Honoring Todd

My son, Todd Manley, passed away on September 25, 2019 very unexpectedly.    He was 33 years old.   This has been a shock to us and we were completely not prepared.  Not that anyone ever is.   My other son, Ryan, and I were hesitant about start this page because we don't like to ask for help.  However, many people asked us to start one because they want to help.  So here we are.  There are so many costs involved when someone passes and it's so overwhelming.  

Todd was such a loving, caring and giving man.  He had a huge heart.   He helped me every year with donating to the animal shelters, the homeless, the children with terminal illness, Ronald McDonald House and all the stray animals.    My son always worried about me not taking care of myself or not getting enough "me" time.    He was so generous and always made sure I had everything I needed.  Todd had a love for music, movies (especially B rated) and TV series.  He was a huge NERD and loved all things computer/technology related and loved to learn and read.   He always had three monitors going at one time.   He lived for gaming and was good at it.    He had a passion for 3D printing and had two printers and was always printing cools stuff and painting it.   It's amazing what you can print.   Todd loved to laugh and make others laugh and play pranks on people.  Others loved him hear him laugh because it was contagious.   I miss his laugh so much.   Todd loved animals and we had lots.... dogs and cats all of which are rescues.  

Todd also had depression and degenerative disc disease.  When he was 19 he was told he had the back of an 80 year old man.   Degenerative means progressive deterioration - so his back continually worsened over time.  Unfortunately so did his depression.  There were days when Todd's back pain was so bad he couldn't get out of the bed.  Other days it hurt but he could deal with it.    Then there were days the depression kept him in the bed.   It was a vicious cycle.    Todd usually got up every day and went to work and fought through it and most people didn't even know anything was wrong.  Some knew he had some back issues but not much more.   Todd Continued to make everyone laugh and smile, including himself.   He and I would laugh all the time.  And then we wouldn't.  It would come and go.  I saw him suffer every single day.    I saw him struggle every single day.  

In the end, the physical and emotional turmoil inside was to much for him and his life ended.   My sweet, handsome son is no longer here with us.  

Ryan and I want to honor Todd and keep his memory and laughter alive.  He wanted us to remember him HAPPY.    At some point we want to look into doing a foundation in his name and help people that are struggling like he was.  Or perhaps making a donation in his Memory to a Suicide Prevention Event.    Our hearts are hurting deeply, my soul has been ripped apart and our lives have been forever changed.

I love Todd so very much and we were very very close.  He knows how much he was loved by all of us as we know how much he loved us.   We miss him dearly and it hurts a lot that he isn't here.  We hold on to the fact that he is at peace and is not in pain anymore.   I want to thank each of you for any amount of donation you make.   Even if you don't make a donation that is ok.  Thank you for your love, support and prayers.  They are all welcome and needed.   Reach out and check on a family member or friend,  make sure you stay in touch with people more often and don't let people disapper from your life.   Much love from us to you.