We are Bob's twin daughters. We live in Northwest Arkansas with our Nanny and Poppa; our other Grandma has created this campaign [with our permission] for the saving of our dad, Bob McMullan.
Before we get into the story of dad's addiction, we want to share a bit about our dad as a person. Dad is a nice guy,, quick-witted, and well-mannered. He is smart, has a drool sense of humor [at least to us], he's a good, hard worker, kindhearted, someone you'd be happy to claim as a friend; he's had his share of hard-knocks though, when he was 13 his oldest brother died by suicide. That hurt him deeply and he didn't speak about for a long time, and still holds it inside, rather than talk about his feelings. Grandma knows what we're talking about, and possibly some of you do too.
Now, right now, he is in jail for using, possession and carrying drugs, so for about 2 1/2 months now he has been going through the pain and sickness of withdrawal without the benefit of a doctor's help! When you have taken large quantities of drugs all at the same time, it does something nasty to your brain. You 'go crazy..." Words come out of your mouth weird and scrambled. It is hard to tell when he's telling the truth and when he is lying. because drug addicts do tell lies,. And steal. This is not our dad when he does these things, he was never like that before.
To our knowledge he has only been doing drugs for 31/2 - 4 years, or since he got fired from his place of employment [they had random drug tests all the time and not just the 'pee in a cup' variety]. No, he was not let go because of that, thank God!
Neither we, nor grandma or nanny, know exactly what drugs he has tried, but we do know it began with prescription pain killers, gotten from his doctor. When they lost their effectiveness, he went back and got a stronger prescription, and then a different prescription, and another, etc.. Doctor never asked for the remaining pills to be brought back. He began trading and selling his, buying others, eventually ended up many times in trouble with the Law. It got to the place where he couldn't get through the day without taking something.
We don't know for sure about heroin, meth or cocaine, but we do know he liquefied some of his meds and used needles to inject it into himself, found the equipment to do it in the bathroom of our home, before we lost it to foreclosure. Dad never intended, however, to become a drug addict when he used the medication given to him by his doctor the first time.. Addiiction is a progressive, life-threatening process. Use, abuse, dependence, and obviously the doctor did not understand either because he/she continued to give him pain killers in higher doses.
We love dad, and he has always loved us, been there for us. He says he feels like nobody loves him, nobody cares. We do; We are afraid for him in the state he is in right now. He NEEDS to be in rehab, won't you please help?
Grandma has read everything she can lay her hands on about addiction and substance abuse, she has even joined a support group The Addict's Mom , because she's afraid dad will end up as just another statistic! and none of us want that.
She has found one rehab in Northwest Arkansas. It will cost several thousand dollars, we really do not have any money for it and don't know where we can borrow from, both sets of grandparents are old or don't have a super job to cover a loan/expenses. That is the reason for this campaign, our dad needs rehabilitation, but we are out of money. This gofundme campaign has raised $1830.00 so far. The goal of this campaign will be put towards a minimum of 6 [maybe 7] months in rehab, as well as a psychological evaluation and treatment. And if by chance it is able to surpass the goal it will supply Bob with additional months in rehab. Most doctors say at least 6 months is best.
Dad is no longer a healthy person, not physically or mentally, the stress and pain have broken him. We don't want to lose our dad. Please, PLEASE, help us help him KICK ADDICTION IN THE BOOTY!!! Offer our Dad (Bob) a second chance, a "hand up" and donate to his cause!
We sincerely appreciate gifts in any amount that will work towards getting our dad the help he so desperately needs.
Thank you, Amaris, Abby, and Grandma
Our younger years.
"Every day the probation of some is closing. every hour some are passing beyond the reach of mercy. Where are the hands stretched out to draw them back from death? Where are those with humility and persevering faith, pleading with our heavenly Father for them?" ~ PP 140.