End 2015 by making a difference 

********Heathers girls do not and I pray WILL NOT EVER know what went on....my mother replaced most of their Christmas Presents, please please IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN IN THEIR SCHOOL DO NOT SHARE THIS WITH THEM***********




I was told this was too long- imagine if I included all the little thing? 
Heather Chappell is fighting for her life, for her safety, for her freedom-she is sad but not ashamed to say she had been fighting Domestic Violence since April 2015. He has stalked. He has abused. He has destroyed. But on the night before New Years Eve he fulfilled a highly advertised goal to blow up her house. He blew up her car. Heather asked me to post the pictures . She lost her car , She lost many possessions , she needs a new car, she needs to relocate, she needs to move, she needs a better security system, she needs our help. I am asking for $5 and a share please. Heather asked me to share her pictures as she is in shock that after asking half the town to burn her house down with her in it he tried. And did not succeed. I am determined he NEVER WILL. Please if have a $5 you can spare that's great but a share is free ....I'm trying to get Oprahs attention !!!lol ....but seriously u never know who knows who....please share❤️❤️❤️


thanks for your time
Full story below



I have permission to use Heather Chappells name- all else are nameless for privacy reasons....Although Heather stands strong and is not afraid to say "it's happened to me" she wants her privacy for family...The picture has her girls in it along with my children and another best friends children, all nameless for privacy.

Heather would not let me ask for what she needs...she gave permission to tell her story and ask for donations (like furniture and cleaning supplies only)


I am raising money for Heather Chappells battle with Domestic Violence. As many of you know Heather dated X (his name is irrelevant) on and off for a few years, In April of 2015 Heather made a decision that broke her heart- she could not tolerate his escalating jelousy any longer and asked him to please leave her life- she explained her reasons to him and prepared for a broken heart. We had ice cream and tissues and wine and Steel Magnolias- it was going to be hard, but a couple months of crying and she would be back to herself. We had no idea what lay ahead of her. Of us.
Many of us know Heathers childrens father(great dad), her mother- wonderful teacher, her sister/mother of the worlds most adorable twins and her beautiful girls. Many of us also remember her dad, Doobers who died way too young. Many times during this nightmare I prayed so hard to him,cried and wished for him. None much of this past 8 months would have occurred if he was still here raising his girls, no one can take the place of a woman's father in her life, a caring father is often the end of domestic violence situations. I have screamed at the sky behind Heathers house in frustration and pain and fear "please Doobs we need a miracle". And we do.
Although this is a requests for monetary assistance- money will help in so many way- I wish there was a "GO LOVE ME" sister program to this that allowed donations of love and caring and strength and self reliance collected thru hugs and kind words and soulful donations that would magically heal. I wish. 
Again, Heather broke up with X due to his jelousy. A seemly small arguement that exploded.  VERY QUICKLY. He had never been abusive before. He was the exact opposite of that with her. He doted on her. He would give kisses and hugs freely. They had connected on every level it seemed. He loved and respected her girls. One thing Heather Chappell is to her bones is an excellent mother...having been friends for 20+ years, as we grew up one things she was not sure about was motherhood. But she even surprised herself with her love of motherhood, one day this summer as we took the kids on a weekly trip we did everyMonday or Tuesday she looked at the kids playing and swimming and healthy in the sun and said "We are more than lucky we are double lucky". So the fact that the girls adore his visiting was paramount. Everything seemed great. 
I could go on forever. My point- he loved her and she loved him right back. This was not a casual relationship they were exclusive and it made them both very happy. So when the abuse began she was shocked. It happened April 2. From April until last night X has stalked and abused my best friend. When she changed her number in June he added me to the list to harass.For him to call me 200times in a day was regular now that he had no number for Heather. My husband began to question WHO was calling- not believing that a man could be that mentally ill, my phone is a work phone the number could not be changed.
When he was finally served a order of protection he got her number from the section of Heathers information the courts failed to block out. The treatment of this issue by the police on the streets is a BOOK of blunders and laziness- another day
I stood by her side since April and have held hear hand and watched this man destroy so much. The details are her story. He routinely threatened her. He followed her everywhere. About a month ago J  a woman that grew up with Heather but also grew up with X, as a mutual friend she tried to help. I begged him to get help. Last week Sunday X called me from a strange number as I have blocked every number he has ever used to call. X was an expert on Internet Google numbers calling and fake texts and all of that he used to harass us daily/ that day he got thru to me. He told me like he always did how much he missed and loved Heather and told me for the 1000th he was going to kill himself. That he was going to kill her. He was enraged that Heather had purchased wood, as X was a logger. He told me as I told him I was hanging up that he was not playing around. The tone of his voice chilled me as he said "I'm going to burn that house down with her in it, I'm going to duct tape her to the wall and let her suffer like she makes me suffers everyday. Show her the pain I feel. " Heather got a nearly identical call from X as he called her every minute for hours, he would duct tape her to a chair, and burn the house down around her, she actually records  a few calls.  it's clear as day, but because it's from a cell phone it's not credible evidence. Nothing the police can do, a restraining order is apparently not worth the paper it's printed on.  He's free to follow her around and stalk her- hunt her- and there is NOTHING the police can do. 
Today is New Year's Eve 2015, They broke up in April, he told me daily he was going to kill himself in her front yard after he tried to hang himself in her basement, unsuccessfully. It sounds horrible but Heather J and I Were all getting nearly identical texts daily, 20, 40xs a day. How could we know?
Last night after Heather carefully parked her car near her bedroom window to keep it close she went to bed 30 minutes later she woke to her tires exploding , one after another, then her gas tank blew and her house began to burn. Her girls were not home, she got out alive, her animals got out alive. Part of Heather died in there but she is still alive healthy. She needs a new car. As she has forbid me to do exactly what I promised not too- but after I looked my bestie in the eye and lied to her face I do not regret this. I may loose her friendship, but I almost lost her last night. I lost a peice of her, I can't imagine if I had to tell her girls stories of her to keep her alive in their memories, if X succeeded and did as he promised and killed her. I'm sorry but that is not an option.

We called 211 all day for help. From the smoke her entire house was singed. The smell of gasoline was incredible. I just smelled my hair, it's still on me. She needs to replace her car. She won't tell me what it was as what I'm doing is forbidden and promised. I know she bought it last year for about $2500. It was a good deal. Low miles and a mom was the previous owner. She needs to move. Where she is could never be safe as X lives on the same road. She rents and she needs a security deposit. She needs TIDE....if she has a chance at washing the smoke off her clothing TIDE is the only one that ever worked for me. She needs new Christmas toys for her daughters....theirs were destroyed She needs some kind of security camera, the ones she uses now have not produced a single helpful image for the police. She needs a house to rent- we look daily but see nothing- maybe someone knows someone, it needs to be in a populated area so she has neighbors to look out for her.  She will eventually need beds and furniture and linens. She needs back ALL THE MONEY SHE HAD LOST DURING THE PAST 9 Months as he harassed her so badly she missed days of work. 
Right??? I wish, as I'm writing this she is busy getting ready for work. SHE IS THAT KINDA HARD WORKER- almost was murdered and in the middle of a nervous breakdown she is worried about getting to work late- "work will get my mind off it" well over  OK.
As I argued with Heather to please please ask for help she had MANY reasons why, but the one THAT BROKE MY HEART "Don't you see Kath no one will give- even if u only ask for $5, they are all broke-just like us. Christmas and New Year? people are broke, money is tight, why should they pay for my stupidity!!they will say she shoulda went to college and make more money !! They will say she shoulda had insurance!! They will..." And she broke for a minute into a heap of sobbing and shaking "When y would anyone want to help me this is MY MISTAKE KAT. I PICKED HIM. WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO HELP ME??"
i broke down then and tears are now coming again...she blames herself for falling in love??she blames herself for doing the right thing? For not letting herself be abused? She blames herself for not having more money, for not having an extra car....for every mistake she ever made- she was mad at herself for being imperfect, for being human.
For being a human being. What does that say about the messages to the victims of domestic violence???
What kind of twisted place has this become when the victim is now blaming themself? I hugged her and cried and then I lied, "yes I promise I will only ask for used donations and TIDE"

Even more than your donation (inbox me on Facebook if it's goods or services PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT HEATHER, not yet. She will need all our love Tommorrow or the next day. When she's not in shock

MORE THAN SHE NEEDS YOUR $5 she needs you to like and share. She needs your $5 but she needs you to SHARE THIS PLEASE....it only takes a click of a button. You never know who you may get to....Where's Ophrah when you need her????
Help me prove her wrong- please. Show her it takes a village and WE ARE HER VILLAGE. Like/share please .....if we all give $5...or more if u can we can help her fight the fight of her life, the fight FOR her life.....domestic violence smh...2015 and it's still a dirty word.
Thank you for listening.