I am being evicted by my family...

Hi, my name is Kai. I am autistic, and I struggle to communicate with people; and travel. Change is hard for me, but recently I have had to make big changes in my life. The past few weeks for me have been difficult; but I'll try and tell you everything in as much detail as I can.

Since 2016, I had been living with my grandmother, as her full time carer; this included times where I was at college while caring for her, and then coming out of college where I was working, and still caring for her while having a job. My grandmother (Patrica) had type 1 diabetes and had blood pressure problems, requiring her to take a lot of medication for it including insulin. During my time caring for her, she was not just my grandmother, but also my best friend and I looked after her every day, helping her with medication, cooking, cleaning, etc. …

It came to a time where she had to sort out her will though, as she was getting on in her age (85 as of 23/05), and the house of which she owned was willed to her daughter (my mother) and her son (my uncle) as well as any belongings in the home that were not mine.

Her health had started to decline in 2023, and I quit my job to give her the attention she required as she became much less mobile, and in 2024 her health declined further, as she started to have bowel issues, and in November of 2024 just after my birthday she had heart failure which left her in hospital for a few days in a panicked state, worried about her future. Because of this heart failure, her heart was unable to pump the fluid around her body causing water retention in her legs and lungs, which she had to take medication for. Her bowel issues persisted, and caused her to dehydrate as she was losing water through toiletries; and after some time we went to the doctor who we assumed would send her to the hospital to get checked out. Instead, the doctor told her to take a higher dose of the medication that was dehydrating her (her water retention tablets), while having bowel problems that were already causing dehydration.

On the 26th of may 2025 her health declined rapidly, which led to me calling my mother in tears to take her urgently to the hospital, where on the journey there, she became delirious and unsure where she was. They admitted her, gave her oral morphine, and she fell asleep. At 10:30pm the same day, she passed away in hospital in her sleep due to kidney failure from dehydration. I was, and still am heartbroken. I feel like a huge piece of my life has been taken away, and I'm not entirely sure how to deal with it. Since then, I have been wandering around the house sometimes aimlessly, looking for her in the places she would usually sit, hoping this is all one big nightmare I will wake up from; but the emptiness of the house and the stress of what is happening is a reminder that it is reality.

The day after she passed away, my mother and my uncle were in the house knowing they had gained it in the will, stripping things out of it, throwing things away and tidying things up; gathering paperwork as I was being threatened with eviction. They left me with one cupboard of food (mostly non perishable things such as cans of soup) and only the essentials in cooking utensils, placing the majority of which into their garage. Upon realizing the urgency of the situation, I began to call everyone and anyone I could for help but mostly to no avail. The local housing register are taking their time setting up a house bidding account and even then I would be placed onto a 10 year wating list, and the only other promised accommodation was group shared. living with multiple other people, or to rent private, so I have been looking for private accommodation.

In my search, I found that everything in my area seems to be incredibly expensive; though If I were to move out of my area, I would not gain housing assistance which would mean it would be impossible for me to afford anything outside my area. This fundraiser is for the deposit on a small 1 bedroom flat. I tried to do deposit free, however anyone with a job in my family refused to be a guarantor, and the one person who agreed (my sister) does not earn enough to qualify as a guarantor for it; leaving the only option being to pay the deposit which I can not currently afford.

My family have not given me a final date as to living in this house, but they are urgent to get me out of the home as they wish to sell it. I have been told that, I will not receive anything from the sale of the house, and neither my mother or uncle are willing to take me in, even in a temporary measure.

So again; this fundraiser is for the deposit for a 1 bedroom, small flat. Once the deposit is paid, I will be able to financially afford the flat myself and will be in a better position to grieve, of which I have not been able to do under threat of eviction.

Thank you for reading this; and for anyone who donates; thank you, from the bottom of my heart, and please know that it will go a long way, and will keep me off the streets as my family seem all so happy to let happen.