Help us keep our new life after leaving an abusive situation

Well, you guys really came out of the wood work to get the tea... So here it is.

Tl;Dr: I was in a 20 year relationship with a groomer/pedophile abuser. He's potentially about to be incarcerated for soliciting and trying to rape a 12 year old but was thankfully caught in a government sting. This leaves myself and our 15 old, void of getting support money from him, our only income as I'm disabled. Please help us so he doesn't ruin our lives again. I'm working on disability but we desperately will need help for the incoming couple of months. I assure anyone who helps that we will never be going back.

The long version: I'll start from the beginning, which I've heard is the very best place to start

I was the first victim that I know of. He was my manager at my very first ever job. I was freshly 16, he was turning 21, living with a girlfriend of 2 years, one that I didn't find out about for 6 months. He became not only my manager, but my very first real boyfriend. I was elated. I felt special. I felt like I had found my person, my other half, my best friend forever. I was actually being groomed and didn't find out or understand or accept this for nearly two decades.

Fast forward. We got married. We had a kid. We rented some apartments. We bought a house. A adopted a dog and some cats. I cyber schooled our child. I got sick. Then I got sicker. Now I'm fully disabled and waiting on disability.

He went through periods of nice and mean. Of being present and being gone. I suffered a kidnapping/being held hostage situation at his hands. I've suffered countless broken bones. I've been financially abused. I've been put unconscious more times than I could count.

But I got out. I got a 3 year (the max my county offers) restraining order (our child was covered under this). I won full legal and physical custody of our kid. I won. He dated someone else. She also has a maximum restraining order against him. My order faded after 3 years. He reoffended less than 6 months later by trying to punch me in the face, choking me against a wall in front of my mother, etc. I got her ANOTHER maximum restraining order against him that also covers our child.

Well, this year he decided to continue to try to destroy the life I'm building for myself and my 15 year old. He called child services in me, which was deemed a fake report. He called welfare on me to try to get the little amount of food stamps and insurance I get, taken from myself and our child. This was also deemed a fake report. He called the police on me for fake "welfare checks". Again. To keep tabs on me. These were deemed fake reports. He tried to sue me for all the child and spousal support he's ever had to pay me (and by pay me, the courts actually garnish his wages because he admitted that he wouldn't ever actually pay me). We survived in those payments. He destroyed my credit and continues to take loans out in my name. I barely got utilities on in my home because he ran up so much debt under my name that I was unaware of (this is the financial abuse. I didn't even know what our income was). I currently have a broken pelvis and my hip has been broken since 2020, a broken tailbone and several compression fractures in my spine. I need several upcoming surgies. I have an autoimmune disorder, asthma, and recurring infections which have turned septic no less than 20 times. I need to keep my insurance.

Now he's gone and gotten himself caught up in a government sting operation for soliciting a 12 year old girl for sex via her "mother". He has 6 felony charges up against him, several at the highest level. He is currently incarcerated and was denied bail twice.

I don't like asking for help but obviously he won't be able to pay my support from jail. Please help if you are able. He doesn't get to keep taking and taking from myself and my kid. It's not okay. We need the help as much as I hate asking for it. I've spent the last few years rebuilding my credit. I need help until my disability application gets approved, which I have been working on for months. I can't let my kid lose another home. I can't keep letting my ex win.

I'm told that I'm a fighter. I'm a warrior. I am not any of these things. I'm doing what ever it takes to give my wonderful amazing child a life. We are now dealing with this pedophile rape situation. We are both in need of severe counseling for the past two decades. We have both been diagnosed with anxiety, PTSD, amongst other things. We both flinch when there is a knock at the door. The only loud noises in our home over the past few years have been laughter. I've been trying to hard to build a new, safe life for us. Please please if you can find it in your heart to donate, share, like, reach out, I would appreciate it so much. I'm going to keep applying for all programs and help available but unfortunately there isn't a lot out there right now. I'm still trying every day from the time I get up until those organizations turn off their phones for the evening. I just want to keep building a better life for us and the next step in that is keeping up with my bills just until I can get my disability. If you've read this entire thing. Thank you and you're a gem. Any help is so so so appreciated. I can provide links to the news articles but they're all very public information and easily found, as are the court dockets.

You can't possibly know how embarrassed I am. How hurt I am. The person I knew for 20 years of my 36 years life, someone I thought was my best friend, never was. Was always a complete stranger. I'm just starting to understand my abuse and work through the trauma and the potential of losing my new life is more loss than I can handle. So I'm reaching out to the internet. Please help if you can. Thank you for listening to my story. I'd be glad to fill in any gaps or more questions that you have.

It is so incredibly difficult to get out of a domestic abuse situation, but I finally got free and now I just need help maintaining and building my new life.

cbsnews.com/amp/pittsburgh/news/man-arrested-child-sex-undercover-sting/