I come to you humbled and needing help with my HVAC system. Some backstory. When I remarried in 2019, I thought I had found the man who would build a life with me, instead my life turned into a living nightmare. I began the marriage quitting a very stressful job to become a stay at home mom for my children and help him run his expanding trucking business. For the first six months of our marriage, everything was going extremely well. When Covid happened and he had to stop working, the nightmare began. The verbal, mental and emotional abuse started at this time. It started small where I would pass it off as him just being stressed. His spending kept going, even though we didn’t have money coming in. He slowly started back to work, so I dipped into my 401K to get us caught up. When the turbo on his semi-truck blew up, I found out the money he said was in his business account was no longer there and it couldn’t be fixed. Then the company he was working for went bankrupt and with it the contract went as well. Instead of getting another contract, he chose to work locally making much less. Money kept getting spent that I needed for bills. I tried multiple times to talk to him about me going back to work, which resulted in the abuse escalating and me being isolated from friends and family. I lived in constant fear of what he would do and tried to do anything I could for the abuse not to get worse and spill over to my kids. Throughout the years he gaslighted me to believe that given my current medical condition I couldn’t think clearly and was unable to hold down a job because of it. Over the course of the marriage, I had to continually dip into my 401(k) to save the house from foreclosure, pay utilities and taxes, buy food and the necessities to live. With the continued abuse and financial stress, I started having suicidal thoughts. Thankfully, God provided two dear people in my life that really dove in to help me get past these thoughts. My faith strengthened and I began to find my worth again. Once the 401(k) was basically out and I overheard my husband state he missed killing people like he did in the military, I knew I had to find a way to get out. I applied for jobs but I hid it for fear of what would happen. When my ex-husband found out, he went ballistic. He threatened to leave for the sixth time in our marriage since he knew I didn’t have money. I finally had the courage to say we needed the separation and I later asked for a divorce. By this time, I had multiple court cases against me for having to run up the cards to survive and not be berated and blamed when I asked for money for bills. The 401k was completely gone after I paid them off to start over. What I thought would be a new beginning, ended up dragging out into a year and a half of divorce proceedings because he wouldn’t concede to the divorce. I worked for a neighbor, as well as a full time job and sold everything I could from jewelry, to shoes and clothes to try to raise money to get divorced from him. And where I was able to raise around half of it, the rest had to go on credit cards.

During this time in May 2025, the compressor on my heat pump went out. My two children and I have been without air-conditioning and adequate heat since then because I can’t afford to replace it. I have been using space heaters in addition to the very old electric furnace to try to keep the house warm and my electric bill has been averaging $500-600 a month. Without the space heaters on the cold days, the house was only at 45°. With the space heaters, we keep it around 60 to 65. In the summertime temperatures in the house climbed to 98°. Multiple times, I almost passed out cooking supper from the heat. Additionally, the ductwork in my attic is collapsing because it is the flexible tubing and not metal ductwork. This is where I’m asking for your help. I have tried going to the bank who has denied me a loan because of the financial situation I am in. I have a job but it barely sustains us with the debt I have hanging over me. I just make over the limit to qualify for the HVAC program through the state. I have tried every way that I can think of, and I’m coming to you to ask for your help in the situation. I would be so grateful for whatever you can do. And if you feel compelled to repost this to your account to help me, I would greatly appreciate it.

I have not been living vicariously and am trying to get my feet back under me the best I can. I drive a 22 year old car that needs work. I am trying to sell what I have left that is worth anything. I’m making small progress but I have the huge weight of my HVAC system on my back and even with my best efforts I won’t be able to come up with the money on my own.

The money I am trying to raise will go for a new system for my home since my other one is too old to be compatible with a new heat pump. I also need to replace the ductwork in my house so that it will function properly. Insulation needs to be resprayed. My brother has graciously agreed to help me install the system to help me save money. If I should be so lucky to raise more than I’m asking for, it will go to fixing the other issues which include mold growing in my bathroom and addressing my vehicle situation.

I can’t thank you enough for not only taking the time to read this, but in giving to this cause to help me be able to comfortably live in my own home again. I am slowly healing from all the abuse and hope to one day feel like myself again. Thank you to everyone who has helped me on this journey. I can never express my love for you enough!