Help! Vicky keep her HOPE in fighting Cancer

You all know that saying “When it rains, it Pours”?.... Well, all I can say is that I understand it today more than ever…..

Hi, my name is Liz and even though I have wanted to do this GoFundMe for my friend Vicky over a year ago I couldn’t because she begged me not to, all she ever would say is “I Got This”, I can do this, and I will get out of this. She was always so embarrassed to ask for help, even if it was me doing it. It’s been now over 3 years that she has been saying this and I feel she is at her last rope of hope and if we don’t help her now, I don’t know what will happen and it breaks my heart to see what she is going thru with her health and her financial situation. Mind you Vicky has been one of the few people I know that always was there to help others way before herself. I remember her birthdays were done in a hall to be able to invite many people and she would ask us ALL to not buy her anything; to please bring one unwrapped gift for a child and she would every year take all these gifts to St Jude for all the sick kids in the hospital for the month of December since her birthday is 12/11. She is the most humble, compassionate, and caring person I know so yes when I think of my faith and think of life, it kills me to understand why her ☹

This is a true plea for help for my very good dear friend whom I LOVE like a sister and has now been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and to top it off also Lupus just a few weeks ago. Vicky is a 58-year-old single strong headed woman that never married or had kids of her own. She worked over 20+ years for FedEx and was one heck of a good employee as all her bosses and coworkers loved her so much. She loved her job so much that I always said she became a workaholic because she never stopped working and did it with her heart as it made her happy all the time. Sadly, I truly believe that between her job and always helping others, she kind of forgot about herself and left her health for last. For her it was all about helping others, she had to see her mother go through rough times with her health and sadly see her past away while she cared for her. As her mother passed, she was left to care for her only sibling who is not only very sick as well but recently had to see him lose a leg and since he has no insurance, it’s been a great burden in their home to care for him when she needs help herself. Vicky is one of the bravest and strongest woman Ive known as she will always have a smile on her face even when she is awfully sick and truly believes in miracles as she repeats over and over that she will beat this cancer and cancer will not beat her. But lets be real here, no matter how positive & strong she is, she is truly sick and though she is the sick one, she cares for herself till today and for her brother as she feeds him and makes sure he gets the medical needs he has to have. The struggle is not easy and I see it getting harder as time goes by so I can truly say that today its real tough on her even if she says its ok.

In August of 2019 Vicky's blood work came back with her blood cells all out of balance. She then had a CT scan where they found the first mass, she then had a biopsy and that’s when they confirmed that the mass they found in one breast was cancer. Though it was scary, Vicky stayed positive and strong because she has always said cancer would not get the best of her. On December 3, 2019, she had her first surgery to remove not one but both breast (double vasectomy) as doctors advised that it would be safer if she did both. After this surgery, not too long after I truly believe they made a big mistake by placing two breast implants on her without even Radiation first and the worst, without waiting enough time. Since doctor said it was ok for implants, she went ahead and had them done since it was very hard as a woman to be left without them (I’m sure you woman would understand)-BIG MISTAKE. Not long after that she caught a very toxic infection on one implant and due to this infection, she was diagnosed with MERSA. Ever since that she continues getting toxic infections in her blood causing her crucial pain all over her body that takes her all the time to the hospital. In December 2021 they had to remove both breast implants because the infections would not stop, and she would be more in hospital than home. The amount of doctor visits, hospital stays and tests were out of control. Because of all this going on, she ended up having to leave her job and going on disability which thank God, they approved her. Living on just a disability check was not easy but she made it work month after month. When she was given Medicare, it was another great help but if any of you have been through all this or know someone, then you know its far from being enough. Medicare does not cover all visits, all medications, all treatments and what it does cover has all Copayments which are totally out of hand. With all this said, I have not even mentioned all the days and night throwing up, not being able to get out of bed for even to get herself a cup of water, not being able to cook for herself or medicate herself at times as she practically lives alone and doesn’t like to ask for help. She gets help here and there from me or other few friends that can pass by and help her by taking her to visits, treatments or to get her something to eat. During all this time, I cannot express to you enough of how proud I am of her and how strong of a woman she is. She is the reason today I tell myself that no matter what problems cross my path (which are a lot) I can do this because if she stays as positive as she is with all she has gone thru, there is no reason why I or anyone else cant.

January 2022 she was told the cancer was back in her breast & cervix pelvis. They found many lymph nodes under one arm pit that speeded to her bones. They started her on Chemo again but unfortunately, she would have very bad reactions in which she could not breath and had to be admitted every time to ICU.

Today July 2024, they just found another mass on her left ovary so here we go with more CT scan (when the money is available) and more tests to see what is going on with that mass as well. Now what? Where is she headed now? I know she still has a long road to many therapies, many tests, more surgery’s, she will continue needing many drugs but all this have copays and some not covered. How does she pay for these tests, how does she cover the copay of the treatments she has to continue? I hate that she waited till now to let me do this but like they say, better later then never right? I feel that if she was to get just $5.00 from everyone I know and everyone she knows and the people that know the ones we know and the people that don’t even know her but find it in their hearts to help if they can, well then I know she could un-stress herself from wondering every day where she will get the next copayment money from.

With all this said, there’s a message my loving Vicky asked me to please not leave out. She wanted to express to all reading this message to PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE put your health first, second and third. She says no matter how much you love your job, your hobbies, and your family, you need to make sure you see yourself with a doctor every year and follow instructions without leaving it for later. She knows if she would have not put her job and others before her health, she would not have gone through half what she has and as much as she would love to take time back, she can’t. She also wants you to know that while she is still kicking it, she will continue being here for who needs her, old friends, present friends, and new friends.

My intent with this GOFUNDME is only to try to get her financial help to help her fight this horrible cancer to go from stage 4 to a survivor like others have with the treatments and hope. Please I beg you from the bottom of my crying heart to find it in your heart to help me help her financially and most of all PRAYERS.