family, that distance, years since we’ve connected, will never let anything happen to effect my kids and I. 

 I have no words (me - no words? ) to express my gratitude, love, and the outpouring of taking money away from your budget - to help ours - we will never forget this moment I’m still working on catching big utility bills up & other things past due, so any additional donations any of you give, will continue to use to help us get completely back on our feet and have a fresh start - which we have needed for awhile!

If you can use one of these apps instead - it will not hold the money as well as neither of us will pay a fee (they charge 3% on here):

Venmo: @Heather_Lettow 

Cash App: $HeatherLettow

✨Zelle: Since I can’t put an email in here - it’s spelled out - lol:

heatherloves2thrive -at- gmail dot com

More updates to come!

With forever love & gratitude,

Heather

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Dear family and friends and all that take the time to read this.

You may have noticed for most of the past few years, I have not communicated much or reached out. Living in Iowa has been like a fever dream I cannot get out of.

I will share with you what's been going on health wise with me and the kids, but first, we're in an immediate crisis - I am under eviction:

I have held myself on my own since my separation in 2019 and divorce in 2020, after most of our kids lives with their Dad was him being deployed. In his retirement, so they could be near him, I thought I was doing the best I could do for everyone, and moved to Iowa, where the only people I have are my kids. I have never been late with my rent, except for last month, and now this month.

I don't receive any form of spousal support or child support. ! I have been going to food banks to get us food. I have tried every organizations I can think of, but it is like going through loops of calls that get you nowhere. I live in a small county, therefore, there are not many resources.

The total I owe in court on Tuesday am is $2437.54 which includes court and late charges. I do not have anything close to that, and what I do have - and what is coming in at the end of the month, and I need to make sure I have money to take care of every day things we need, as well as our 3 puppies which give us so much love and support. I am also late on all of my utilities as well.

My boss at my last bar decided to play tricks on me over a rude customer that called me names and belittled me over a piece of pizza and he put me on days instead of nights where I make the most money, which had been my nights for months. The sign on the bar says that the bartenders decision is final, but, this sign wasn't obeyed and my schedule was toyed with.

Within days, I would spend 3-4 hours with barely anyone coming in. By the time it's 3:30-4:00 for happy hour, I had to open at 1 p.m,. I made about $30 a day, vs $80 average the nights I was working, and If you add that up x4 days and then x 3 weeks, that's a lot of lost money. By the way, he knew my financial situation and had a best friend whose daughter needed a job, so he took me off the schedule. I always dropped everything to work there, and her name was filled in - instead of mine.

I was told by a lawyer the landlord followed everything and a lot of the judges will tell us it will be a 50/50 on whether or not we can stay, if that doesn't make a difference and they want to go forward, that money will go towards our move somewhere. The lawyer said typically you only have 3 days, which would be this Friday, and now it will be hard to find somewhere to rent, which means I have that on my record, as well as no money to go anywhere.

`W'ere considering giving away most of our furniture and putting important things into storage and at least the kids have a roof over their heads with their dad (whose refusing to help) but I will face living in my car with our three puppies because now a recent eviction will show up on my credit report (that I've worked very hard to improve). My son goes to school around the block from me and all of his friends are here. His dad lives over an hour away from his school. It wouldn't work.

Our short term goal is to figure out what to do in the next five days, I have no way to move into someplace new because I have no money for deposits or money to move. In addition, my car has fallen almost completely apart, I am not even sure it can make it through another winter. I have an issue with the General, that's a whole other story, they dirtied my title from an accident that they show on my reports it has been totaled and paid off and paid to me... in 2021. It never happened, I have called and talked to 9 different people one day, and no one would help me. I've spend days getting transferred around and getting nowhere,. I can't even trade it in, and I am still making payments, all of the repairs they did are now broken, and literally day to day I hope it will turn on and then I hope it will continue to run with all the weird sounds it's making.

Our dream is to move out of this state, and move back to the VA Beach / Norfolk area where my 19 year old daughter will be attending ODU. She has several health issues, most importantly she suffers from seizures from FND/PNES, which I need to be there for, and Layton has had an awful time with bullying at 3 schools, and knows he has friends there. If we had the money and a place to move into, we would move in a heartbeat back there. We miss OUR FRIENDS, the ocean, the diversity, the military community that understand us and love us as family, it has gotten to the point that my mental health as well as my 19 year old daughter and 15 year old son, cannot take it much more with all the bullying, including bullying to me.

The bullying has been so bad here, that it caused my daughter to develop seizures from a disorder under Functional Neurological Disorder , called Pyscological non-epelictic seizures. These seizures are caused by PTSD and continual bullying. When they happen, they are so hard to watch, and there isn't anything anyone can do for it. Currently she cannot drive because of it,. They can last a few minutes up to a few hours. If you would like to learn more about the disorder, take a look at some Tic Tockers, or on YouTube. I can also share videos of her during one. She was bullied on her Senior Trip to Disney Word. This was after she got diagnosed and everyone was happy and she had a wheel chair. She got completely bullied by her former best friend, who then told rumors about her, which left her with barely anyone to spend time with. She was forced to stay in the room with the bully! I had just gotten my tax returns, so I spent whatever I had to, to buy her a ticket home less than 24 hours before, to a different airport, and pay for her choir teacher and the nurses, ride both way. The money I was going to put into a savings, was more important to get my baby girl home! This is the type of bullying here! It cost me close to $4K, and the school did nothing. She also has a lot of other medical issues.

My 15 year old was cyber-bullied while he was at his first school once he moved here. We could tell something was wrong. He one night when we were out for dinner, he finally shared what was going on, and the screen shots of what he was receive: The bully was sending him messages to "GO FUCKING KILL HIMSELF". The school did nothing.

He was moved to another school to stay close to his dad, and that bully carried it on to tell all of the kids at the new school to bully him and tell him the same thing! One day he texted me and told me he couldn't take it anymore and we needed to go to the hospital because he was having suicidal thoughts. I picked him up right away and we went straight there. At the hospital, they treated him like a prison patient, and we decided that he would move to my house, where his friends are that he met go to the same school.

He was on the summer school baseball team and the last game was against his last school that he was bullied at. He was so excited to pitch first towards them and did a great job. When he got in the car he told me that every kid on the other team told him on each base "Why haven't you killed yourself yet", and every team member and friend on his team that went to each base, they would tell them "Tell Layton to go kill himself already". I raised hell on the field, and after all of this is taken care of, I will be taking care of it with the school.

He asked me a few weeks ago, to take him to go in-patient at Clive Behavioral health for suicide watch and mental health issues. We went straight there the next day and they admitted him immediately. He was there for 6 days. I am so glad he no longer is having those intrusive thoughts, but he has super anxiety issues, and stress vomits most every day, several times in a row, and cannot get himself to go into school. He loves school. Thankfully, he is on good meds and we have an appointment with his new Psychologist on Monday.

Since I followed my ex-husband for over 20 years in the military, and 15 years of not working (loved being able to be at home with my kids), my resume is worthless. All that hard work I did to work my way up the corporate ladder, doesn't mean anything to the algorythems. So much for places supporting anything other than the service memeber, and don't realize what the spoouse has to give up for them.

From the bottom of my heart, if you have read this far, I thank you for your empathy and compassion to learn what our struggles have been. I am humbled to ask for money, however, this money is not for me, it's for my kids, and to help us better our situation.

With Love,

~Heather