A Mother planning her own funeral trying not to be homeless.

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A Mother planning her own funeral trying not to be homeless.

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Update: It's now the end of June and I am in need of a house payment and about $1,000 in other bills. I hurt so much and now the bones in my right foot are broken. I'm about to lose everything and be homeless while I struggle to stay alive. Please consider donating. Even $25 makes a difference. I haven't lost my faith in God and I will continue to fight to my last breath. The tumors in my neck were benign. I have bone marrow cancer but now I have a chance at beating it. ALL of this started with my doctor overdosing me on corticosteroids at a toxic level. Before April 2024 I was healthy and vibrant, full of life.

Update: Now in March 2025 I am still fighting for my life. Still weak and getting weaker by the day. My bones started hurting real bad and my rbc has been abnormally high along with my hct count. My inflammatory markers have never been higher along with my wbc and Neutrophils. 2 weeks ago my endocrinologist said my neck looked swollen so lets do an ultrasound. He found I have 7 large tumors in my thyroid and lymph nodes. Last week I had bone marrow removed and tested to confirm bone marrow cancer spreading throughout my body at a rapid pace. I am now planning my funeral, finalizing my will and writing my obituary. I dont have any family to say goodbye to, just my beautiful daughter that has made me so proud!

My Waupaca County case worker knows and the disability specialist Tanya who is assigned to my case yet I still in a whole year have not seen one penny of disability pay, nor have I worked either full time or part time. I have sold my camper, patio furniture, refrigerator, stove, etc. to keep a roof over my head this long but in 15 days they are shutting my utilities off due to a $701 bill. I need some financial help while I am still alive. Please. I have fought this entire year so hard to not be homeless. They repo'd my vehicle. I live in the middle of nowhere. I cant even get to my hemotology and oncology appts. I have less than $10.00 to my name right now.

I may live a few more months. Please help me keep the roof over my head at least. Every bone and joint in my body hurts relentlessly. I cant even get an at home helper or low income housing until they officially determine me disabled. I'm dying. I'm beyond disabled and I need immediate financial help.


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I need to share my heart ♥️ with you all. I am a 46 year old single Mom to a beautiful college grad daughter. She and my faith in God are the reason I fight to live. I raised her completely on my own and she is my whole world!

The 1st half of last year (2024) had been spent helping and supporting my mother and "other" mother. My mother has tumors on her brain and pancreas and I have been trying to build the relationship I never had with her. She doesn't have much time left. My other mother whom adopted me as an adult, who I also love very much passed in early May of another type of cancer. My dog of 17 years passed away just after Valentine's Day and my best friend since 5th grade passed away unexpectedly in March 2024. I am still grieving and healing.

On top of my exhaustion and broken heart, I faced my own untimely health battle that started in the beginning of May 2024. The last week in April 2024 I went to my doctor for what I had become to know as mu routine cortisone shots in my shoulders, hips and both feet, given every 3 months for the last several years. What the doctor didn't tell me is my body would build up a resistance to all the steroids and stop making my own cortisol which is exactly what happened. 3 days after my injections my adrenal glands completely shut down and I was hospitalized for several weeks fighting for my life in full adrenal failure.

My heart rate was well over 135, my blood pressure was in the 200's despite a huge new regimen of meds, my body filled with about 28 lbs of excess fluid, in my face, limbs, abdomen, and feet. I was moved to several different hospitals and misdiagnosed with Addisons disease, sent home on even more steroids and that made me an immediate type 2 diabetic for the 1st time in my life. I was home for 4 days, went back into Adrenal Crisis, became sepsis and was transferred to several more hospitals for testing and workups. Every doctor that saw me could not believe I had been given so many injections every 3 months for the last 2 years.

Being in the hospital fighting for my life in May, I missed my other mom's funeral on May 11th. I never got to say goodbye. I missed Mother's Day, probably the LAST Mother's Day my birth mother will have. But God spared my life and I am home now. I am extremely weak and tired and hurting. Seeing several endocrinologists and getting 2nd and 3rd opinions I was finally correctly diagnosed with Cushings Disease. I am weaning slowly off of all the steroids and then the doctors are going to try to restart my adrenal glands. They said this is going to be a long painful journey of several years. I cannot go back to work at all. My skin is paper thin and bleeds/bruises easily. My feet are so full of fluid I can hardly walk. My feet and arms are full of painful fluid boils that my body created as ways to rid itself of the excess fluid. My hair is falling out. Every joint and muscle hurts. The boils are rupturing into huge painful sores that wont heal because I have no immune system while in Adrenal Failure. I am also incontinent now. All of this came on so suddenly after my last set of cortisone shots that I had no time to plan ahead financially. I'm only 45. I was working as a chef and my boss fired me the day I got admitted to the first hospital. He said if I wasnt cooking I was dead to him. All these months later he still hasn't paid me my final paycheck. He laughs and said he'll send it when he feels like it. I live alone and my savings account has been exhausted over the months of May June and July. I filed for Disability, but the application says right on it that it isn't reviewed for 6 months. I am only asking for help with that 6 months I will not have income at the benefit rate I qualify for. I also need to hire some outside lawn help, laundry help, etc. I need a wheelchair, shower chair, etc.

I do not drink alcohol, smoke, gamble, take drugs, or go to the nail salon. I stay home all day praying to God to heal me and just trying to survive one more hour, one more day.

It's amazing how much we take for granted. In April I was active and thriving and healthy with a job I hustled at and now after a few cortisone shots n my hips, shoulders and feet I am diabetic, on 20+ pills several times per day to stay alive, completely out of breath after a shower or a walk to the mailbox and still very full of fluid. I trust God has brought me through all of this for a reason and I am definitely a fighter!

Thank you for taking the time to read my story. Thank you for anything that you can donate. Apart we can do so little. Together we can do so much! And when I am better I will pay it forward and donate to others in need.

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Melissa Farvour
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Clintonville, WI
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