Well, hi there, friends and fam and those in Facebook land! It HAS been a while since I’ve left any personal posts. It seems actually bizarre to me it has been about six years since I was active on Facebook. Many of you are aware that I was married on Veteran’s Day, 2019! Shortly after I remarried, I realized I probably was not going to be able to be active on Facebook anymore. This was due to the fact that I realized on my honeymoon, I had made a very bad decision. I never should’ve married the person I married. I was really scared to be honest about the situation I had married into. I don’t know why I was embarrassed about it. I was embarrassed that I was married to someone who acted the way that he did. Psychologically, I took a hit. And in other instances: well, there were moments my kids had to intervene on my behalf due to abuse situations.

I was afraid to post anything on Facebook—or any social media—because of what that would mean for me in private. And, also because I knew it would cause so many problems that could potentially overflow into public life. My kids even came to me and told me I should leave. I am not a quitter! I could see our current state of affairs wasn’t healthy—but—I know God hates divorce. I hate divorce. I kept praying—but God loves us too much for us to be treated this way. And, He provided me with a biblical out—very much so.

In the years that have gone by, the kids and I have experienced a lot of trauma. You name it. When I think about the person we endured, I feel guilty about that. It was my choice to get married to that man. I was deceived. This person came to our little town in eastern Washington, outta nowhere—as a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I have learned in therapy that there is a name for this kind of person: a narcissist. He is the classic definition and I couldn’t feel more sorry for his prior wives and children. I was so deceived. And I am concerned because I know that other women in his life are currently being deceived and will continue to be deceived too.

I must say, there is a current pending lawsuit between us; I am being mindful right now of what I write. That said, I am aware that my ex-husband’s family is on my friend list here and they can see what I’m writing right now. I have no shame about sharing our current state of affairs; I think it’s good for his family to be aware. This person has tried to ruin not just my life, but also my kids' lives. We have truly endured some things. The worst part? His family had his pastor brother from another country come and vet me to make sure I was a decent person. They all know what kind of a person he is. I should’ve been warned! Ugh. I was getting along as a single mom okay with the kids in Washington when I met him. I’m seemingly worse off now than I’ve ever been.

Currently, though, we have an emergency! My daughter and I are homeless. We just checked into a hotel. We were evicted from our home last night, and we have nowhere to go. What is even crazier is that I don’t even have a car to drive. My car (paid off) was totaled at the end of this summer. The check for my car came quick, but unfortunately, it was forwarded to the wrong address, and it went to my ex. My ex took the money and used it to start a Med Spa. He works a full-time job and started a new business. My ex stopped paying court-ordered alimony last year. Since last January, I have done nothing but advocate for the kids and I have been begging and borrowing money, trying to find ways to pay our bills without alimony and child support. The kids' dad also quit paying child support, too. I have had zero income and I have done everything I can to try to keep things afloat. I can’t do it anymore. We lived without electricity from November to the end of December. It was really cold in our house, and we became really creative to keep warm and keep going! Because of a generous donation from our church, we were finally able to get our power turned back on. We lost access to running water this last summer. We didn’t have running water in our house for a month. Anna and I were showering at a public community center we walked to, using the swimming pool water to flush toilets. I asked for help CONTINUOUSLY from my ex—there was no help to be had.

I have had to have 3 reconstructive shoulder surgeries in the last 20 months: Nov. 2023, July 2024, March 2025. They say this is the most painful surgery you can recover from. And, it’s a very lengthy recovery, nine months. I just had my third shoulder surgery last March 2025. Many of you remember I broke my neck in 2019 and had to have ACDF surgery. Well, I have degenerative disc disease and psoriatic arthritis. My lower back has now begun to disintegrate—I need to have surgery really soon. I’m scared about that. I have a large cyst full of synovial fluid (spinal cord fluid) currently sitting on my sacrum. It’s leaking due to the bone spurs and fragments which have punctured my spinal cord. That makes it really hard to sit and lie down. Think sciatica. From my right booty cheek down my leg and out my foot. I already know they’re going to need to use cadaver discs and fuse things together. My pre-op appointment is next week. Ugh.

A few of you might remember I broke my foot before I moved to Arizona, kickboxing! That foot surgery to fuse my foot back together has been put off three times because of my shoulder surgery. And now it will be put off again because I’m about to have surgery on my low back.

And, we are homeless. Isn’t that crazy? I’ll bet anyone of you reading this would never expect that I would write these words. I never thought I’d write those words! Everything we own is locked in the house that we can’t get inside of. My gosh, even my purse is locked inside right now.

In the meantime, I have also been fundraising for my attorney fees. I’m fortunate to have come this far, but I am needing to raise money to help us get on our feet and continue moving forward to enforce both of my ex-husbands to pay what they need to pay! Gosh, it’s so upsetting.

Can you guys please help my kids and I? Anything is appreciated.