Help YB escape from an abusive household
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tw, cw// sexual abuse, physical abuse, suicide attempt
hello, i’m writing this in my words so everyone can understand the dire situation i have found myself in. my parents have been verbally abusive in the past which created fear in me on how to approach them on certain topics. in the summer (may to august) of 2019, my parents requested that i spend the summer with them in nigeria. i was apprehensive about this because in the months leading up to that they had been verbally and financially abusive. they would call to berate me and i had been using my savings and relying on friends to stay afloat because they had stopped sending me money. eventually i decided that i would go back because i thought to myself what’s the worst that could happen. but to safe guard myself, i decided that i would defer an exam because i thought that if i had a reason to return to canada, they would have no choice but to let me go.
shortly after i landed in nigeria, they started berating me and withholding money from me, at a point in time my dad called me to the room and shouted at me for having piercings and threatened that if i didn’t remove them he would forcibly tear them off my face, my brother had to restrain him as he started physically assaulting me. shortly after he called all the pictures on my instagram soft porn and started attacking me physically again, during this assault, he tore off my shirt in public and i was exposed in ways i did not consent to. although this was very painful to go through, i held out hope that eventually when it was time for me to leave for my exams i would be able to get out of their house.
in the middle of may, i think the 18th of may to be exact. I was woken up by my dad around 6am to run an errand, i told him that it didn’t make sense for me to run this errand because i had to be up shortly to start studying for my exam. for some reason this seemed to anger him and he started assaulting me again. when he was done, i went into my room and decided to put my passport in my backpack. he called me back out to berate me some more and asked me what i was doing, so i told him. he went into my room and tore up my passport and all my documents and came back and told me what he had done with satisfaction on his face. feeling totally and utterly defeated, i took all the prescribed medication i had taken with me from canada in one go. my parents found me and took me to the hospital where my dad lied that he did not destroy the documents. as soon as i was released from the hospital they enrolled me into a school in nigeria and refused to help me further my attempts to get my passport reissued.
while i was in school i was on campus which meant that i could avoid my parents for most of the time, they would call and verbally assault me and from time to time my father would withhold funds from me in an attempt to control me some more. luckily i had friends who would send me money if necessary and money saved in dollars which i could access if necessary. staying away from my parents meant that i wouldn’t get the full load of their actions, and then covid happened.
When covid happened, school got canceled and i knew i would have to go back to their house which made me very anxious and nervous. while i was there they continued to berate me and verbally and financially abuse me and talk about me whenever they could. the breaking point came when they berated me for hours before a test and i ended up failing, i decided that i couldn’t afford to stay in their house while trying to prepare for my exams so i packed my bags and left. when i left i felt very relieved. i stayed at a friends place and i was able to study. during that period my friend made a go fund me so i could get extra funds as i had gone into my savings and the last of the money i had.
on the 18th of august 2020, i decided to go out with my friends to get something to eat. at the restaurant, my friends and i were accosted by the police and i was taken into custody. i was accused of drug smuggling, drug use, prostitution, fraud and other illegal activities. i was told that my dad had accused me of stealing tens of thousands of dollars from him, something which i had never done. my friends and their parents tried to call my parents and beg them but they were being stubborn in an attempt to teach me a lesson.
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hello, i’m writing this in my words so everyone can understand the dire situation i have found myself in. my parents have been verbally abusive in the past which created fear in me on how to approach them on certain topics. in the summer (may to august) of 2019, my parents requested that i spend the summer with them in nigeria. i was apprehensive about this because in the months leading up to that they had been verbally and financially abusive. they would call to berate me and i had been using my savings and relying on friends to stay afloat because they had stopped sending me money. eventually i decided that i would go back because i thought to myself what’s the worst that could happen. but to safe guard myself, i decided that i would defer an exam because i thought that if i had a reason to return to canada, they would have no choice but to let me go.
shortly after i landed in nigeria, they started berating me and withholding money from me, at a point in time my dad called me to the room and shouted at me for having piercings and threatened that if i didn’t remove them he would forcibly tear them off my face, my brother had to restrain him as he started physically assaulting me. shortly after he called all the pictures on my instagram soft porn and started attacking me physically again, during this assault, he tore off my shirt in public and i was exposed in ways i did not consent to. although this was very painful to go through, i held out hope that eventually when it was time for me to leave for my exams i would be able to get out of their house.
in the middle of may, i think the 18th of may to be exact. I was woken up by my dad around 6am to run an errand, i told him that it didn’t make sense for me to run this errand because i had to be up shortly to start studying for my exam. for some reason this seemed to anger him and he started assaulting me again. when he was done, i went into my room and decided to put my passport in my backpack. he called me back out to berate me some more and asked me what i was doing, so i told him. he went into my room and tore up my passport and all my documents and came back and told me what he had done with satisfaction on his face. feeling totally and utterly defeated, i took all the prescribed medication i had taken with me from canada in one go. my parents found me and took me to the hospital where my dad lied that he did not destroy the documents. as soon as i was released from the hospital they enrolled me into a school in nigeria and refused to help me further my attempts to get my passport reissued.
while i was in school i was on campus which meant that i could avoid my parents for most of the time, they would call and verbally assault me and from time to time my father would withhold funds from me in an attempt to control me some more. luckily i had friends who would send me money if necessary and money saved in dollars which i could access if necessary. staying away from my parents meant that i wouldn’t get the full load of their actions, and then covid happened.
When covid happened, school got canceled and i knew i would have to go back to their house which made me very anxious and nervous. while i was there they continued to berate me and verbally and financially abuse me and talk about me whenever they could. the breaking point came when they berated me for hours before a test and i ended up failing, i decided that i couldn’t afford to stay in their house while trying to prepare for my exams so i packed my bags and left. when i left i felt very relieved. i stayed at a friends place and i was able to study. during that period my friend made a go fund me so i could get extra funds as i had gone into my savings and the last of the money i had.
on the 18th of august 2020, i decided to go out with my friends to get something to eat. at the restaurant, my friends and i were accosted by the police and i was taken into custody. i was accused of drug smuggling, drug use, prostitution, fraud and other illegal activities. i was told that my dad had accused me of stealing tens of thousands of dollars from him, something which i had never done. my friends and their parents tried to call my parents and beg them but they were being stubborn in an attempt to teach me a lesson.
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