Help me move and reset my life
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I have an opportunity to reset my life in 2015 and I need your help!
As most of you know, I've always been a social person and have had illustrious Navy and civilian careers. I have always loved to share my time, my home and my resources with friends, family and others.
I owned a home for 13 years and raised my two nephews most of that time. I was successful at work, home and play. Then suddenly a chain of events beyond my control happened and created a snow ball effect that I have not been able to recover from.
Four years ago I lost my house.
A year later I lost my corporate job.
A few months after that, I had emergency gallbladder removal surgery while uninsured and travelling out of state.
Two months later while still on unemployment, I was forced to move quickly because the condo I was renting was sold. I took a basement living space where I would share the kitchen and washer & dryer with the 70+-old landlady upstairs.
Initially it seemed like the perfect situation for me and I honestly hoped to be helpful to her, too, as she seemed to be lonely and estranged from her grown children (Clue #1). I tried helping her around the house and yard and so many other ways but stopped once I realized kindness was a one-way street.
The day I moved in her son (who was visiting with his daughters) said, "I give you six months." (Clue #2)
I thought he was just bitter, but within a month, his words began to resonate more and more every day. My beloved cat was killed after I took her advice. She began alienating me with invasive and crazy behaviors every day. She broke me down mentally and emotionally. I never felt comfortable there, my other cat developed a stress disorder there. I literally became a recluse and I stopped caring.
Now, after three long years, it's been one nightmare after another. I will spare you the dozens of specifics (but will gladly share them for anyone who really wants to know) and just say that I have not been upstairs in almost two years. Most importantly, this means I have been without a kitchen.
Moving has been a priority for over 2 1/2 years but I just have not been able to do so. I have no savings for a deposit. I can't find anything that equals what I currently pay and a credit check will not be my friend. It's been heartbreaking.
I've spent the better part of the last three years working as a newspaper editor, literally living paycheck to paycheck. It's the worst feeling, especially when it's a new feeling. Having to eat out all the time when you have very little money means you have even less money and that you eat poorly. Sometimes I just don't eat.
I know I need a new job with better pay but I can't garner the confidence I need for the job search while living where I am. Besides, I need the option of working from home and that is not possible in the chaos.
So I've been stuck in this catch-22 where I can't afford to move but I'm not in a good environmental space to get another job so that I can afford to move.
Many of you have followed my trials and tribulations here closely on FB and know getting out of here is imperative for me to start over in all aspects of my life.
Suddenly over the holidays, an opportunity has dropped in my lap when I least expected it ... this opportunity will not only allow me to bring all my personal belongings (and all my furniture and kitchen ware still upstairs that "she" has been using all this time) but also move out of my storage ... to a place in Ocean Beach.
I'll have a roommate who is a writer like me and who is giving me a chance to get out of this madness, start over and better my quality of life, starting Feb. 1. I've committed to moving, but I know the logistics of it is beyond my means.
Thankfully, I'm being given the entire month to move and my sister has already been a big help with the little stuff. I have a number of big items we can't move ourselves and I'll need to pay for that.
With the $4,000 goal, I plan to pay my $1,200 deposit; my first month's rent of $1,100, pay my sister back $600 for my last movers (so she doesn't feel bad helping me this time), pay the new moving expenses of approximately $700, and have some emergency money and cash on hand to ensure my transition runs smoothly. This will also allow me to be one step ahead of my next month's rent, which will make a huge difference in my life.
My circumstances have not only made me feel less than, they've created other bills that won't go away and I can't avoid them forever. I'm hoping that in this new year and by this reset, the universe will see to it that I can deal with all of them, too.
Once I get settled in the new place, I will be looking for more work or a better job to increase my income. I could not do that where I am today.
Every dollar will help me achieve my goal and is much appreciated. Here is how I will give back:
For those who offer me $1 -20, I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
From $25 - 50, I will make you lunch and offer you an afternoon of enjoyable conversation with ocean views. And I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
From $55 - 100, I will make you dinner, play a board game, take a nice walk by the ocean and offer an evening of enjoyable conversation. And I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
In addition, I plan to write about the experience for a feature article about the increasing popularity of crowd sourcing. What better way to talk about something than to experience it yourself? I will speak of my personal campaign only in general terms and not discuss the circumstances of specific donors without their consent.
These past few years have really dragged me down and changed my mindset, but 2015 is here and I'm ready to RESET it. I can do that with your help. Living by the ocean has always been a dream of mine, so this really seems meant to be. Please help me get out of my rut, into a dream location, reset my life, and on to all the bigger and better things I know I am still capable of.
Peace, love and friendship to everyone who takes the time to read this. It means the world to me.
Ms. Morgan M. Hurley
xxoo
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As most of you know, I've always been a social person and have had illustrious Navy and civilian careers. I have always loved to share my time, my home and my resources with friends, family and others.
I owned a home for 13 years and raised my two nephews most of that time. I was successful at work, home and play. Then suddenly a chain of events beyond my control happened and created a snow ball effect that I have not been able to recover from.
Four years ago I lost my house.
A year later I lost my corporate job.
A few months after that, I had emergency gallbladder removal surgery while uninsured and travelling out of state.
Two months later while still on unemployment, I was forced to move quickly because the condo I was renting was sold. I took a basement living space where I would share the kitchen and washer & dryer with the 70+-old landlady upstairs.
Initially it seemed like the perfect situation for me and I honestly hoped to be helpful to her, too, as she seemed to be lonely and estranged from her grown children (Clue #1). I tried helping her around the house and yard and so many other ways but stopped once I realized kindness was a one-way street.
The day I moved in her son (who was visiting with his daughters) said, "I give you six months." (Clue #2)
I thought he was just bitter, but within a month, his words began to resonate more and more every day. My beloved cat was killed after I took her advice. She began alienating me with invasive and crazy behaviors every day. She broke me down mentally and emotionally. I never felt comfortable there, my other cat developed a stress disorder there. I literally became a recluse and I stopped caring.
Now, after three long years, it's been one nightmare after another. I will spare you the dozens of specifics (but will gladly share them for anyone who really wants to know) and just say that I have not been upstairs in almost two years. Most importantly, this means I have been without a kitchen.
Moving has been a priority for over 2 1/2 years but I just have not been able to do so. I have no savings for a deposit. I can't find anything that equals what I currently pay and a credit check will not be my friend. It's been heartbreaking.
I've spent the better part of the last three years working as a newspaper editor, literally living paycheck to paycheck. It's the worst feeling, especially when it's a new feeling. Having to eat out all the time when you have very little money means you have even less money and that you eat poorly. Sometimes I just don't eat.
I know I need a new job with better pay but I can't garner the confidence I need for the job search while living where I am. Besides, I need the option of working from home and that is not possible in the chaos.
So I've been stuck in this catch-22 where I can't afford to move but I'm not in a good environmental space to get another job so that I can afford to move.
Many of you have followed my trials and tribulations here closely on FB and know getting out of here is imperative for me to start over in all aspects of my life.
Suddenly over the holidays, an opportunity has dropped in my lap when I least expected it ... this opportunity will not only allow me to bring all my personal belongings (and all my furniture and kitchen ware still upstairs that "she" has been using all this time) but also move out of my storage ... to a place in Ocean Beach.
I'll have a roommate who is a writer like me and who is giving me a chance to get out of this madness, start over and better my quality of life, starting Feb. 1. I've committed to moving, but I know the logistics of it is beyond my means.
Thankfully, I'm being given the entire month to move and my sister has already been a big help with the little stuff. I have a number of big items we can't move ourselves and I'll need to pay for that.
With the $4,000 goal, I plan to pay my $1,200 deposit; my first month's rent of $1,100, pay my sister back $600 for my last movers (so she doesn't feel bad helping me this time), pay the new moving expenses of approximately $700, and have some emergency money and cash on hand to ensure my transition runs smoothly. This will also allow me to be one step ahead of my next month's rent, which will make a huge difference in my life.
My circumstances have not only made me feel less than, they've created other bills that won't go away and I can't avoid them forever. I'm hoping that in this new year and by this reset, the universe will see to it that I can deal with all of them, too.
Once I get settled in the new place, I will be looking for more work or a better job to increase my income. I could not do that where I am today.
Every dollar will help me achieve my goal and is much appreciated. Here is how I will give back:
For those who offer me $1 -20, I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
From $25 - 50, I will make you lunch and offer you an afternoon of enjoyable conversation with ocean views. And I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
From $55 - 100, I will make you dinner, play a board game, take a nice walk by the ocean and offer an evening of enjoyable conversation. And I will provide a very personalized, hand-written thank you.
In addition, I plan to write about the experience for a feature article about the increasing popularity of crowd sourcing. What better way to talk about something than to experience it yourself? I will speak of my personal campaign only in general terms and not discuss the circumstances of specific donors without their consent.
These past few years have really dragged me down and changed my mindset, but 2015 is here and I'm ready to RESET it. I can do that with your help. Living by the ocean has always been a dream of mine, so this really seems meant to be. Please help me get out of my rut, into a dream location, reset my life, and on to all the bigger and better things I know I am still capable of.
Peace, love and friendship to everyone who takes the time to read this. It means the world to me.
Ms. Morgan M. Hurley
xxoo
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Morgan M. Hurley
Organizer
San Diego, CA