!~~~~~~x~!(final??)UPDATE!~x~~~~~~8/12/25!

Hii loves,

It’s just under 3 months(!) until surgery, and about 7 weeks !! until I need to pay the final portion of my fees.

Everything’s in place, deposit and accommodation paid, but I still have a little ways to go.

It goes without saying that the support and generosity I’ve been show since I first started this process in March has been crazy beyond *anything I could ever have hoped to receive in my most desperate dreams – with 99.9999% of that money coming directly from friends old and new, friends of friends, acquaintances, peers and people I’ve not yet even been lucky enough to meet. To raise this much in under 10 months, purely from the kindness of every individual person is just insane. I owe each and every one of you my profound, life-long gratitude: thanks to you I am so so close to hitting my goal of 11.5K.

Finally meeting this target, in addition to the money we raised from the D.o.d Ball in October, would mean that I’d be able cover the entirety of my remaining surgery costs (just under 1500 GBP) and a portion of my accommodation fees, (around 1200 GBP total) ~ with the rest put on a credit card and prayed about later. Anything in excess of that goal would go directly to paying off those accommodation costs before they inevitably tank my credit score lol ~x

There is so much more to say and so much I’ve said already. But for a working class girl from the deepest West Country to be able to get to this place in her life; to be offered the opportunity to continue to grow and change; and for that change to come almost exclusively from the support of other normal people with work and debt and rent and bills and their own problems... the more I think about it the more my head unspoolssss

Beyond lucky beyond privileged beyond undone & forever remade. This is the last push<333 Even with just a little extra support I’ll finally be able to look to next year ~ to the rest of my life ~! with the sun on my face. Thank you to everyone always, your help is more than I ever knew I could deserve xxxxxxx

(& finally, v special v rare smiling pic on the updated GFM by [email redacted].reddy for @exlruth’s Opera Sunday Supertitles launch) ️ x x x

~~~9/6/25 update below <33~~x

hiii everyone,

My name's Hesse, I'm a writer and trans woman living in London.

At the end of 2025 / early 2026, I’ll be undertaking FFS (facial feminisation surgery). Between changes in my personal circumstances, rent increases + the cost of living, my medical needs have begun to dramatically outpace what I can do alone: so I’m here to ask my community ~ & even people I don’t even know {hello angels! x.x} ~ for the extra support that I desperately need.

This surgery is an urgent medical necessity. I’m hesitant to really bare my heart about why I'm doing it for a lot of reasons (the girls get it) ~ but for anyone who might not know me I will say: I lived my teens and over half my twenties in a state of extreme strife that I hid from myself and everyone around me, and in less than two years I've changed more than I can really believe or understand. My life is filled with confidence, honesty, love for myself and the people around me, beyond any measure I could ever have imagined or understood. Painfully sincere but it's true. And so really this surgery is just the next expression of that love, self-compassion: my chance to truly look more like ~me.

Ultimately though, I’m a working class doll from with no access to family money or generational wealth. The only funds I have coming to me are what I can earn through my own labour, and that which I can glean from the grace of the people around me ~ this literally can't happen without your support. So for anything you’re able to provide please know that I am grateful beyond words.

I’ve yet to get a final quote from my surgeon, so some of these costs are estimated, (and I’ll revise the target if needed once I receive this), but currently meeting my £7,500 goal would provide for:

I’ve been raising £££ for this surgery since October last year {when the actual Herculean generosity of everyone at SET Social made Halloween Queer Prom happen & we raised over 4k in a night! </33} ((about a grand of which has since been spent on appts for a private GI diagnosis, fml)) and so the goal of this gofundme is basically to make up the difference.

Obviously its an extremely bleak time for almost all of us financially, and I know that raising these funds will be a long process, which is why I'm not putting it off any longer. It's my birthday on April 15th </3 Any donation whatsoever would be appreciated more than you’ll ever know(!!!)

Simply, without your help I won’t be able to do this. I won’t be able to fully step into myself in the way that I need and that all transsexuals require. I won’t be able to truly build my future and I won’t be able to stop thinking about what might have been. If you’ve known me, in big or small ways, at any period during my life, please consider helping me walk through the open door of my future that I deserve.

And also! If you’re a doll and you want any insight on this process, if you’re thinking about FFS generally or more specifically about going to Dr. Qassemyar @ French Facial Surgery, please don’t hesitate to reach out ~ I’m here to help however I can.

Thank you !! From the bottom of my heart !!

xx Hesse xx

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I have something v secret vvv special planned later in the year to support reaching this target, so keep your silken ear to the ground .x.x.x.x

!~~~~~~x~!UPDATE!~x~~~~~~9/6/25!

Hi angels,

Before anything, I would like to thank every single person who donated + shared it among their networks when I first launched this fundraiser a few months ago, and since. The unbelievable level of generosity; the speed at which the target was met; I couldn't believe it(!!) I was in shock for weeks. Thank you thank thank you all from the absolute bottom of my heart. I owe you something so large it can't really be remunerated; I'm finding it hard to express the scale of what it means to have been shown kindness like this, but every single one of you has genuinely changed my life and for that I'm more grateful than I know how to say.

~~This update is to let you all know that I finally got a quote from my surgeon last month, and it was higher than I predicted. My original target was based off of invoices I'd seen for other girls, but I undershot by about 4k. (The procedures I'm looking at extend the total surgery + post-operative recovery time: meaning the cost of my hospital stay and the anaesthesiologists fee increases in kind).

My surgery date is set for February 24th 2026 (10 days after valentines </3) and so I've got until January 2026 ~8 months~ to make up the shortfall. I'm currently concocting a v special night for later in the year to support this new target; keep your eyes peeled ;') x

I've already been shown more support in this process than I ever thought I could receive or deserve, and so it feels impossible to ask for even more help: but the facts are what they are! Trans healthcare is extremely expensive, and beyond what little money I can save myself, I'm left with no other option than to humbly ask for your help again.

My thanks beyond words, and all the love in the world<3

Hesse x