Hi everyone,

We never expected to be here writing something like this, but we want to share our story honestly, because everything has changed so quickly.

We met just over a year ago. It was one of those rare, instant connections where everything just made sense and since then we’ve built a life that feels like home in every sense. We really are each other’s person, and we always talk about growing old together and having a family one day.

Our journey hasn’t been without difficulty. My partner has epilepsy, and over the course of our relationship his general health has deteriorated. He became poorly on my birthday last year, Valentine’s Day this year and near Christmas but thankfully was well enough to celebrate Christmas. We knew something wasn’t right, but it took time and multiple referrals after Christmas before we finally got answers.

Just over a week ago, everything changed again when we were told he has stage 3/4 lymphoma, it is already known to be present in multiple areas including his neck, chest, back, groin, spleen and pelvis.

Alongside this devastating diagnosis, we’ve also been told we have just around 3 weeks to arrange urgent fertility preservation. Because he had a vasectomy in a previous relationship, this requires a surgical sperm retrieval procedure before chemotherapy can begin.

We always knew we wanted children, but we were trying to save and plan for fertility treatment in the future. Now there simply isn’t time to wait. With his epilepsy, medication, and the urgency of cancer treatment, it is too high risk to delay fertility preservation until after chemotherapy. I’ve been spending hours every day speaking to clinics, trying to make sure we don’t lose this chance to have a family together one day. That hope has been one of the only things getting us through the last difficult months.

We are now facing the reality of the next six months being filled with chemotherapy, hospital visits, worsening fatigue, uncertainty, and managing epilepsy alongside treatment. It is frightening and overwhelming, but we are trying to hold on to each other and stay hopeful through it all.

What we are asking for support with is:

* Urgent fertility preservation (surgical sperm retrieval) costing £7,833 because it’s the only clinic that can do it in the urgent time frame and it’s in Central London - for comparison, a local clinic could do it for £2,800 but not before he starts chemotherapy and once he has started, this procedure isn’t an option, travel expenses to London and back for multiple appointments (due to fatigue it’s too much for public transport, underground etc, we are doing what we can to get him there)

* Practical home essentials for chemotherapy recovery, including:

* Extra bedding and mattress protection

* Blankets and comfortable layers

* Loose clothing for treatment and recovery days

* Basic hygiene and sickness care items

These practical things may seem small, but they will make an enormous difference during a time when daily life will be unpredictable and physically exhausting.

Any donations will go first and foremost toward securing fertility preservation so we do not lose the chance to have children together in the future. Anything beyond that will go toward making our home a safe and manageable space for chemotherapy recovery.

We are trying to carry as much of this ourselves as we can, but the reality is that these costs have come suddenly, urgently, and all at once.

If you are able to donate or even share this page, it would mean more than we can ever properly express. It gives us hope that even in the middle of something so frightening, our future together is still something we can protect.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for any kindness, support, or shares